No Apologies

I am writing to let you know after three years I am unsubscribing from your blog. My friend recommended it as a fashion resource for women over 40 and while I have gained some benefit from your capsule wardrobes, I can no longer support a site that will sell out to the highest bidder. In just the past month you have sold articles to promote cookies, men’s watches, a dress from a retailer I have never seen you before promote, and now underwear to prevent as you put it, chub rub. Obviously you care more about the almighty dollar than your self-respect or the approval of your followers. Good luck to you, you will need it with the direction you are going.

And good luck to you, for you too will need it if you feel that your fellow women shouldn't be compensated for their work and instead should worry about gaining approval from others.

In the past month (May 10 – June 10) I have published 22 posts on Wardrobe Oxygen. Five are outfit posts; while these posts may feature some gifted merchandise I chose to feature it because I like it and wore the merchandise in real life. Four are straight-up fashion advice posts, two are reviews of clothing or beauty products I purchased with my own money, three were by my monthly columnists, four were on non-fashion or outfit content (about blogging, retail, my arm surgery and one about weight), and four were sponsored content. Less than 20% of my content is sponsored.

Cookies? When I accepted the sponsorship, I was told the piece would be about self-care and “me time,” which I felt was completely relevant to the blog (I had recently written about coloring, written before about self care).  And while the final contract requirements expected photos and specific wording about said cookies, I didn’t feel the final post was in poor taste because I legitimately love those cookies. In fact, I had two Tuesday night with a glass of wine while finishing my newsletter.

Men’s watches? I may not write regularly about men’s fashion, but I do on occasion. I have also provided gift guides in the past and I truly believe a watch to be a great gift. And to be honest, the pay was really good for that one and I really like partnering with Nordstrom because while I am given guidelines (write about men’s watches, write about flats for summer, etc.), I am allowed to write whatever I want in whatever format feels authentic. I shop at Nordstrom, I love Nordstrom's customer service and selection, I featured Nordstrom a TON before I ever was offered a sponsored post from them and I work hard to provide quality content, advice, and details in every Nordstrom-sponsored post I write.

Christopher & Banks? I think it was a smart partnership. When they approached me I was thrilled. The pricepoint for their collection is good, and many of you have complained in the past that I feature brands that are too expensive for your budget. The brand offers a broad range of sizes, which is refreshing to see. And honestly, that dress is amazing. I’ve worn it a half dozen times, thrown in in the washer and dryer and it still looks great. Many of you let me know you ordered the dress after my post and also adore it. I wouldn't have known about Christopher & Banks if they hadn't reached out to me; many of my favorite brands are ones I learned about thanks to this blog.

As for the Jockey Skimmies I will not apologize for getting paid to promote an that I love. Come on, I wrote a completely unpaid review last year and raved, why should I say no to being paid and given another pair? I legitimately wore them to that wedding and they legitimately saved my skin during the event. And while you may not approve of me discussing chub rub, I'm not ashamed to admit I experience it and I'm thrilled to offer a reasonably-priced product that battles an issue many many women deal with.

Writing this blog takes time. Time I could be spending with my family, hitting the gym, working my way up the career ladder, gardening, writing the next great American novel, sewing the dropped hem in Emerson's favorite skirt (I really need to get around to that…). Being compensated justifies the time I spend (and enjoy) on Wardrobe Oxygen. If I were a professional wardrobe consultant I’d be paid by the hour. If I were a book author people would purchase my book. If I were a teacher I’d be paid a salary.  I have a day job so I can't do most speaking engagements or have time to write e-books and freelance content.  I've made a choice to put my family first so I decline most sponsored activities like hosting events, going on trips, or speaking at conferences so I can be home to put Emerson to bed.  Sponsored posts and affiliate links are my income for the service I provide, and I work hard for the money. I strive to have quality content and a good balance of sponsored content and regular posts.

In the past I have taken on too much sponsored content, and I will admit some of the sponsored posts weren’t the best fit. I also had a few of you upset that you couldn't tell posts were sponsored until the end so I have made a concerted effort to be clearer with the partnership.  I’m learning as I go, working to constantly improve this site and my processes to run it.

Once I made What Every Woman Wanted in Her Wardrobe dot Blogspot dot com into Wardrobe Oxygen, I considered it a business. That doesn't just mean I made money, it meant I made a decision to be more professional with how I handled the blog.  More regular content, more on-topic content, higher quality images, a more consistent schedule.  I do that because I take pride in my job, and I consider Wardrobe Oxygen a job. Just because I don't have a book deal or storefront doesn't mean I should have to work for free.

I wish you the best in finding a resource that is a better fit for you. But please consider the effort put into making that advice that you benefit from; don't you think everyone deserves to be compensated for their work?

88 Comments

  1. June 16, 2015 / 2:13 pm

    You may have a lost a follower but you gained another one after I managed to stumble across this post! My goodness . . . I can’t help but think she may be a failed blogger herself and resents you for succeeding where she has failed.

