July 30, 2007

Monday

Black cotton wrap shirt from Ann Taylor, white ribbed tank from Old Navy, tan stretch poplin trousers from Caslon, black leather thong heels from Mossimo, silver cuff.

Hair is second day, gently brushed out with wood-bristle padded brush.

Makeup is L'Oreal true Match concealer in W4-5, Cargo Matte Beach blush in Tenerife, same shadow combo as worn the past two days, Max Factor Lash Perfection in black, Revlon Super Lustrous Lip Gloss in Pink Afterglow.

Not sure why, but my husband and I both woke up today with terrible allergies - coughing, sneezing and feeling just a bit icky. It's rainy out and there's no point to even attempt to do my hair.

I am loving this Jonathan Dirt because unlike many other products, my hair isn't all greasy second-day. It seems to be absorbed into the hair, leaving the hair healthy and shiny, but not icky, sticky or greasy. The slimy bangs of last night are completely gone and my hair looks fresh (though not well brushed or styled) today. Good stuff!

Sunday

Had dinner at my mom's house; it was me and my husband, my sister, my aunt, two cousins and the date of one of my cousins. Casual affair and i was running terribly late so got ready in about three minutes.

Black walking shorts from Gap outlet, white ribbed tank from Old Navy, black tissue-weight merino boatneck sweater from J. Crew, black "Sandy" flops from Reef, silver cuff, silver hoops from the Icing.

Hair was washed and conditioned, a bit of Jonathan Silky Dirt applied while wet and allowed to air dry. bit more Silky Dirt twisted around sections once dry. Hit the bangs a bit too hard with the Silky Dirt so last-second ended up holding them back with a barrette.

Makeup is L'Oreal True Match concealer in W4-5, Cargo Matte Beach blush in Tenerife, the same shadow combo from the Pop Beauty eyeshadow combo, Max Factor Lash Perfection in black, Revlon Super Lustrous Lip Gloss in Pink Afterglow.

Saturday

We had a wedding to photograph - well my husband and father-in-law do the photography, I do the coordination.

Chose to wear my red dress from Maggy London because I would be easy to find in the crowd, I wouldn't get wrinkled, would stay cool and had pockets to hold my cell and business cards. I wore my black Reef flops when at the house helping the bride get ready, then changed to my black croco peeptoe heels from BCBGirls for the ceremony and reception. Gold bangles from Ralph Lauren.

Hair is second day, Jonathan Silky Dirt on hands and sections of hair twisted, then a curling iron to unruly pieces. Bangs straightened slightly with curling iron.

Makeup is Smashbox Photo Finish foundation primer, L'Oreal True Match concealer in W4-5, Bare Escentuals mineral foundation in Fairly Light, Urban Decay Primer Potion, Cargo Matte Beach blush in Tenerife, Pop Beauty shadow set for brown eyes - vibrant yellow over whole lid, medium brown in crease and along lash lines, then the soft black along the top lash line. Lashes curled and two coats of max Factor Lash Perfection in black, lips is Body Shop Lip and Cheek stain with Revlon Super Lustrous Lip gloss in Pink Afterglow over it.

July 27, 2007

Friday


Ivory and red print synthetic jersey dress from eci. Faux wrap with separate self-belt. Ivory synthetic camisole from New York & Company. Black leather thong heels from Mossimo, silver cuff bracelet.

Hair is washed and conditioned, then a pea-sized amount of Jonathan Silky Dirt applied while wet. I then twisted sections and tucked into the diffuser on my hair dryer to let dry about 90% and then let it air dry the rest of the way. Used a curling iron on a few unruly pieces and to even out the bangs. Should have used a bit more Silky Dirt when dry but was running late - think it would have tamed the frizziness and added definition to the bangs.

Makeup is L'Oreal True Match concealer in W4-5 under eyes, around nose and mouth. Chanel pressed powder in Nautral lightly applied to set the face. On cheeks is Cargo Matte Beach blush in Tenerife. Eyes is Pop Beauty Eye Class for brown eyes - neutral apricot over entire lid, russet rose sheen along lower lash line and in crease, cranberry along top lash line. Lashes curled, two coats of Max Factor Lash Perfection in black. On lips is Body Shop Liquid Lip Color in Sparkling Pink.

New makeup! I went to Sephora with the beautiful and talented Toya. She gave me the grand tour of the shop, telling me which products and brands she really likes. I bought things I normally would not purchase (such as this shadow duo) and actually like it. The Pop Beauty shadow collection is NOT my normal cup of tea - would never think I could wear such colors but they are surprisingly flattering (though think the cranberry would probably be better farther from my actual eye - a bit too red for my skintone and for daytime. But the other colors are pretty and they seem to last quite well.

New clothing! This is why I do NOT go into malls on a regular basis any more. Nordstrom was having their Anniversary Sale and I went into the petites section because I had a few minutes before I met Toya (and her utterly charming daughter). Found this dress on sale and thought it was tres cute and girly. Then did some damage at Sephora as you can see (yes, also got the Silky Dirt... I believe it was Shell who recommended it? Well the salesperson also raved about it so decided to try it and like it very much thus far!). I then planned on leaving the mall, but stopped by to visit my friend who works for Ann Taylor and left with two shirts (you shall see them probably next week). Had a 15% coupon so not as awful, but I still felt guilty for spending so much. Finally I stopped off in New York & Company for a cami to go under the dress for work (for play I think it will be fine with a strategically placed safety pin) and found this cami on sale over 50% off and other insane sales. Was strong and left with just this one item, but if you are looking for some staples (less than $10 for this heavyweight, shelf-bra cami with adjustable straps - a few other basic colors available) or fun stuff (lady in line in front of me bought a pair of nice looking jeans for $5.99!) you should stop by your closest location.

July 26, 2007

Thursday

White stretch poplin trousers from Caslon, orange-red silk knit tank from Banana Republic, black ponte de Roma jacket from Banana Republic Outlet, leopard peeptoe heels from BGBGirls, silver cuff.

Hair is second day, random pieces blown out with dryer and round brush. Didn't try to do more because of the humidity.

Makeup is L'Oreal true match concealer in W4-5, L'Oreal true Match foundation in C3, Nars blush in Orgasm on apples of cheeks, some Body Shop Brush on Bronze across face. Revlon ColorStay shadow quad in Neutral khakis - khaki on lids, chocolate in crease and along lash lines. Max Factor's Lash Perfection in black on curled lashes. On lips is Revlon Super Lustrous Lip Gloss in Pink Afterglow with The Body Shop's Sheer Lipcolor in Sheer Caramel over it.

July 25, 2007

Allie's Mailbag

As I have done before, I will take a few questions people have put in search engines that had them end up visiting my site, or women who have emailed me directly for advice. If one woman had this question, there is a good chance that several more of you have had the very same question.

How to Wear Underwear and Not Have VPL?
The dreaded Visible Panty Line. This is something I am asked over and over again so I decided to survey readers on my other blog for what they have found successful:

  • For full bottoms: microfiber hipsters (found at Target and via the brand St. Eve)
  • For curvy frames: thongs by Hanky Panky, thongs, lowrise hiphuggers and bikinis by Body By Victoria/Victoria’s Secret, Gillian and O’Malley lace hipster panties (from Target), Victoria’s Secret Angels Wide Side Bikini, cotton and lace bikinis from Lands End
  • Athletic Build: Lowrise briefs, especially in microfiber fabric, tanga-style seamless panties, high-rise boy shorts, thongs from Frederick’s of Hollywood, microfiber panties from Gillian and O’Malley
  • Slim lower half: Mesh briefs (found at Old Navy), Hanky Panky thongs
  • Average build: high-rise boyshorts, microfiber lowrise briefs, briefs from Calvin Klein’s Almost Naked line, Hanky Panky thongs, Body Veil panties by Vera Wang, bikinis by Patagonia

So it seems that boyshorts work best on athletic or average frames, bikinis and lowrise styles of briefs and hipsters for fuller bottoms, and thongs are great for all – the Hanky Panky brand (and supposedly a great alternative at Target) noted as by far the most comfortable thong. Microfiber undies seem to be the most invisible under garments.

