Trends may come and trends may go. How does one know what to keep and what to donate? How do you know what is worthy of wardrobe real estate, what should be paced away in the attic, and what should be thrown in a bag for Goodwill?
Here are a few tried and true rules for some of those wardrobe items that may be way past their due date.
What to Toss: Old ratty bras with breaking down elastic, grubby straps, wires poking into your breast bone or arm pit. Bras that are too large, too small, make you too saggy or too conical. Underwear that is stretched out, full of holes, digging into your skin or itchy. Why keep what is unflattering, uncomfortable or gross? You slip on your purse, it grabs your shirt’s neckline and suddenly that dingy dirty white bra strap with the fuzz balls and the safety pin to keep it at the right adjustment is on FULL DISPLAY. Bras are not cheap, but if you wash them correctly, treat them gently and replace them when they or your shape changes, you will never be embarrassed come a car accident or one night stand.
What to Keep: that strapless bra you bought for a bridesmaid dress but doubt you will ever wear again (you probably will, and it doesn’t take up much room), the minimizer, the push up that makes tanks look great, the camisole that came with the sheer shirt you donated to Goodwill, the tank with the built in bra that is a tad revealing. Pretty much keep every camisole you own. If they are in good shape and fit well, there may come a need. The other day I purchased one of the popular lace tops that are everywhere for Spring. It required a camisole, something I do not often wear. Luckily I kept a winter white synthetic camisole with adjustable spaghetti straps that I purchased about ten years ago. Still in great condition, the camisole made the outfit work and I didn’t have to make a mad dash to the shopping mall. Camisoles, specialty bras and control garments may have been worn with the plan to only wear once with that dastardly dress of outfit. However, save your money and store those undergarments – they may be needed again and far better to wear what you own than go through the misery of underthings shopping once again.
What to Toss: Any tarnished or peeling costume jewelry, that one lone earring that has been missing it’s mate for months, the brooch with the missing rhinestone, the costume bracelet with the missing charm and the broken clasp, every rubber ‘save the world” bracelet you have purchased in the past 18 months (that is not jewelry, you can prove your dedication to a charity in much more rewarding ways than a piece of gaudy plastic on your wrist).
What to Keep: Pretty much anything else in your jewelry box. Every time I get rid of a necklace or pin, I find it comes back into fashion less than a decade later. Brooches, large hoops, chunky turquoise rings, charm bracelets, even pop-beads; they all go in and out of favor. Again, store them and save yourself a bunch of dough come when they are back in favor. Wrap in cotton or tissue; costume jewelry store in a Ziploc bag to prevent tarnishing. Before storing, make sure each piece is in working order and in good condition. It would be quite disappointing to open up that box of jewelry, ready to pull out those chandelier earrings to find that one is missing a few beads.
What to Toss: All those oversized tee shirts from every 5K, bar crawl, vacation resort, basketball game and college reunion you have been to. You know you have a huge pile of these, often never worn. They are unflattering, cheesy and useless. They should only be worn to wash the dog, paint the kitchen or clean out the attic. Save your $16 at the next walkathon or better, donate the money directly to the charity you are supporting (or buy a round of beers at that bar crawl!).
What to Keep: Tee shirts from concerts and from momentous occasions (Million Mom March, a tee from the Superbowl signed by a VIP). I regret all the concert tee shirts I had from the 80’s and tossed because I was into different music – they would be so fun to wear now, and to show to my future kids. And the momentous tee shirts – what a great thing to pass down to your kin or in a pinch sell on eBay.
What to Toss: Banana clips, scrunchies, pony tail elastics with gumball plastic doo-hickies on them, the butterfly clips your salon uses to hold back hair, any barrettes with pre-assembled bows glued to it, the extra plastic clips that were meant to hold in your hot rollers but somehow get clipped to your purse or your drive shaft and go in your hair at the grocery store and the elastic around the Sunday Edition that somehow got on your wrist and then in your hair as you were cooking dinner.