    Any blogger who will talk about “chub rub” has a fan for life!

    Besides the jockey skimmies Monistat also has an excellent product called Soothing Care Chafing Relief. I use both.

  2. Jennifer Bright Tinker
    June 15, 2015 / 9:14 pm

    Shake it off Ally. Most of us get that this is a job and you have to make money. For Pete’s sake who has time to give free advice? I bought those short last year, because of you, and LOVE them. They saved me this summer where every day so far has been above 94. You rock. I also am THANKFUL for your men’s ideas. It helps me dress my husband. Huge hug from me!

  3. Karen
    June 15, 2015 / 12:58 pm

    Late to the party, as usual! But after reading all the other comments I really don’t have much to add. I appreciate your reviews and as others have said, if there’s a post that really doesn’t apply to me, I just skim through it and move on. Just like that commenter should move on to another blog if this one bothers her so much.

  4. Lawgurl
    June 13, 2015 / 8:06 pm

    Hi Allie. I was one of your semi-haters/criticizers (diet stuff) and you the time to write an entire, extremely well-writtenblog post in response to my question about Who Is the Real Allie. I admire your gutsiness and badassery. This time I’m wondering: Why give light to this (or even my)?shade? Why not ignore it and do you? Try not to be defensive and mad about negative feedback. Ignore it. Or acknowledge what’s constructive in it (if any), make adjustments and move on. Praying and rooting for you. The blogosphere would make me crazy.

  5. TinaBowling
    June 13, 2015 / 8:15 am

    You can’t please everyone! I enjoy your blog very much, you are a great writer. Keep on truckin’!

  6. Kathy Frazier
    June 12, 2015 / 10:22 am

    Excellent post! And I enjoy the sponsored posts as well as the “real life” posts. The variety of topics and excellent writing keep me checking your blog daily. Keep up the excellent work!!! (and yes, you should be paid for it!)

  7. Danielle
    June 12, 2015 / 9:05 am

    Allie, Keep being awesome. Haters gonna hate. Everyone already said what I wanted to say. So I’ll just tell you that I have read your blog for 10 years and will continue to until the day you pack it in. Because I appreciate your voice, perspective on life and personal style. We may not be exactly alike, but that’s why I keep reading (and wishing I could live in the Greenbelt so that we could be besties ;-)). Did I buy the cookies? No, but I bought a silver cuff because I was inspired. And that’s what you do. Inspire!!

  8. Mallory
    June 12, 2015 / 8:51 am

    You deserve to be paid for your work and you definitely have the right to garner income from your blog in any way that you chose. You could plaster every square inch of this site with ads, and while I would sigh and I hope you don’t take that route, I’d probably still subscribe because I truly enjoy reading what you have to say.
    As someone else already mentioned, I can chose not to read the posts that aren’t topics I’m interested in; I can chose not to read the posts that say ‘sponsored’ (since you do make it VERY clear when they are, which I appreciate). Easy as that. Unfortunately this reader decided to take the all or nothing approach, and then took that choice out on you with her passive aggressive email. Her loss.

    And if she actually read your blog, she would know that the Jockey sponsored post made 100% sense because you have gone on at length about wearing them and how much you like them….

  9. June 12, 2015 / 8:20 am

    Excellent response. As I am finding out, there will always be folks who don’t like you. Like your other readers I find it mazing that people do not just exercise their choice to skip a post rather than take the next step of unliking or writing a comment such as above. You always have transparency and your defense of women being compensated for their work is sound. I can attest, it takes tons of time to do a blog and when we work hard to present an item or designer we like we should be compensated. This is a flexible and wonderful vehicle for women to add extra income and they deserve it. You sure do, you work really hard at this.
    Accidental Icon
    http://www.accidentalicon.com

  10. Caro
    June 12, 2015 / 7:39 am

    *sigh* Allie, I don’t know how you continue to do what you do with such grace. You’ve invested a ton of time into your craft – & I am thankful that you are getting some compensation for this hard work & I am thankful you continue to put yourself out there every single day.

  11. LT Kerr
    June 12, 2015 / 5:46 am

    Allie — I am saddened to read that you must defend yourself on your own blog. I am over 50 and glean a lot from your posts. How could you have known we are shopping for a watch to give to Hubs for Father’s Day? That posting was so timely!
    When commissions started for bloggers the vendors called the shots. Now, nearly every blog has sponsors and the bloggers call the shots — that’s improvement in my book.
    Keep up the great blogging — casted hand and all — you’re amazing {{{Allie}}}

  12. Catherine Connolly
    June 12, 2015 / 5:20 am

    Hi Alison, I read your blog form Ireland, so I will never be purchasing from the US because of customs, shipping costs and returns, but I don’t take any notice of the sponsored posts. If I like them I read them if not I just skim over them.
    I can’t believe that someone has taken such issue over sponsored posts and advertising content. I call these the little people that have too much time on their hands and nothing else to do. Maybe they should take up charity work.
    Keep doing what you’re doing and don’t take any notice of them.
    Catherine.