How Not to See Through a White Shirt?

  1. Wear a bra the color of your skin, not the color of the shirt
  2. Before you even try on the bra, put your hand under the shirt.Can you see your knuckle wrinkles?Your fingernails?If so, don’t even try on the shirt.It’s not worth your time.
  3. Consider white shirts with a hint of lycra.Not sure why, but this usually makes the white a bit more opaque.
  4. If you already own the shirt, consider one of those second-skin camisoles in a color near your body color.No one will see your bra, your belly button but it won’t be obvious that you are wearing a cami.

What is a Good Wardrobe for a Salesperson?
Well, one would probably want to narrow this down because your wardrobe is dictated by what you sell. I used to work at a construction firm, the salespeople wore lots of chinos and oxfords or polos with the company’s logo embroidered on the chest. In my current field (consulting), depending on what field our client is in, salespeople dress in conservative pantsuits, or chinos with embroidered oxfords.

When I worked as a salesperson in a store, I found I received more respect and seemed to have more authority when I dressed up. Matte jersey, crepe and Ponte de Roma knit all wear well, hold their shape, wash well and don’t wrinkle. I had suits and dresses in all these fabrics and could look sophisticated, successful, and still be able to break down a shipment box in five seconds flat or scramble up a 12’ ladder to grab the last pair of size 6 jeans. Black is always a great color – you don’t take attention from the item you are selling, it works all seasons, it’s less obvious when you wear it repeatedly, and hides stains. I chose classic styles of pantsuits and jazzed them up with brooches, shoes and cosmetics. Remember, you are selling the product, not yourself. Your goal is to look confident, successful, comfortable and in charge. Nothing binding, too avant garde (unless you work for a very creative firm), easily wrinkled or overly trendy. Nothing is worse than having to replace your expensive suits every two months due to a change on the runways. It’s far cheaper to change the shoes, the lipcolor or the jewelery.

I’m Petite, How Many Buttons Should Be on My Blazer?
Well, it depends on the rest of your body. A one-button blazer nips in at the waist and adds curves to a straight figure. Two buttons don’t seem to be as common as they were in the past – this often is seen on a boxier style of jacket that is only good on a petite frame if it is a cropped style. Three buttons is usually a good number for everyone; if the jacket is cut petite, the first button should be around bust level, the last button around your lower stomach/hip bones. More buttons, and it may make your legs look very short.

Where Can I Find Classy Brown Sandals?
Isn’t it crazy that it’s so hard to find nice brown sandals? I do find that often they are overly embellished, overly strappy and a tad tartish, or else dowdy. I also find brown is sometimes too heavy of a color for a chunky sandal (yes, somehow it works better in black) and often opt for tan as that it dresses up more easily, is more graceful, and blends with black and other shades far better than a basic brown. Here’s a few I liked that I found when quickly surfing some of my favorite sites…

These Nicole Jody sandals found on sale at Piperlime have lift without being too extreme (and is a good height for capris, skirts and pants), the tan color will go with a variety of colors and the woven detail is not too extreme but keeps the shoes from looking boring. Amazing how the color makes such a difference… a completely different shoe in the red option!

These sandals from Aerosoles look chic and feel comfortable. A wedge heel is far more comfy than a traditional heel, the style with the white stitching is simple enough that they wills till be stylish next summer. Oh, and the sale price is VERY nice!

I adore these heels from Cole Hahn and Ralph Lauren, and think they would look amazing with a flirty sundress or a pair of jeans.

These simple slides by Etienne Aigner would look chic with everything from Bermudas to jeans to business casual attire.

Where Can One Find High-Quality Knits?
Oh, what a tough question. It used to be so simple, X company was known for their jeans, Y for their suits, Z for their knits. These days it seems that quality changes from season to season even with the more reputable brands. A few I have had success with:

  • Lands End – Tees don’t fade or shrink, cashmere for less, cotton sweaters that keep their shape and all at wonderful prices. Be warned, they run large and they do not carry more trendy of styles.
  • J. Crew – great cashmere and merino sweaters. Have found their merino to be thinner than years past (will need a base layer), and their cotton sweaters to stretch out easily, but their tees and tanks are the popular lighter weights, yet still maintain good shape, colorfastness and reasonable opacity.
  • James Perse – seems to be the brand that celebs mention more than any other for great tees and knits. You can find his brand at Shopbop and Nordstrom.
  • Petit Bateau – this brand has a cult following due to the great fit, construction and fabric quality. I found basic styles at Bare Necessities and Bluefly.
  • Old Navy – you can beat the price, and I find the most durable ribbed tanks there every summer. This summer they had a heavier traditional tank, and then a thinner longer tank great for layering. Their tees come in a bevy of hip colors and have a nice feminine fit.

Is the Shu Eumura Eyelash Curler Worth the Price?
I myself had my doubts but decided to splurge and buy it as a gift to myself for my 30th birthday. Two and a half years later, it’s still a nice firm squeeze, gives a stronger curl than my old Revlon curler, the pad has held up beautifully (it’s black rubber and the curler does come with one replacement), and it’s fun to whip it out of the cosmetic bag. I think this is a curler I could still be using 30 years from now, unlike my drugstore curlers that lost their spring after a couple years and needed to be replaced.

What Size Pashmina to Purchase?
For me personally, I like the wrap size (at Nordstrom where I got mine they are 28” by 40” with a 4” fringe). This can work looped like a scarf, as a wrap for chilly evenings, and acts as a makeshift blanket on plane flights.

Wednesday

Dark red crepe jersey dress (with pockets!) from Maggy London (Nordstrom), black croco peeptoe heels from BCBGirls, three gold bangles from Ralph Lauren.

Hair is washed, conditioned, some Brilliant Brunette Shine Shock added while wet. Dried quickly with paddle brush, round brush and dryer. It looked far better but we have the A/C off and by time I got around to photographing myself, I was a sweaty mess.

Makeup is Bare Escentuals mineral foundation in Fairly Light, Maybelline Dream Whipped Mousse blush in Strawberry on cheeks, a touch of Body Shop bronzing powder in Light over face, Revlon ColorStay shadow quad in Neutral Khakis - khaki on the lids. Lashes curled, Max Factor Lash Perfection in black, Maybelline Ultraliner in black on top lash line. On lips is Body Shop Lip and Cheek Tint with a touch of Revlon Super Lustrous Lip Gloss in Pink Afterglow over it.

Wow, in this picture you can see how my nose is still a bit swollen. Nothing major, it feels far better until i need to blow it or rub it... then owie!

I wasn't sure about this dress, but like it now that i am wearing it because I look pulled together enough for a client meeting but feel as though I am wearing my PJs. I also am not showing cleavage, which usually happens in dresses. The fabric is nice, heavier than traditional matte jersey but just as easy-care... will be good for business travel and think it could work in the colder months because of the heavier fabric and darker color.

July 24, 2007

Tuesday

Teal knit dress from Prenza Schouler for Target, red patent croco peep toe heels from Enzo Angiolini, silver cuff bracelet.

Hair was washed and air dried the night before, this morning the bangs were straightened with a dryer and round brush, the rest of the head brushed out with a wood bristle padded brush, then large sections put around a curling iron, then a bit of Jonathan Dirt for separation.

Makeup is Bare Escentuals mineral foundation in Fairly Light across whole face, Smashbox Soft Lights in tint on cheekbones. Eyes is curled lashes with two coats of Max Factor Lash Perfection in black, Maybelline UltraLiner in black on top lash line. On Lips is Cover Girl's TruShine lip color in Valentine Shine.


Review: Cover Girl's Tru Shine Lip Color
So I adore L'Oreal's True Match line - I find it to be the only liquid foundation thus far that blends so perfectly I never end up with a line. the concealer lasts, has a great consistency and also blends beautifully. I loved the idea of lip colors that blended to your skin tone as well... especially when it came to red.