What to Keep: Three hair clips – the small claw types in tortoise or black – one for the car, one for the gym, one for the home. If your hair is that unruly where you need a clip on a daily basis, then you need a new haircut. You can also keep any decorative barrettes and clips (think rhinestones, jet beading, delicate jewelry for the hair), accordion headbands, leather, enamel, wood and tortoiseshell hair accessories in good shape (clips, chopsticks, barrettes, headbands), and covered elastic “ouchless” bands made specifically for hair. Your hair is your best accessory, covering it in ratty scarves, dated clips and cheesy barrettes do not do it or you justice. A great outfit can be ruined by a scrunchie. Did you ever see the SITC episode where Carrie says she can tell a person is a tourist by wearing a scrunchie? Think about it. You never see a celebrity, a society person, a stylish woman on the street with a scrunchie or a bow barrette.
What to Toss: Those stinky leather pumps with the peeling sole, chunky heel and the dowdy toe box. Ratty tennis shoes that cannot be cleaned no matter how many times they take a trip in the washer, any pleather shoes more than a year old, jelly sandals, the super duper stacked flip flops, any shoe that is too big, too small, too damaged or too uncomfortable to get any wear.
What to Keep: The shoes you love except for the broken buckle, the worn heel, the thin soles. These things can easily be mended by a cobbler, and there is usually a shoe repair shop in many larger shopping malls and train stations. If you love the shoes, and the shoes love you back, baby them. Shoes are worth the price if you get them reheeled and resoled each season, store shoes with trees and stuff tall boots with paper in the off-season. If wedges, stilettos, chunky heels, flats, pointy or round toes are out of fashion, there’s a good chance they’ll come back in style. If you love them and they are in great shape, hold on to them. If they aren’t back in fashion after five years, you then can consider donating them.
What to Toss: Jeans that are white washed, tapered, pleated, torn (and not in the hipster Abecrombie way, in the old jeans that fell apart way or snagged on a rusty nail way), at or above your ankle bone, have a zipper on the ankle, have lace cut outs down the thigh or any other weird overly decorative design, jeans that have a missing button, a broken zipper, a hole or patch in the bum or crotch. Jeans that originally belonged to your husband but you took as your own so you’d have something to wear, jeans that cut you in the stomach so you take them off and are covered with big red welts on your tummy, jeans so low rise or loose that your underwear is always showing, and any jeans with the logo Chic! Or Bongo or Gloria Vanderbilt in a prominent location.
What to Keep: Your Levi’s 501’s that you have had for twelve years. Those suckers will never go out of style. Dark denim in a flattering cut. Boot cut jeans – they may not be super popular now, but they are almost always flattering. Jeans that make your ass look amazing – even if they are purple denim or with feathers on the trim – if the look comes back you are armed with a flattering pair. Save the jeans that make you look and feel good, not just one or the other. So often we settle for a mediocre pair that is not flattering, well cut or comfortable. When you find a gem, hold on to them. Jeans will last longer when not put in the dryer, and embellishments will look newer longer if the jean is dry cleaned or washed in the gentle cycle inside-out.
What to Toss: Socks with holes in the toes, threadbare heels, faded so more green that black. Stockings with an unnatural “nude” color and an unnatural sheen. While on the subject of stockings, toss the white ones too. Scrap all the little black anklets and any socks that are so tight at the top they leave red marks on your ankles at the end of the day.
What to Keep: Fishnets, textured and patterned hose. If they are not in now, they will come back. I have several pairs of fishnets that I have had over a decade – I pull them out when the fashion (or my spirit) dictates it is right. Keep trouser and regular socks that are in good working order (they match, they are in good shape, they fit). If you wear socks with pants, make sure they compliment the pants and shoe, and make sure that even when you cross your legs, you don’t see skin. Fun and silly socks are for casual occasions, and white socks are never appropriate for any situation that is not athletic.