  13. Ruth Slavid
    June 12, 2015 / 3:20 am

    Hi Allie, I think on the whole you deal with your sponsored posts pretty well – you tell us that they are sponsored, you tell us why they are sponsored and then you tell us what you think. And often you are discovering something new. All that is fine. But… there is a but. I felt uncomfortable about the ‘cookies’ (sorry I’m English and it seems a weird word to me – I would always say biscuits). It is outside what you usually write about which would be fine in itself. But given the increasing evidence of the danger of too much sugar in our diets and the efforts the food industry makes to promote itself, I didn’t feel comfortable with this. After all we all need to wear clothes, even if some of us buy too many, but we don’t need cookies so I didn’t like you promoting them on your blog. I don’t want to be puritan – if you had been out for the day and had a great ice cream and mentioned it that would be fine. After all none of us are angels. But I know you know too much sugar isn’t good, because you blogged about Whole 30 (which I don’t really agree with either, but that’s another story, and I don’t say you shouldn’t write about it). Taking the food industry’s dollar seems a step too far. Please take this as friendly criticism as it is the way it is intended.

  14. Erika
    June 12, 2015 / 12:52 am

    Say what? I think it says more about her than anything else. Wardrobe Oxygen is excellent, down-to-earth and generally wonderful. Few of us can afford to do things for free, particularly if it’s something we send out into the world for others to enjoy and it’s naïve to think otherwise.

    Thank you Alison, for all the time and effort you put into this blog.

  15. Lisa
    June 11, 2015 / 11:16 pm

    you are so awesome and I love your blog…uh, read it daily and follow you on FB. I gotta get some Jockey skimmies because I am experiencing chub rub more than ever before this year. Is that TMI? Keep at it, Alison!!

  16. crtfly
    June 11, 2015 / 10:56 pm

    There are many of us who love you and love what you do Alison. You should get paid for your hard work. I don’t see anything wrong with you doing sponsored posts the way that you do them. You are very ethical and will not feature a sponsored post of an item that you do not support, approve of, and often use yourself. I know that you only promote items you believe in, whether or not you get paid for your comments.

    I occasionally purchase some of your recommendations. My decision to buy has nothing to do with if you were paid or not. It only has to do with if I think the item is good for me. I trust you completely. That is saying a lot because there are very few people I trust in RL, let along online.

    You are the best, the very best.

    Chris

  17. Toria
    June 11, 2015 / 10:47 pm

    This is the sad reality of being a writer. As soon as you put yourself into the public sphere, there will be people who want to take you down. It really stings getting a response like that, especially when you’re doing something as innocent as a style blog (I mean, come on, it’s not like she’s telling you to vote Republican or anything!).
    I agree in essence that the cookie and men’s watch posts were a bit off topic but anyone who thinks bloggers simply write for free because they have all the time and money in the world, and don’t write articles in exchange for product samples, is pretty naive.
    If something is deeply offensive, by all means complain. I was disappointed by the watch post because it didn’t relate to me and I wanted to read about dresses, jacket and shoes, but it certainly didn’t offend me.
    Keep doing your thing Allison, we still love this blog.

  18. Val
    June 11, 2015 / 9:00 pm

    Shout out to you Alison for the review of the Jockey Skimmies, I ordered a pair after reading it!! So grateful you take on all kinds of topics!!! Let those who don’t appreciate your amazing advice leave – we’re all better off without them 🙂

  19. Dee
    June 11, 2015 / 8:07 pm

    Good Grief! how ridiculous. Don’t read what you don’t like. There’s no need to send such an email. I’ve stopped reading many blogs that no longer appealed to me for whatever reason but I have never felt the need to notify the blogger of my ‘departure’ and the reasons why. If I were you, I wouldn’t have bothered with a response. Why shouldn’t you get paid for what you do! I don’t see how it is any different from anyone else that has a hobby or interest and finds a way to get paid for doing what they love. I love your blog and have benefit from your advice. Keep up the good work 🙂

  20. Christine
    June 11, 2015 / 7:08 pm

    Nicely said. I can only imagine what goes in to maintaining the high quality blogs (like yours) that I enjoy. I trust your judgement in filtering the content you share with your audience.

  21. Laurel
    June 11, 2015 / 6:52 pm

    I’ve thought all along that bloggers should charge a monthly subscription fee which would offer a means of well deserved compensation while weeding out the people who spend way to much time being negative. We all pay for books, magazines and newspapers we choose to read and a daily blog offers information and entertainment in the very same fashion. I appreciate your posts and yours would be one I’d pay to read. Thank you.

  22. Kathy
    June 11, 2015 / 6:11 pm

    I love your blog and think the sponsored posts have been just as good as everything else you post! I’m glad you’re being compensated for your work!