I rarely wear lipsticks because I am a klutz. I chew my cuticles, I forget to reapply, I end up with a weird stain creeping out from my lip line, and often though I do the finger trick, end up with color on my teeth. Oh, and color all over my fingers from chewing. Red is the worst because it stains, and it never seems to be a flattering color. I sometimes can find a dark dark red that is advertised as a burgundy to look nice in the winter, but reds always end up looking hot pink on me, even if they are orange-based. So to have a red match my skin tone, I was in heaven.

As you can see, this red came off pretty true and pretty fire-engine. The consistency is nice; it's not drying and left a flattering shine that wasn't too glossy. It also was solid enough to apply evenly and crisply without need for liner. I am writing this almost four hours after application and I still have substantial color on my lips, probably 70% coverage. not too bad for a lipstick that doesn't attempt to be long-lasting.

Problem is what is leftover is a garish magenta. A color that is not flattering to my skin, even if it was a sweater that I was wearing. It's a corny, tacky shade that no person on this planet should wear. my lips still feel soft, the color didn't feather, but it didn't do what is claimed - to match my skin tone. I look like one of those little old ladies who wears the same greasy Helena Rubenstein lipstick they have had in their purse since the 70s. At 7:00 am I looked china doll or geisha, now I look like elderly woman not properly cared for at the nursing home. When reapplied to the now hot pink-stained lips, the color is not red like this morning, but cherry. Not happy at all.

Another thing is the packaging. Pretty iridescent silver case with a clear top of the lid to see the color. very nice, but no where on the entire packaging does it say Cover Girl! Proctor & Gamble is on the plastic packaging to be removed and on the sticker on the bottom, only a faint CG and "Tru Shine" on the bottom half of the container, completely hidden by the cellophane wrapping showing the color name, sku, "NEW!" etc. (that did not have to be removed to open the lipstick). The sticker on the bottom has the color number, but not name. I am surprised that Cover Girl would send out a new product where they do not advertise the name anywhere on the casing.

So, the consistency and formula is great, the packaging is pretty enough to pull out of your bag and apply int he restroom of a snooty place, but the idea of it matching 97% of skintones and really my skintone is not that unusual... it didn't accomplish that. I would consider it for a more obviously flattering color like plum or mauve just because of the formula, but don't expect lipcolor miracles with TruShine.

July 23, 2007

Monday

Not feeling my very best today; woke up with itchy eyes, stuffed up nose and a bit of a sinus headache. Also last night I was rough-housing with the dog and he tripped, fell on my head while I was bent over, and ended up smashing my nose into the hardwood floor leaving it bruised and a touch swollen. Doesn't look bad, but feels awful especially with my allergies acting up. Wah.

Olive linen shift with puff sleeves from Old Navy, black coral necklace from Mexico, brown croco peep toe heels from BCBGirls, silver cuff.

Hair was washed yesterday afternoon and allowed to air dry. today hit with the straightening iron to even it out.

Makeup is L'Oreal True match foundation in W4-5 under eyes, under nostrils, around lips and a bit on the bridge of the nose where it was slightly purple. Body Shop bronzing powder in Light, Smashbox Soft Lights in Tint and Maybelline Dream Whipped Mousse blush in Strawberry on cheeks. Eyes is the Revlon ColorStay shadow quad in Neutral Khakis - olive on lids and along lash lines, a touch of chocolate in the crease. lashes curled and Max Factor's Lash Perfection in black applied. Touch of Body Shop Eye Definer in Slate around lash line. Body Shop's Liquid Lip Color in Sparkling Pink on lips (everything else was in my purse and I didn't feel like running downstairs to grab it).

Sunday

Woke up far too early on a Sunday to visit my mom's house (I was house sitting). Pick up the paper, feed the cat, bond with the cat, water the garden before it got warm. then I drove to the airport to pick my mom up after her trip to Long Island. Stopped by her house to freshen up, then we met my husband for brunch at a casual little place near our house where we sat out on their patio and I had a perfectly spicy Bloody Mary. After that, did some laundry, washed some dishes, changed the sheets and watched some Netflix with the hubby. Very relaxing day that ended early due to being up at the crack of dawn.

Black Jack Daniels tee shirt; that morning I decided to cut out the neck band and the hems of the sleeves and stretch the neck a bit. My Joe's Jeans, silver hoops and cuff bracelet, black "Sandy" flops from Reef.

Hair was second day, used a dryer and round brush to straighten out a few pieces.

Makeup is Body Shop bronzing powder in Light, Body Shop Eye Definer in Black around both lash lines (inner and outer), Maybelline UltraLiner in black on top lash line, Max Factor Lash Perfection mascara in black on curled lashes, Body Shop Liquid Lip Color in Sparkling Pink.

July 20, 2007

Friday

Black scoop necked cotton short-sleeved sweater with empire waist from Old Navy, black twill cuffed walking shorts from Gap Outlet, black leather thong heels from Mossimo, silver hoops from The Icing, silver cuff.

Hair is second day, I tried straightening it with the iron, but then didn't have time to fiddle much with it so I threw it up in a messy ponytail with a black covered elastic and a few clips. Didn't capture it in the picture, but the hair leaves a spiky waterfall of sorts at the top of my head.

Makeup is L'Oreal true Match concealer in W4-5, Body Shop bronzing powder in Light on whole face, Smashbox Soft Lights in Tint on cheekbones. Body Shop eye definer pencil in black on rims and outside of both lash lines, and Maybelline Ultra Liner in black on top lash line. Lashes curled, two coats of Max Factor's Lash Perfection in black. On lips is Body Shop Liquid Lip Color in Sparkling Pink.

Yesssss, I am wearing shorts to work. I hate hate hate shorts, but this season's variety of Bermuda and walkers are making me change my mind. It doesn't hurt that these were only $20. When i tried them on, I was wearing my red peep toe pumps from Enzo and I imagined them with a white wrap shirt, looking tres hip. However, I do not own a white wrap shirt, and with knits, the red shoes (and my black peep toes from yesterday) looked a bit wrong (okay, a lot wrong) with the outfit. These shoes were the worst offenders for work. Now I can so see me wearing these with my pink blouson tube top from Victoria's Secret and a pair of stacked black flops when I go back to the beach next month, but for work I needed to be a little more appropriate and conservative. So far one person complimented me on looking cute (whassup K!) and one person said "you look dressed for warm weather!" and the passive-aggressive coworker who always says something sweet yet snarky said "I never would have thought shorts for work!" to which I happily said "I know, I love current fashion!" and kept walking.

And there is a chick in another department who is wearing white cargo shorts today and wore denim cuffed shorts the other week, so I look far more appropriate. As long as the president doesn't make a comment like he did with my Pat Benetar look, I am dandy!

Thursday

Black Ponte de Roma knit jacket from Banana Republic outlet (bracelet-length sleeves, wide seams, large plastic buttons... very excited about this new purchase for I can see it dressing up and down well and working for all seasons), gray ribbed tank from Caslon, Joe's "Provacateur" jeans (should ahve been washed, they were all stretched out and got funny throughout the day), black croco peep toe heels from BCBGirls, silver hoops from The Icing, silver cuff.

Hair washed and conditioned with Pureology, and then added some Brilliant Brunette Shine Shock while wet, then super fast blew it dry because I was running late. A touch of Jonathan Dirt for texture and ta-dah.

Makeup is L'Oreal True Match concealer in W4-5 (I am almost out, I have not completely used an entire concealer since I was pale pale pale and used MAC! This stuff ROCKS), Body Shop bronzing powder in Light for face powder (and seeing a lot of the metal at the bottom, looks like a cosmetics shopping trip is in the near future... Toya wanna help a girl out?), Smashbox Soft Lights in Tint on cheekbones, on lips is Revlon Super Lustrous Lip gloss in Shine That Pink, eyes is khaki shadow from Revlon's ColorStay shadow quad in Neutral Khakis. Lashes curled and two coats of Max Factor's Lash Perfection in black, and a line of Maybelline UltraLiner in black on top lash line.