  23. lcts0703
    June 11, 2015 / 5:30 pm

    I know its hard to read criticism, even when you think its unwarranted (which it was). I just wanted to give you an honest “attagirl”. There are few curvy bloggers out there I can relate to and I always enjoy your posts and feel like you go above and beyond to make your sponsorships and affliations clear. Just keeping on doing what you’re doing!!

  24. Bridget
    June 11, 2015 / 4:34 pm

    I’ve already posted on fb in response to this blog post, but let me reiterate here: Brava for this excellent response to your unsubscriber! You absolutely deserve to be compensated for the hard work you put into this blog and for the excellent value you provide. Apart from that, I find many of your reviews and affiliate links super helpful, so I often appreciate them just as much as your other content. Keep doing your thing, lady!

  25. Michelle Ramsey
    June 11, 2015 / 2:47 pm

    Don’t let someone like this get you down – underneath her nastiness is probably a very sad person. I for one appreciate your effort to make me look better. I am 55 and really trying hard to stay current. Without wonderful writers like you – what in the heck would I look like?? I admire you very much – you are a wife, mom, you have a job, and you deliver excellent content to us on your blog. Thank you!!!!!

  26. KatieinMA
    June 11, 2015 / 2:25 pm

    This is why I KEEP following you!

  27. Gayle W.
    June 11, 2015 / 1:59 pm

    I rarely comment (sorry), but I do want to say that a) I totally agree with the others regarding your classy, informative response to the rude negative Nelly unsubscriber; b) I feel you are doing a fabulous job with this blog and the content you post; and c) unlike a few commenters, I RUSH to read anything you write about blogging, behind the scenes, or hate mail. I’ve noticed that many of your followers are bloggers as well (myself included, but not fashion related) and I think you’ve been providing a secondary service right along side your wardrobe and style advice. While I agree that you don’t owe any apologies or need to defend your choices, it is interesting to know the how and why behind your decisions for Wardrobe Oxygen. Rock on!

  28. Rachel Rossen
    June 11, 2015 / 1:59 pm

    Once again, thank you very much for your blog.

  29. June 11, 2015 / 1:12 pm

    This reminds me of one of the things I don’t miss about being a dentist….you just can’t please everyone (yet as people pleasers, we certainly try). Until people walk a mile in other’s footsteps, they just can’t understand the reasons behind our decisions! I think your blog is a wonderful mix…jodie
    http://www.jtouchofstyle.com

  30. LoriM
    June 11, 2015 / 1:09 pm

    I wholeheartedly agree with all the commenters and I’m glad to see you’re getting so much support. In fact, I think it’s really time to “move on” from responding to this kind of mail. I’m sure it’s hard but they really don’t deserve an entire post from you, Alison. Your time is too precious to go to all this trouble to carefully explain yourself AGAIN on this matter. I’ll admit it’s an interesting post to read but I really have better things to READ, too. Heehee, hope you took that the right way! I think you know I love you!! I was thinking, just yesterday, how, with all the carefully-selected fashion blogs I do take the time to follow, there is none that really compares to yours. Thank you, thank you, thank you. (I think I’m feeling a little emotional about all this – sorry!)

  31. Alison S
    June 11, 2015 / 12:58 pm

    Alison – I love gleaning new information from your blog. I have tried many things I have learned about from you. I also know you aren’t going to recommend something you don’t believe in and I really appreciate that. I like how you keep it real – life is not all about fashion, sometimes it’s how to be happy where you are, no matter the bumps and bruises. Like most regular blog followers – some articles aren’t going to interest me as much as others – but so what. Not every article in the newspaper or magazine does either. Please don’t stop what you are doing. – Another Alison

  32. Mabuhangin
    June 11, 2015 / 12:43 pm

    I was also very happy to learn about the Jockey items and your, much trusted, review led me to something I am so happy to have bought! I kind of like those posts.

  33. Candice
    June 11, 2015 / 12:39 pm

    Doesn’t this woman know that your cookie post was delicious? I love that you get paid for your wonderful blog otherwise you might not do it anymore. And that would be devastating. As my British Grandma would say, “Good riddance to bad rubbish!”

  34. Sonia
    June 11, 2015 / 12:36 pm

    Loved your response, Allie. I have followed your blog for years and sometimes I like your paid endorsements, and sometimes I didn’t. But, that never stopped me from enjoying the blog all together. Due to your personal endorsement, I have purchased items I would have not have had they not received your personal seal of approval. Thank you for that. Yes, you do have to earn a living and, since you’re an awesome and thoughtful writer, blogging is the way to go. Forget the naysayers, you have a huge fan base that continues to grow every day. I am pleased to be one of your supporters and a huge fan.

  35. Ashley Calder
    June 11, 2015 / 12:14 pm

    First-time commenter here to say I appreciate all of the time and effort you put into blogging. As a fellow female blogger who struggles to keep my own blog afloat and interesting, I am tired of people complaining about blog content. As a mom heading back into the work force, I’ve been stalking your wardrobe advice and capsule posts, and am so glad that you share this with all of us! Thank you. 🙂

  36. Cat23
    June 11, 2015 / 12:14 pm

    You tell ’em!