Loving Yourself, AKA How to Spend Your Summer Vacation

This post is inspired by a woman who is a member of a message board I visit. She was mentioning that she is taking a trip this fall, and was hoping to be a certain size before the trip so she could pack differently. All too often we women hold off on situations, trips, life changes and yes wardrobes until we have the right conditions.

“I can’t justify buying expensive jeans until I get down to a size 8.”

“I told my friends I couldn’t find time to go to the pool with them, but really I don’t want to be seen in a swimsuit until I lose ten more pounds.”

“I didn’t go to my high school reunion, I didn’t want people to see how much I have gained since I graduated, and anyway I am way past due for a highlights touchup.”

“I figure I’ll wait on getting another haircut until my hair grows another 3-4”.”

“I don’t want to go to Paris on vacation at this size and with these clothes… they will laugh at how fat and sloppy American I am.”

“I am too pale to step foot on a beach, I’ll look like an idiot out there with all those bronze bodies.”

Have you ever said anything similar to this, either out loud or in your head? Well you’re not alone. Too often we women sacrifice our enjoyment because we feel we don’t deserve it. We decide to not buy any new clothes until we drop a size, not go out to social situations because we are embarrassed about our figure, our wardrobe, our selves. Do men do this? Not nearly as often as women. They make do with their outfits, lightly joke about their expanding waistlines, and put nothing in front of having a good time.

Stop and think about the last social situation you attended. Were you the heaviest woman there? The most unattractive? The worst dressed? I highly doubt it. Then also think about the women that stood out in a positive way. Was it because they had perfect bodies and faces? Elegant and expensive attire? Perfect hair and skin? Again, highly unlikely. The women who catch your eye are the women who are at home in their skin, have fun yet have class, who enjoy themselves, their life, and the world around them. The woman with the smile that lights up a room, the woman with the tinkling laugh, the woman who can cut a rug out on the dance floor. When you are comfortable in your skin, no one notices how old your dress is, if you are a size 6 or 16, if your shoes are Payless or Manolo Blahnik.

People notice if your clothes are ill fitting, gaudy, in poor shape. They notice when you slouch, fidget, slump in your chair and avoid interacting with others. They notice the scowl, the sneer, the frown. If you look uncomfortable, then people notice your weight, your scar, your roots, your one thing that makes you uncomfortable in the first place. They notice when you repeatedly decline offers to go out, complain about your weight or your diet or your outfit.

Think back to your college or high school days, your current church community or your daily office team. Think about the “popular girl.” Really think about her, not the possibly altered memory you have about her. Is she really the prettiest girl? The thinnest? The best dressed? I remember a girl I went to college with, her name was Charity. All the boys wanted to date her and all the girls wanted to be her. She had long blonde hair and a heart-shaped face and the biggest smile and the most infectious laugh. She was very short, a hair over 5’ and was not slim – probably a size 12 or 14. Her face was cute, but nothing overly striking. However, she was always friendly and welcoming, happy to see people. She wasn’t afraid to don a bathing suit at the pool or fail miserably (while giggling about it) at intramural softball. Thinking about her, I can’t recall how she dressed, just that she never seemed to stick out or look bad. I remember her pulling all of us on to the dance floor when her favorite song was played by the DJ, I remember her screaming at the top of her lungs and hopping up and down in the front row at a concert for her favorite band. I remember her being nervous for a class presentation, admitting her nervousness, but plowing through and finishing with applause from the whole class. And I remember her smiling and thanking the class for their support. She was not the best dressed, the best looking, the most enviable figure. She just was a great person to be around, who seemed to really like herself.

Life is happening, whether you are participating or not. You are not getting any younger, and those situations you pass on because of your appearance just may not happen again. What makes you an amazing personality is not your dress, your figure, your shoes but YOU. Creative, intelligent, bubbly, goofy, quirky, giving, loving, thoughtful, unique you. When you let the world know who you are, your exterior is just that – the packaging, not the present. As with any gift, we want it to be dressed in a beautiful and appropriate way, but like any gift, the paper and bows are admired, but the present itself is what lasts in memory.

Don’t wait until tomorrow, you may not end up having the second chance. Enjoy the last few weeks of summer in well-fitting swimsuits, sleeveless tops and sassy skirts. Take that trip to Paris – you are one person in a crowd and there is sure to be another American who is in the oversized tee and Crocs to receive the snickers in place of you. Go to that reunion knowing that yes you have gained a few pounds, but also a great education, family or life adventures. Get out on the dance floor if you love to dance, and enjoy yourself! Nothing is more chic, stylish or flattering than a woman who is happy in her own skin and life.

July 19, 2007

What I am Loving Right Now...

You can monogram your bikini bottom at J. Crew. Did you know that? I find this utterly adorable and do love the simple, we—made suits this company provides. Too cute! I want a bright green one with my monogram in orange. J. Crew has been doing monograms for a long time, but not until the most recent catalog did I realize your hip can carry your initials!

That purple is popping up all over, and not the corny reddish hued Crayola shades of past. This purple is deep, royal and tinged with indigo. I will be wearing a ton of this; speaking of J. Crew they have gorgeous shades of purple in their merino and cashmere sweaters and a darling puff-sleeved tissue-weight tee shirt (unfortunately not available until the end of the summer).

The cropped jacket has been modified to actually be flattering. Gone are the shrunken toppers that hardly cover your breasts, the new ones will show just a hint of your camisole underneath, are a feminine shape without being overly fitted, and come in a wonderful variety of fabrics so they hang nicely on most every shape of body.

Hair has gone back to being carefree. Gone are the sharp wisps, the precise bangs, the iron-straight locks. Hair is again allowed to have movement, texture and a human element. Thank goodness the extreme highlights/lowlights/chunk colors are passé as well… haircolor is like cosmetics – it should either make a bold dramatic statement, or enhance natural beauty. Neither can create what nature has not provided, bad streaks in your hair are like bad streaks of blush on your cheeks – dated, aging and tacky.

Sequins are hot in a subtle way and I couldn’t be happier. I think the only reason I stayed in dance classes for so long as a child was for the costumes at the annual recital. Sequins were fun and glittery and made me feel like a diva, even in first grade. This fall sequins may not be rainbow strips, or electric blue a la Feist’s video, but in pewter, chocolate and brass they add glamour and glitz to unexpected items. I personally am coveting this dress by Nanette Lepore.

That one can find designer jeans at Last Call Neiman Marcus, the outlet store for this department store. Unfortunately they didn’t have any in my size, but I have heard from other women that they often do and they are at least 30% cheaper than in the regular stores. I shall return!

That Victoria Beckham special that was on Monday (and another showing is tonight and you can see the episode on NBC.com). I don’t care what the critics say, the show made me stop thinking of Posh as a stupid robot and saw her as normal, goofy, funny, and working that job she has. And yes, I believe being a celebrity is a profession. Far too many It Girls don’t get this; you never saw the stars of the silver screen a few decades ago ever shoving their face full of fries, entering a truck stop rest room barefoot, or flashing the paparazzi when clumsily entering and exiting a car. Victoria may always be pouting, always have perfect hair, perfect tan and the most ridiculous shoes, but she has created and maintained a certain image, and really who can blame her for trying to maintain that out of respect for herself and her husband’s career? If you want to waste an hour giggling (and gawking at the hideousness of the plastic surgery gaudy queens of Beverly Hills) check this show out. You won’t gain IQ points, but you may have a good time.

Pureology hair care products. Though my stylist kept telling me to buy this stuff, I kept putting it off because it was so expensive. Suave sent me a box of products to try out that I had yet to finish, I get 25% off everything at The Body Shop and well, $25 for a small bottle of shampoo seemed like highway robbery. I decided to go back to dark brown hair, and with the sun and surf and pools I wanted all the help I could get to maintain it so I succumbed. Boy I LOVE this stuff. My hair feels like it did before I ever dyed it, it’s manageable, it shines like it has never shone before, and the strong herbal scent is an awesome pick-me-up in the morning shower. I figure, the shampoo and conditioner is worth the price if it extends the times between visits to the colorist, right? Oh, and the shampoo is shimmery purple. How fun is that?