  37. Pam
    June 11, 2015 / 12:06 pm

    I’ll bet you any money your complainer did NOT unsubscribe from your blog at all. She just wanted to gripe and now she’s enjoying reading all of our comments. In her own mind she’s famous! LOL
    You go, Alison! I am much older than you, we don’t have the same body type, I have no children but I love your blog! You’re genuine and fun and if you have a blog post that’s of no interest to me so what? I return to read your blog multiple times per week and will continue doing so. Thank you for being here!

  38. Formica Dinette
    June 11, 2015 / 12:04 pm

    This isn’t intended to be an insult, but I’ve only read about half of the posts during the few months I have been following Wardrobe Oxygen. Wanna know why? Because not all of them are to my taste. And yet overall I enjoy your blog enough that I continue to follow and have recommended it to others. I say keep doing as you like! [insert “haters gonna hate” gif here]

  39. Jenny
    June 11, 2015 / 11:59 am

    It’s so interesting, because I read your post about the Jockey underwear and loved it! I thought it was fantastic you addressed the issue of chub rub, and I totally checked out the Jockey website and thought it was really well done. I’m planning on getting a pair myself, since I pretty much live in maxi dresses during the summer.
    I’ve been reading your blog for a few years now, and have always appreciated your honest take on styles, and that you feature both your professional working looks and the casual weekend ones. Keep up the great work!

  40. Nikki
    June 11, 2015 / 11:46 am

    Dr. Seuss said it best! Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind! Seriously it’s wasting my time having to read you defend your decisions as a blogger for her content . Let those who leave, leave. Those of us who stick around don’t need your expailantion for your content and when or why you get paid for it.

  41. Christina Swanson
    June 11, 2015 / 11:21 am

    Great response! I don’t think you had to justify those 4 sponsored posts but I applaud you for doing so. In reading your justifications, I remembered the posts and here were my thoughts:

    1. Cookies…I love those cookies too and I felt less guilt for indulging after reading your post to take some time for yourself…and indulge from time to time.

    2. Men’s watches…I just skimmed this one because my husband just bought a really nice watch on a recent vacation. But, I thought it was very timely (did you see what I did there?) since Father’s Day is upon us and let’s face it men can be really difficult to shop for.

    3. Christopher & Banks…I have always chalked them up as a retailer for my mom’s generation. After reading your post, I went into one of their stores (with my mom) with a more open mind. And lo and behold, I found a top I loved and have worn 3 times in the past 2 weeks. I also found the salespeople to be very helpful. So thank you for opening my eyes to a retailer that offers such a variety of styles, price points, and sizes.

    4. Jockey Skimmies…I am kicking myself because I bought these after your last un-sponsored review and forgot they were somewhere in my Bermuda triangle of a lingerie drawer. So, thank you for reminding me that I have something to combat a very common problem among women (even skinny women may not have the thigh gap) and for inspiring me to finally organize my lingerie drawer to see what other treasures I have forgotten I owned (I also pulled out a black corset…no recollection of where or when I got that).

    Keep doing your thing, Allie!

  42. Val
    June 11, 2015 / 11:21 am

    I read all the time, but rarely comment (Disqus hates me for some reason). I just wanted to chime in to say that I have zero issues with the way you handle your sponsored content. I love having this free resource available to me and I love that you are able to get compensation from time to time. If a particular post feels awkward, I just skip it and come back the next day. Keep on keeping on.

  43. Victoria Kaye Frederick
    June 11, 2015 / 11:17 am

    I love that you took the high road and shut her down simultaneously. You are classy and a savvy business woman!

  44. June 11, 2015 / 11:02 am

    As a fellow blogger, and someone who did the same sponsored Jockey post, I had to weigh in. Whew, what hostility in that comment you got. While I do think some bloggers take on sponsored posts in ways that are incredibly self-serving that provide no value to their readers, i don’t think we should all be lumped into the same category. Unfortunately, many blogs change when they become more popular and more companies pursue them for sponsored opportunities. Yet, like I am sure you are, I am extremely selective about the sponsored posts I do and always try provide more value to the reader than I am getting compensated. I would never suggest something I don’t believe in and will turn down sponsored projects if I have something else from another company that I believe in more strongly.

    Even if someone is a working and successful stylist or wardrobe consultant, like I am, we still need to look for additional ways to make a living. Blogging does not only help with that but it also gives those who may not be able to afford hiring me gain access to some advice. Why should we not get paid for our hard work? I think it is always important to make that as a blogger you haven’t gone off track or stopped providing value. And, for what it is worth, this is a true story: I had a reader of my blog ask to send me money for all the free help she has gotten through reading it regularly. I was blown away by the gesture and pleased that I have remained true to goal of having my readers walking away feeling like they have gotten something of value from what I have written and shared. Of course, I didn’t accept her money. I made a monetary donation to Dress for Success in her name.

    Keep on keeping on, sorry you had to deal with that message.

  45. Michaelann
    June 11, 2015 / 11:02 am

    beautiful response. love your work, pleased you are compensated.

  46. tiger1962
    June 11, 2015 / 10:46 am

    Exactly…blogs are “opinions” of the author. If I read a certain blog and I don’t agree with the content, author or anything else going on, I either skip over it or I don’t read it again. I don’t agree or identify with 100% of every blog I read. But I also don’t go insulting or posting comments like “I’m leaving” (reminds me of when you read some folks FB comments announcing they are leaving FB) so just leave; LOL ok, bye. I promise I won’t cry. LOL And if you can make money doing a blog ? More power to you! Wish I had the time myself to do it. 😀

  47. anne
    June 11, 2015 / 10:38 am

    I am 68 years old(?) and thoroughly enjoy your blog AND all the ideas you give me, sponsored or not. All women have the right to be paid for the work they do; your blog is not just a hobby, so go for it Allie!

  48. Jennifer Williams Porter
    June 11, 2015 / 10:32 am

    I was going to post some thoughtful comment about how great this blog is, and how much I enjoy reading it, and how you can’t please everyone, and how you much I liked your response post, and ….. then I read all the other comments already posted, and I thought “Everything they said!” 🙂

  49. Atmikha
    June 11, 2015 / 10:20 am

    I’m happy to hear you are being compensated for your time and efforts, because you have definitely helped me with my daily struggle to get out of the house.

  50. Pam S.
    June 11, 2015 / 10:15 am

    I think that those who think bloggers don’t deserve to be paid should be ignored. They don’t get it. Blogging seems to fall into one of those professions that certain people think should be done as a “calling.” Like teaching for instance. Or social work. And god forbid someone in one of those professions have the expectation that they should support themselves and their families with their work. So rock on Allie, you don’t need to justify yourself. That gal isn’t going to find a high quality, professional blog that doesn’t have sponsors.

  51. Vicki B
    June 11, 2015 / 9:57 am

    Anyone who reads a blog should understand it is a business. Why would you do all the work involved for free? You should be compensated. I am a very new reader of your blog and I enjoy it immensely. I found your article on weight to be uplifting to me as I age and add weight and shifting sands to my resume. I also loved the article about the black dress and I ordered it from CB. They were having a 25% sale so the dress was very reasonable.Haven’t worn it yet, but am going to a gala next week and will wear it then. Thanks for your classy reply to this person. I guess everyone has their opinion.

  52. tiger1962
    June 11, 2015 / 9:51 am

    In spite of that person’s comments, you KNOW they will be back here reading all of these comments in response to THEIR posting. LMAO ! First of all, it is YOUR blog to do and run how you please. If anyone doesn’t like it, simply unfollow, case closed, no fanfair, no hate mail. Secondly, there is nothing wrong with getting paid to write something or promote something as long as you truly believe in the product. Only if you hated the product or don’t believe it works, then I think you’d be doing yourself a misfortune, but even still, that’s your choice too. I always get a laugh out of the mean spirited comments people leave on blogs as if they expect to be taken seriously when not even written in a way that is constructive. I usually think they’re some bored silly person sitting behind the computer screen with time to waste or else they write for some snarky blog who’s main focus is “ragging on other bloggers” (seriously? get a life!!). In any case, I like your blog, I read it, and what doesn’t apply to me, I skim over and as long as you believe in what you write about, I’m still following. (And, I was really interested in the chub rub article by the way as I applies to me as well). LOL – keep up the great work Allie ! xo

  53. Grace McNamee Decker
    June 11, 2015 / 9:44 am

    Great response.I will admit I was surprised by the cookie review 🙂 but this blog is a business, and I get it. And the others all seemed in line with the kinds of things you normally write about. Which I enjoy reading. 🙂

  54. Ginger
    June 11, 2015 / 9:44 am

    What a well written response to a negative, uncalled for email! Adore you and all your posts! Haters gonna hate….

  55. Tiffany Lynn
    June 11, 2015 / 9:44 am

    Personally, I appreciated your post on Christopher Banks. I thought of it as an old lady store, and it obvious that they have items for ladies of all ages. I would actually stop by one the next time I run across it. There’s nothing wrong with discovering a brand and letting others know about it, and if you get paid, bonus!

  56. Alexandra
    June 11, 2015 / 9:44 am

    It blows my mind that some readers would take such a censorious attitude about content they read for free. How can someone act entitled towards a good that (a) requires hard work to create and (b) they get to read for free? Why in the world should you NOT receive fair pay for hard work?

    I’m a longtime reader/lurker, who emerged from PPD (or at least its appearance-related aspects) in part THANKS TO YOUR BLOG, and I read it every day with great enjoyment. Thank you for the smart hard work and the excellent content.