Now you can show your status and mood on MySpace. I think the status is fun, for I always hated the “Jane is in your extended network.” I have been on that addictive site long enough to remember when the “extended network” meant something and the site would show how you are connected to the page you are looking at. But now with kazillions of people on MySpace, it was pointless. So now to make funnies or announce what I am working on is entertaining and it’s fun to see what my friends are up to. Okay, so I am 32 and still on MySpace but I don’t care… it’s utterly entertaining and it has helped me reunite with old friends and become friends with many of you readers.

Girlfriend get togethers are awesome. Last night four of us met at a mall that is a halfway point for all of us. All I have seen in the past month, but they hadn’t necessarily seen one another that recently. Over some guacamole and margaritas (and plenty of Mug Root Beer for Kelly) we caught up, giggled, talked about our lives, our homes, our men, our recent shopping adventures. We hope to do this on a monthly basis; life gets so hectic you often lose track of good friends. I think if we scheduled it monthly like an appointment we will make time for one another and be happier people for it. Everyone needs time for friends!

I love Gmail. I mean, I have five email accounts right now for various reasons, but Gmail is by far my favorite. I can do Google Talk with my friends, I can find EVERYTHING with the search feature, I can organize to my heart’s delight and never have to delete a single message. My two year relationship with Gmail has gotten more and more passionate as time has gone on for I find more and more feature to fall in love with.

The admin in my department brings snacks every day and puts them outside of her cube for us all to enjoy. Cheese and crackers, brownies, cheese curls… it is dangerous to walk to the color printer because you can’t help but be drawn to the snack display. Well today it’s cut up veggies with a pesto dip. Instead of chips and French onion dip, I am munching on yellow peppers and zucchini. I can nosh and not feel so utterly guilty!

July 18, 2007

Reader Survey

Hello all. A reader emailed me yesterday about undergarments. She feels that she can never find the right ones - underwear either leaves the dreaded VPL (visible panty line), is ugly, or it is uncomfortable. Like her, I have found that boyshorts often ride down during the day or ride up cutting one's bum in half, and unlike me, not all women will wear thongs. What style/brand do you feel gives a smooth line under garments but is still pretty feminine and not awful to be seen by your lover?

For me, I live for the thongs by Hanky Panky (they sometimes go on sale at Nordstrom and when they do I stock up). I find the traditional thongs utterly comfortable, pretty, elegant and don't look weird over my belly/pooch and have enough fabric in the back to look elegant, not trashy over my bum. The low-rise style is also comfortable and great when wearing jeans. I wear these almost exclusively under trousers.

My husband finds the boyshorts very cute, but I find with my smaller hips/larger booty and tummy that they slide down and leave weird lines under clothing.

I have had luck with the microfiber undies, but they are not very pretty and often the briefs and bikinis still show a line under thinner fabrics of trousers. For skirts and dresses I do wear briefs or bikinis - I believe before I posted about the microfiber ones by Vanity Fair that I like.. I have also found a moisture-wicking black brief by Champion (found at Target, they don't seem to carry anymore) that seems to be microfiber-like fabric and is not bad looking... but can't be worn with slim trousers for fear of VPL.

For slim dresses I opt for Spanx's Higher Power for a completely seamless line and a smoother figure. Not the most comfortable and I will not wear on a warm summer day, but great to have on hand for certain outfits.

When you respond, do respond with your general body type. Not only will I report back to this reader, but may tally up ideas and make a post about this on my other blog so it can assist more women out there with this same plight. I thank you and other women around the globe trying to look chic thank you as well!

Wednesday

Black stretch cotton v-neck sweater from Banana Republic, black stretch poplin trousers from Caslon, red patent croco peeptoe pumps from Enzo Angiolini, red and pink print silk scarf from Liberty, silver hoops from The Icing, silver cuff.

Hair is second day, straightened with dryer and round brush while dry. A bit of Jonathan Dirt added to ends for separation.

Makeup is L'Oreal true Match concealer in W4-5, Body Shop bronzing powder in Light over whole face, Smashbox Soft Lights in Tint on cheekbones, Revlon ColorStay shadow quad in Neutral Khakis - khaki on lid. Lashes curled, Max Factor's Lash Perfection in Black applied. Maybelline UltraLiner in Black on top lash line. Victoria's Secret Beauty Rush Lip gloss in Strawberry Fizz.

Tuesday

Black matte jersey dress with turquoise and lime pattern from Maggy London, black synthetic camisole from Victoria's Secret, black leather thong heels from Mossimo, silver cuff bracelet.

Makeup is L'Oreal true Match concealer in W4-5, Body Shop bronzing powder in Light over whole face, Smashbox Soft Lights in tint on cheekbones, Revlon ColorStay shadow quad in Neutral Khakis - khaki on lid, chocolate and olive blended together and applied to crease and Lash lines. Max Factor's Lash Perfection in black on curled lashes. On lips is L'Oreal Volume Perfect in Defining Mica.

Hair was washed and conditioned with the Pureology line for hydration. Really like this stuff! It feels very luxurious, the shampoo is very herbal smelling with a lot of rosemary, the conditioner is also an herbal scent but more mint fragranced. My hair felt like silk after the washing. I then let it air dry, and used a round brush to straighten the bangs. All this curl with no product, amazing!

July 17, 2007

Great Deal – Lands Ends

Lands End almost never goes on sale. There are never promos for a percentage off if you spend a certain amount, there aren’t outlet stores in every strip mall across the country, they usually carry simple basics at standard, reasonable prices season after season.

Well they are having a sale.

Why am I telling you this? Lands End is boring polos and chinos, right?

Well of course they carry safe standards, but they have some amazing staples that could honestly fit in the wardrobe of every woman, no matter their personal style. They have some of the best prices on good quality cashmere. On top of it, the prices are great and the quality is amazing. They also carry Petite, Tall and Plus sizes. If you aren’t satisfied, their return policy is liberal and simple. If you are looking for some deals on summer clothes, I encourage you to check out their website or latest catalog. Some of my favorites:

Washable Linen Walking Shorts and 2-Button Jacket:

A real shorts suit that is work appropriate! Both pieces would also look lovely on their own, and it doesn’t hurt that this is linen that can be laundered! Be careful, the shorts have slash front pockets so if you carry a tummy, you may want to either pass or have the pockets sewn shut once you receive them to maintain a clean line.

White Eyelet Bikini:
How utterly adorable and retro is this? At the price of Target, but the quality found at a higher-end department store. Owning Lands End bathing suits, I can attest to the fact that they fit well, they don’t stretch out, fade easily, wear well (have had one for five years of rough beach and pool usage). White is a surprisingly flattering bathing suit color, even on us fair-skinned maidens and this style is sexy without being too revealing.

Denim Jacket:
I love the feminine shape and all the details. This is the type of jacket you can throw over a ribbed tank or tee with a pair of pants and look pulled together. The chest pockets are high enough and small enough that they won’t add bulk to your breasts, and the dark color works in all seasons. Um, and the price? Gorgeous! A great jacket to have in the office, at the front door, at the ready for a slight breeze or an outfit pick-me-up.

Mesh Eyelet Classic Non-padded Underwire Bra and Panties:
How pretty is this? I never knew that Lands End carried such delicate and feminine undergarments! If the quality of these are anywhere as good as that of their clothing, this $19.99 bra is a STEAL!

Montauk Floral Stand-up Collar Caftan:
Why cover up in an old tee shirt when you can have such a glorious print for such a glorious price? This is long enough to be well covered and appropriate in boardwalk cafes and shops, yet the lightweight cotton poplin won’t stick to your damp skin. We often choose simple black and navy suits, this is a wonderful compliment to such a suit. I can see it with a big white tote, large black plastic sunglasses and flops, the wearer walking along the shore looking quite elegant and fun.

Washable Linen Bias Dress:
A beautiful and simple dress that is perfect for almost every summer occasion. Dress up with heels and pearls for a wedding, with sandals and a wooden bangle for a shower or church. Fine Irish linen and the white is fully lined... this is the type of dress that can be in your wardrobe for years to come.

Candy Paisley V-Neck Tank Swimsuit:

Why stick with boring black? With a suit this flattering and in such a variety of sizes (Long Torso, D-Cup, Sizes 6-18), and SPF 50 fabric to boot, why wouldn't you try it? Wrap/surplice styles are flattering on almost every shape, and the leg openings are conservative enough to feel comfortable, but not dowdy. The straps do not look adjustable, but look easy enough to trim and resew at the back.

Long Sleeve Solid No Iron EasyStretch Shirt:

$29.99 for a classic piece that truly is no-iron. I had one of these when I had a job that required me to wear a white button-down shirt. Throw it in the wash, toss it in the dryer, shove it in a suitcase, a quick blast of the hair dryer will remove any wrinkles and you look crisp all day. I do feel the shirt runs a bit roomier than my personal preference so if you are between sizes, I encourage you to go a size down. But this is true for most of Lands End garments.

3/4 Sleeve Pattern Poplin Pintuck Tunic Shirt:

With white Bermuda shorts or wider-cut linen capris, with white bootcut jeans, with linen or poplin trousers... this shirt is easy, breezy, the pattern is crisp and elegant... this is an easy item to throw on with white and maybe silver hoops for an evening get together at a friend's house, or dress up with linen pants and a few skinny silver bangle bracelets for a day at work. I usually shy away from prints - they are hard to wear and often make you look larger. However in the summer, rules can often be broken and it jsut seems right. As long as the bottom is very simple and clean, it can be a lovely look on most people.

July 16, 2007

Attention Washington DC Area Women...

For this month, bring your gently used career wear to any nearby Zips Dry Cleaning location, and they will donate it to Suited to Succeed, a non-profit that assists women in transition from training programs and unemployment to self-sufficiency by providing free professional clothing and workshops. We all have some random suits and dresses in our closet that we hang on to but don't really need or wear; why not simplify your closet and help a fellow woman in the process? Goes pretty well with the recent closet-gutting project!

Monday

Teal cotton babydoll top from Old Navy, white stretch poplin trousers from Caslon with crease ironed down the front of the leg, black croco peep toe heels from BCBGirls, silver hoops from The Icing, silver cuff.

Hair is third day, brushed out, bangs straightened with round brush and dryer and then rest left as-is.

Makeup is L'Oreal True Match concealer in W4-5, Body Shop bronzing powder in Light, Smashbox Soft Lights in Tint. Revlon ColorStay shadow quad in Neutral khakis - khaki on lid. Lashes curled, Max Factor's Lash Perfection in black, and then Maybelline UltraLiner in black on top lash line. On lips is Revlon Super Lustrous Lip gloss in Pink Afterglow.

Sunday

Olive linen shift with puff sleeves from Old Navy, black coral necklace from my husband's trip to Mexico, brown croco peeptoe heels from BCBGirls, silver cuff bracelet.

Hair is on it's third day, bangs blown straight, a curling iron to a few pieces for texture and flip. Looking forward to washing it so I can really play with it well.

Makeup is L'Oreal True Match concealer in W4-5, Body Shop bronzing powder in Light, Smashbox Soft Lights in Tint on cheekbones. On eyes is the Revlon ColorStay shadow quad in Neutral Khakis - khaki on lid up to brow bone, olive lightly on lid near lash line, then brush wetted and olive added to crease and along both lash lines. Lashes curled and two coats of Max Factor's Lash Perfection in black applied. Lips is Body Shop Lip and Cheek Tint with Revlon's Super Lustrous lip Gloss in Pink Afterglow over it.

Today we had breakfast with some of my husband's clients from a recent wedding photo shoot, then the son of my husband's cousin had his Baptism and there was a lunch afterwards at the grandparents house. After that, my family had a cookout and we headed to that. For the cookout, i switched to my J. Crew stacked flip flops in brown. Busy day!

Saturday

In the morning, I ran to get my hair cut and colored in the nearby town, and then run a few errands. Olive ribbed tank from J. Crew, white ribbed tank from Old Navy, Joe's Jeans in "Provacateur," brown stacked flops from J. Crew, silver hoops from The Icing, silver cuff.

Hair was brushed out but on the second day; blew the bangs straight.

Makeup was Body Shop bronzing powder in Light as face color, Max Factor Lash Perfection mascara on curled lashes, Revlon Super Lustrous Lip Gloss in Pink Afterglow.

Kathleen did her magic - all I told her is that I wanted to go darker and that I wanted heavier bangs. I trust her, and was not disappointed. Choppy layers that can work straight, wavy or curly, fun sideswept bangs, and a very rich multi-tonal color of dark brown that looks closer to what I was born with.

Got home and had to dash to get dressed. Friday night I had a friend over so I didn't have time to play dress-up and figure out my theater outfit. Thank you soooo much to everyone who wrote in suggestions, you guys are awesome and have good ideas! For the one who suggested my Old Navy dress... I completely forgot about it. I had set to wear my black cashmere tank from Banana Republic and my orange-red shantung full skirt also from Banana (seen here), but when I saw how spiffy and sleek my husband looked (flat front gray tropical wool trousers from J. Crew, white tailored shirt from some brand sold at Mens Wearhouse, black blazer from... J. crew? Not sure..., black slip-on sleek shoes from Ecco) I decided my outfit may look a bit like a costume. I tried a few different skirts, but settled on the black matte jersey dress from Old Navy, my red stone necklace, my leopard peep-toe heels from BCBgirls,silver hoops from The Icing, and silver cuff natch. :-)

Didn't have to do my hair since it was done by Kathleen my talented stylist. She used the Pureology line on me, and swears by it for protecting color. I bought the shampoo and conditioner and once I can wash my hair (was told to go as long as humanely possible without washing) I will be using it and let you k now how it is.

Same makeup as earlier, just a re-touch of the bronzing powder, a bit of Smashbox Soft Lights in Tint on my cheekbones, a medium line of Maybelline Ultra Liner in black on the top lash line, a quick swipe of Maybelline Great Lash waterproof mascara in black over existing mascara, Body Shop Lip and Cheek Tint with Revlon Super Lustrous Lip Gloss in Pink Afterglow over it.

We took the Metro and it was not even a block to the little restaurant (I don't know if there are even 20 tables in the place). The menu seemed different from the one online and the only entrees that were vegetarian were spaghetti with tomato sauce (yawn) and a risotto with corn and truffle shavings. My husband and I chose the risotto, we shared a bottle of Pinot Grigio (not sure the label, our friend chose the wine) and had a nice, yet not inspiring or overwhelmingly unique meal. We then walked not even three blacks to the Kennedy Center where my friend and I sidestepped grates in our heels (she too wore a black sheath and heels) while the men tromped over everything and got there in time to marvel at the acre-sized curtains in the lobby and get a cocktail in the Terrace Bar prior to the performance.

The performance was great! As I said, I had never seen The Phantom of the Opera other than the movie. Back story - 1992, for Christmas I got my first boom box with a CD player in it, and with it two CDs - Les Miserables and Phantom of the Opera. For several months until I got my high school arsenal of REM, Depeche Mode, Pearl Jam and Nirvana, I listened solely to these two soundtracks. Come 2007, I am silently singing along to this performance and even a tear came down my cheek at finally seeing live what I had in my head 15 years ago. I think also seeing Shakespeare in Love the night prior made the theater experience that more intense.

Our friends live in Virginia and parked at the theater; it was a gorgeous night and declined their offer to drive us to the Metro and decided to hoof it. All in all a lovely evening!

July 13, 2007

Remembering Lady Bird...

My sister forwarded me this article from The Washington Post. Yet another article by Robin Givhan that I love... wanted to share with all of you as well.