  57. June 11, 2015 / 9:39 am

    I was also a bit confused about the cookie post, but before I gave up dairy, I used to love them too, so I can’t really fault you 😉

    The Jockey’s skimmies post on the other hand? Super useful! I went out and bought a pair after your last post and they saved my summer!

    In any case, I wanted to take a moment to tell you that I love that you have the time/energy/financial compensation to write this blog! Not every post is useful for me (no dairy = no milano cookies!), but I’ve found a lot of posts resonate with me and I’m really looking forward to new content every week. Thanks for contributing good stuff to the internet :-]

  58. fayebrowndc
    June 11, 2015 / 9:38 am

    I guess she didn’t see the blog (a year ago? two years ago?) when you wrote about the hair salon that wanted to sponsor you and you wrote about how horrible they were. I trust your reviews and trust that you wouldn’t take a sponsor for money alone if you didn’t believe what you were writing. Keep up the good work, Alison!

  59. Kim
    June 11, 2015 / 9:33 am

    Allison, I love you as always. I don’t always read your sponsored posts because a lot of times they don’t apply to me. Plus, I just prefer your outfit posts more than anything. I have read a lot of blogs and most do some sort of sponsorship, because otherwise there just isn’t a way to make money off of them (as you note here).

    You don’t need to apologize to this person or to anyone for the way you run your business. I don’t blame you for doing so, but I wish you didn’t feel like you need to justify why you do what you do to readers, commenters, and the people at GOMI. You just keep doing you.

    • Kim
      June 11, 2015 / 9:34 am

      Also, now I want some cookies.

      • June 11, 2015 / 10:22 am

        Right?! me too. Orange Milanos for preference. Or Brussels.

  60. fashionforgiants
    June 11, 2015 / 9:17 am

    Very well written and I couldn’t agree more with your points. Also, I discovered Jockey Skimmies last year and they are the gosh-darned best. As are you.

  61. Constance Thackaberry
    June 11, 2015 / 9:14 am

    I love your blog, your monthly newsletter and your kind response to a not so kind person. You are totally honest in your reviews and your partnerships. Thank you for helping me to find clothes that look good on my curvy body and make me feel wonderful!

  62. Rebecca Pruett
    June 11, 2015 / 9:13 am

    Teeeehhhhheeeee! Guess what?! I don’t read every article of every blog I follow! It can be done! You choose what you write. I choose what I read. There is no requirement to read everything. Nicely handled! (And by the way, thank you for the “chub rub” article. I remember the unsponsored post you wrote that also referenced this problem and I am glad to have a chance to win a gift card now!)

  63. Julia
    June 11, 2015 / 9:12 am

    I have visited this blog multiple times a week for years now and shared it with my closest friends. All of them remark (and I agree) on the depth and incredible work that goes into your posts. This blog helped guide me through professional presentation and has even made me cry with its sincerity at times. Keep up the great work. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, humor, and -most importantly- your time. Haters gonna hate. 🙂

  64. Lissa Thomas
    June 11, 2015 / 9:04 am

    And continue to not apologize! I believe YOUR name is on the blog and you are the writer. So write what you want to write about whether it is cookies or Jimmy Choo’s.

  65. Jane B
    June 11, 2015 / 8:59 am

    Touche! I am supportive of your style, content and response!

  66. bubu
    June 11, 2015 / 8:54 am

    In addition to supporting you 100%, including your right to earn income for work you do, I would echo the other posters and add this: in addition to your other qualities as a fashion blogger, you also instruct by demonstrating how to handle criticism in a classy, level-headed way. I don’t know if you have to vent an angry post first (I sometimes need to write an angry letter I’ll never send just to let out a strong emotion, then move on to the real version) but you really have an excellent talent for standing your ground while not getting defensive. Bravo — it is an excellent trait, and especially appreciated in another woman, in teaching us all how better to present ourselves, interact with others, and stand up tall with our right to be in the space we occupy.

  67. Tutti
    June 11, 2015 / 8:04 am

    Honestly, I love your posts. Whenever one is sponsored I think, “Allie must really like this company.” Especially since you are so upfront wityh how you select sponsorships. I think its fine for people to walk away and even let you know their reasons, but that doesn’t mean they’re right or you need to change what/how you do this work. I appreciate your intention and trust your determination of what is right for YOUR blog!

    Also, your content has been on point lately!

  68. Nancydrew
    June 11, 2015 / 8:00 am

    I agree that the writer of that email seems very personally offended. I just had to add that the Pepperidge Farm cookie post was bit outside the norm, but I loved reading it- it had been years since I had thought about the mint Milano cookies my Mom and I would share after every dr appointment that I had to get shots at when I was a kid. Great cookies and great memories! I adore your blog and your honesty!