A First Lady's Natural Beauty
In Place of Dazzle, a Taste for the Simply Pleasing

By Robin Givhan
Washington Post Staff Writer
Friday, July 13, 2007; C01

The fashion industry loves a good clothes hanger, someone who wears a dress well and makes a point of being interested in the ebb and flow of styles. So it makes sense that Seventh Avenue has always had special affection for Jacqueline Kennedy and Nancy Reagan. Both women, during their years in the White House, knew how to make a statement with a frock. In the days before designers had so many interchangeable starlets on whom they could hang their wares, the impact a first lady could have on their business was significant. And even today, memories of Jackie Kennedy continue to inspire designers whenever they are trying to express a particularly American aesthetic of elegant informality.

Lady Bird Johnson was not a favorite within the fashion industry, but she should have been. Not because of her style but for her philosophy.

She had an appreciation for beauty and its potential to instill pride in people, to comfort them and to bring them joy. Her focus was not on the rarefied world of museums and symphonies, but beauty in a far more democratic form: nature. The fashion industry should have championed someone who saw grace, allure and power in places that others took for granted or considered unimportant.

With her death Wednesday at 94, much has been said about her dogged determination to see tulips and daffodils brighten the Washington landscape and to coax wildflowers to bloom along the country's highways. Notice that she was entranced by wildflowers, not painstakingly cultivated antique roses or finicky orchids. She marveled at the kinds of flowers that often fade into the background.

Designers should stand a little taller each time a dour Washington intersection turns Technicolor in the spring. Lady Bird made beauty -- the kind that is simple, familiar and accessible -- important.

She was in the unenviable position of having to follow Kennedy as first lady, a woman 17 years her junior and one who had a solid reputation as a fashion icon. Not much has been said about Johnson's attire or about her sense of style, at least not much that has been particularly enthusiastic. Arnold Scaasi dressed first ladies from Mamie Eisenhower to Laura Bush, but Johnson barely receives a full sentence in "Scaasi: A Cut Above," one of those splashy cocktail-table books about the designer's work in which much attention is paid to his glamorous clients. In her obituary in Women's Wear Daily, Johnson's White House style is described as stately and it is noted that she trimmed down to a size 10, learned to use flattering makeup, but never managed to keep her stockings from sagging at the ankles.

But the fashion industry would do well to thank her for the way she looked at beauty. She might not have cut as stylishly iconic a figure as Kennedy or be remembered for the kind of James Galanos glamour that Reagan cultivated. But in a more general way, Johnson acknowledged that beauty comes in many forms and that everyone should have access to it. The fashion industry could not have asked for a better endorsement than that.

The industry might also try to do more to advance Lady Bird's belief in inclusiveness by broadening its range of sizes, celebrating ethnic diversity and not forsaking women for girls. Instead of focusing on the hothouse flowers of Hollywood, the industry should try to beautify the populace. It's just as noble to strive for pretty clothes that any woman can wear as it is to aspire to creating a single exquisite gown that only Cameron Diaz can fit into.

It's not surprising that the fashion industry didn't see the link between Lady Bird's "beautification" project and its own goals. Fashion designers often see what they do as more rarefied than it is -- more orchid than daisy. For them, success is frequently measured by which celebrity is wearing the clothes, how often and how well. In that regard, Lady Bird was of little help to the industry. But for fashion to thrive, it needs an environment in which simple pleasures are valued. Lady Bird Johnson cultivated such a climate. That was her gift to Seventh Avenue.

Did you Know?

Did you know that most stores have at least a two-week grace period for price adjustments? If something goes on sale within two weeks of you purchasing it, you only need to take in your receipt (not the purchase) and get back the difference.

Did you know most of your favorite online retailers will take returns in their “brick and mortar” stores? Save on shipping those not-quite-right garments!

Did you know that nicer department stores like Nordstrom do free alterations? My 5’2” friend had her Citizen of Humanity jeans shortened about a foot and no one would be the wiser – they replace the original hem so you have that great finish and no one is the wiser.

Did you know that Nordstrom and many other higher-end stores will also reheel and resole shoes you bought there for free? The same petite friend of mine takes her beloved knee-high brown boots there every fall for a tune-up and has done this for about five years without a single problem.

Did you also know that if a garment or accessory doesn’t live up to its promises (shrinks in the wash, fades though you followed the care instructions, loses beading, seam busts with normal wear, broken zipper) you can return it, even if it has been several weeks or months? Read your receipt – it will often say it won’t take back worn clothes unless it is defective. The above lists things that deem an item defective. We recently return seasons-old shoes of my husband’s because the whole toebox separated from the sole. That isn’t normal wear and tear; even without the receipt we were able to exchange them for an equivalent pair.

Did you know that most items on a sale rack are returns? Find that perfect jacket and there is only one in your size? Very well could have been worn by someone else a few times before you took it to the fitting room. Same with full-priced merchandise. When I worked retail, we had solvents to remove spots, steamer closets to get rid of creases and wrinkles and sprays to banish perfume and body odor. I knew of a person who bought a new jacket, got it home to find in the pocket a matchbook, a condom and a ponytail elastic with hair still attached. Check your item carefully before purchase. If an item is damaged or stained beyond repair, it will be sent back to corporate or to an outlet store.

Did you know you can occasionally haggle price? If it is the last item in the store and it is missing a button, has a stain or a snag, you can ask a manager if they will give you a percentage off the price. Sometimes they do not have the ability to due to corporate rules and often this will make the garment a Final Sale, but it’s at least worth asking (of course with a smile!).

Did you know if you Google (or Goodsearch) your online retailer’s name and “promo” or something similar, you will find out of there are any deals going on for your purchase? This is a great way to find out about free shipping, 15% off $100 or more, and similar deals. Do this before every purchase… the minute or two will usually pay off.

Did you know you can buy off the mannequin? Retailers hate to do this because then they have to steam and pin and redress the form, but if you want a certain item and the only one left in your size is in the front window, you are more than welcome to ask a salesperson to remove it for you. The point of the display is to bring in customers and make sales. If it is creased and has pin holes from being on the mannequin, you can also ask them to steam it for you.

Did you know you can have the hanger? Many stores have fancy wood or lacquer hangers with their company name or logo on them, but most dresses and jackets are shipped on clear or black plastic hangers – just like the ones they sell in stores. Ask for the hanger, either by having your garments hung in a bag, or hung in a garment bag and then folded into a shopper, or just tossed in with your purchase! I am still using all the black plastic hangers I got from my years at Express – they have rubber grippers and nooks for straps and little holes at the neck so one can “monkey hang” easily in the closet. Far better for the clothes than the cheap plastic tubular ones at Target.

Did you know that with many stores, there really is more in the back? If it is a current item in the front of the store, there is a good chance they have more… though they may still be wrapped in plastic and in boxes. If you are a good customer and you are super nice to the salesperson, they very well may dig through unprocessed shipment to find your size. If they say that’s all they have, don’t push the issue for it very well may be true, but again it doesn’t hurt to ask!

Reader Survey

So tomorrow I am going to the theater (for those of you in DC, we are going to dinner first at Notti Bianche, and then walking to the Kennedy Center) to see Phantom of the Opera. I have seen lots of theater performances, but never Phantom (though I did see the movie but that doesn't count). We are going with a couple who we have been friends with for many many years but haven't seen in a bit since they moved to Virginia.

I spoke to my female friend in the couple, she said she would probably wear pants and heels; we both agree jeans are not theater-appropriate, but feel that in the summer getting super dressed up seems inappropriate. She is a petite little thing who carries off the very simple styles of J. Crew and Banana Republic with ease, I can see her in a soft blue tailored shirt with cuffs, crisp black trousers, very cute black kitten heels, a Tiffany bracelet, delicate necklace and a Coach purse. She has red hair and beautiful pale skin. As we all know, simple is not my middle name.

So what should I wear?

I was thinking the olive shift dress with the leopard-print heels, long gold necklace and gold bracelet, but we will be taking the Metro, so will be walking several blocks. Those heels are fabu, but so skinny of a heel they get caught in every sidewalk crack and wouldn't be good for walking to the restaurant, walkign then to the theater, and then walking to the metro. My husband said we could take cabs, but I think the weather is going to be lovely.

I don't mind walking in heels, and think any shoes would be fine except the leopard, the black and brown crocos in the same style, and my hot pink pointy pumps. Should I just be a commuter and tuck my black ballet flats in my bag for the longer of the walks? this is what I am currently thinking, to have them if the going gets rough. But I would love to hear what you suggest, since you always ask me for my suggestions! :-)

UPDATE: One should always check the Metro website before stressing. It is one block from the Metro to the restaurant, four blocks from the theater to the Metro come the end of the evening, and our friends are driving so they may give us a ride to the Metro at the end of our double date. but still, I would love to hear your ideas!

Friday

White stretch cotton v-neck sweater from Banana Republic, Joe's "Provacateur" jeans, Red croco patent peep-toe pumps from Enzo Angiolini, pink and red print scarf tied on belt loops from Liberty, silver hoops from The Icing, silver cuff.

Hair was washed and conditioned and then I ran around and realized it was 90% dry and no product added. I blew itdry with a round brush to make it straight and not frizzy. no product added once dry.

Makeup is L'Oreal True Match concealer in W4-5, Body Shop bronzing powder in Light over whole face, Smashbox Soft Lights in tint on cheekbones, Max Factor's Lash Perfection mascara in black, Maybelline UltraLiner in black on top lash line, on lips is Revlon Super Lustrous Lipgloss in Shine That Pink.

Thursday

Pink merino v-neck from J. Crew, French vanilla wool blend trousers from Ann Taylor Loft, leopard print peep toe heels from BCBGirls, silver cuff bracelet.

Hair is second day, blown straight while dry with dryer and round brush.

Makeup is L'Oreal True Match concealer in W4-5, Body Shop bronzing powder in Light for powder, Nars blush in Orgasm on the apples of my cheeks. Lashes curled and two coats of Max Factor's Lash Perfection in Black and Maybelline Ultra Liner in Black on top lash line. On lips is Maybelline Wetshine Diamonds in Glowing Glimmer.

July 11, 2007

Unexpected "Staples" for a Summer (and beyond) Wardrobe

Yes, there are the staples. But everyone needs to add to their wardrobe to fit their lifestyle, personality and climate. Below are a few tried and true additions that seem to work with many women I have met and interacted with across the country, no matter their age or figure:

1. White jeans. White jeans are a whole other beast from traditional jeans. Though they are as easy to slip on and feel the same, adding white dresses up and polishes the simplest tops and tees in the summer. White jeans are dressier than denim, and are perfect for those in-between social situations like evening outdoor parties, concert in the park, going to a restaurant or bar for happy hour. White jeans look smashing with black, but also add pop to red, turquoise, cobalt, emerald, yellow and many other brights and sorbet shades.

Try switching out your jeans or khakis for white jeans and you’ll see it adds newness to your traditional pieces. Make sure they are of heavy denim that holds up nicely, doesn’t show through and has simple pockets so they can double for pants.

Winter white and off-white jeans can look smashing come winter as well – try pairing them with a black turtleneck or a chunky tan sweater and boots.

2. Animal-print shoes. Animal print is the unexpected neutral. Black turtleneck and jeans is suddenly chic with leopard-print ballet flats. You have a dress in an odd color and don’t know what color shoe to pair it with? How about a cheetah-print pump? A simple black suit goes from conservative to creative with zebra-print pony hair mules.

Styles come and go, but animal prints seem to stay in style if they are subtle. Currently I have a pair of cheetah peep toe heels that get more wear than any of the black, brown or tan shoes in my closet. Since they are in a classic shape, they can fit in my wardrobe for years to come.

3. A Casual Dress. Especially in the warmer months, nothing is easier than slipping on a dress to be about town. This is the season to get them, because cute casual dresses are showing up at every department store, boutique and big box retailer in the states at every price range and size. Feel like bumming it today? You can still be as comfy as you were in your nightgown, but look polished in a great cotton or knit dress. In summer, pair with ballet flats or sandals; come winter slip on some tall boots with your dress for ease and style.

This summer I am loving the tee shirt dress, but wrap styles are always a sure-fire way to show off your feminine shape and be comfortable as well. A dress with cap or short sleeves can easily transition in to the cooler months, a shift style in a sturdy fabric can often be paired with a button-down shirt or turtleneck to make it winter-worthy.

Solids will be more versatile from season to season as well as from day to evening, they are usually more flattering. Find a fabric that has a nice drape, doesn’t cling and doesn’t show everything underneath. A dress right to the knees is a good length on most every frame.

4. A large Square Silk Scarf. I have tried over the years to be the chic woman with a scarf. I am not the type who can knot it so casually at the throat or toss over a sweater. However, I have a scarf or two that get tons of action in my wardrobe.

A few years ago, my sister traveled to London and brought me back a scarf from Liberty – it’s a pomegranate color with oval dots in ivory, gray and candy pink. I was immediately in love with the pattern and the colors, but wondered if I could really get use out of it as that I am more an artsy/funky style of dresser and not the chic elegant scarf-type. Boy was I wrong! I take that scarf on every vacation, and wear it at least once a month. I tie my hair back with it like a headband, I have worn it tied in a knot over a low ponytail, and even like a bandanna in the summertime. I have tied it around my neck with a collared shirt, worn it as a belt, and have knotted it off a belt loop or purse strap for a bit of flair. The bigger the square the more versatile (if it’s big enough it can double as a halter top on warm days or made into a triangle and tied at the waist to accent a simple dress or over trousers or jeans). This weekend at the beach, I wore a simple black tank and jeans, but made the pieces an outfit by knotting my Liberty scarf at a belt loop, having that bit of color and my personality jazz up the ensemble. You will be amazed how often you grab this item to add color and pizzazz to a simple outfit. Make sure it fits your personality and has colors that compliment your current wardrobe.

5. A Great Tote Bag. Be it a traditional L.L. Bean Boat and Tote, a simple black leather item, or a hand-made number you picked up on a world travel, a tote will be a welcome addition to your bag arsenal.

When I say tote, I am not meaning the free faux Boat and Tote you received at a conference, the one you got for making a donation to public television, the one you bought for 50 cents at the grocery, or one of those canvas one from Michael’s that can be decorated with a puffy paint pen or a bedazzler. This tote has structure, substance, style. It fits comfortably over your shoulder, and doesn’t hang to your knees. It has a zipper or flap on top to keep your items safe. It’s clean and is in a style and color that compliments your current personal style. It has a sturdy bottom so water bottles and the such can sit up, and everything doesn’t drop to the center, ruining the shape of the bag. It’s not so big that you can put a weekend’s worth of clothing in it, but it’s big enough for a small water bottle, a book, a cardigan or shawl, a camera and your usually purse necessities. This tote is in place of your purse (not in conjunction) for sightseeing, field trips, long days away from home. In conjunction with your purse, it’s your plane carryon. It works as your bag for the pool or beach (if you don’t stuff your towel in it) and holds small purchases and kids snacks and toys on day trips.

Nothing is more unsightly than a stained and overstuffed bag, a tote will ensure you don’t end up using your purse like… well like a tote. I replace my purse (taking my wallet and purse contents with me, the smaller items in a cosmetic bag to keep them organized) for days at the outlets, on sightseeing, to the pool, the park. Anyplace where I will need more than my traditional purse contents, I make the switch. When not in use, the tote is empty and at the ready. For a flight, I put in it reading material, a pashmina, even my slim laptop.

Too often we collect bags yet never have the right one for the right occasion. Consider donating those random free totes and investing in one good one that will withstand a beating and time and look as chic as the rest of your wardrobe. Consider a style that is a darker color to not show stains, and one of a sturdy fabric that can deal with being stuffed under airplane seats and tossed in the back of SUVs.

Scarf and toe from Nordstrom, jeans by Joe's Jeans, shoes by J. Crew, dress by J. Jill
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