  69. beeejet
    June 11, 2015 / 7:56 am

    WTG! I’ve always felt that you do a great job with the sponsored posts. When reading this, I couldn’t even recall the sponsored posts emailer was talking about except for the cookies one. Speaking for myself, the skimmies post yesterday did not surprise me to find here. However after seeing a post on 3 other blogs in my reader on the same day, it very quickly became… tired. I 100% support you getting paid though, and can easily forgive even the most tired sponsored post when coming from a blogger with such great content/advice.

  70. June 11, 2015 / 7:53 am

    First, let me say I too have suffered from chub rub and Jockey skimmies are the sh*t. Why not get paid to write about something you love? Oh well, bye to her.

  71. kpwathen
    June 11, 2015 / 7:53 am

    Brava, Alison! You absolutely deserve compensation for the work that you do. Obviously, this person has never had to make the sacrifices that blogging demands and clearly does not understand the work that goes into producing high quality content like that of Wardrobe Oxygen. No apologies is right!

  72. June 11, 2015 / 7:51 am

    Ummmmmm I sure hope she wasn’t dissing the idea of you writing about how to deal with chub rub because let me tell you lady THE STRUGGLE IS REAL.

    I think women who don’t routinely deal with it don’t realize how easily it can ruin you whole freaking day. I have to wear bike shorts under my skirts/dresses, which necessitates a certain length. I can’t go even remotely short in either, because my thighs are not dainty or delicate.

    I don’t know. I mean, she’s perfectly able to walk away if she doesn’t like the blog. I even see her point in emailing you with her concerns and reasoning so that you are aware of what might chase readers away. But this is similar to a webcomic artist I read, who routinely gets emails from people who not only wanted to send him a “THIS IS WHY I’M LEAVING YOU” email but expect him to change his comic based on their wants and needs, them, them personally, and not what works for him at this full-time job he’s made for himself based on his skills and creativity. They want this one character to act more this way – and they expect him to change that, because he received an email asking him to. Regardless of his plans for the comic, his characterizations, his work – they don’t like a thing he did therefore he should change it, right then, because they said so.

    It’s interesting. Because really, blog readers ARE the consumers taking in the blog/product, and whether or not something is working is important to get feedback on. And I understand some of her concerns – cookies do not equal style blog. Okay, I get that. But you’re allowed to try new things from new brands.

    “The almighty dollar”. Seriously. What kind of money do they think you’re making here?

    • Ros
      June 11, 2015 / 8:03 am

      I find it interesting that the people who scorn “the almighty dollar” are usually doing it in the context of expecting others to work for free.

      • June 12, 2015 / 10:12 am

        Blogging is in a strange, nebulous place when it comes to moneymaking. People want blogs that update routinely, have fresh new clothes to show or fresh experiences or jewelry or shoes or whatever. All of that takes money and time. When a blogger starts to take steps to make the kind of money that allows them to purcahse those new fresh things, readers get defensive and unhappy right off the bat. They wanted all of that to magically exist, damn it, not to be something that takes effort and time and therefore involves some kind of compensation.

        We want bloggers to be able to produce content nonstop, but without giving them any money or time to produce it with. The only people for whom that is going to work long-term is people who were already wealthy without working.

        I don’t mind blogger compensation, but I do think there’s a fine line to tow between making money and becoming a magazine ad. If I want to read a fashion magazine, I’ll go buy one. I read blogs to get inspiration from real women who aren’t airbrushed, photoshopped skinnier, or who can’t seem to wear a single item of clothing that costs less than $150.

  73. Jenny
    June 11, 2015 / 7:51 am

    I have said this several times, but it seems appropriate to repeat it today – I am very glad you make money blogging. I get so much enjoyment from reading Wardrobe Oxygen, and it’s 100% free for me (well except all the shoes and beauty supplies I buy because you recommend them). You do a great job letting us know what content is sponsored and you’re open and honest about getting paid to blog. Work and life have been so busy lately that I’ve cut WAY back on blog reading, however; I always find time to read anything you write.

  74. June 11, 2015 / 7:49 am

    Yes, yes, yes! HT to you for monetizing your blog and making it work for you WHILE serving your readers with fabulous, helpful content. Women like you inspire and encourage me.

  75. Nihongo Dame Desu
    June 11, 2015 / 7:37 am

    Here’s where I come from. I don’t read the posts I don’t want to. Simple as that. This person seems almost personally offended. Skip over what you don’t like or what isn’t a good fit. I’m not in the market for a men’s watch, so I barely even skimmed that entry. I thought the cookie post did seem like an advertisement and had little to do with why I read your wonderful blog, so while I did read it, it was more of a skim. But so what if there is a post– or even 4 posts–that don’t appeal to me? It seems petulant to storm off due to that if someone finds the rest of your content interesting or useful, especially given how easy it is to read a title or a few lines of a post and realize it isn’t for that reader, and move on. I’m especially astounded at her complaint about your slipshorts post, since that seems very much in line with your blog, and because your earlier post on the product got me hooked on what I now consider a wardrobe essential. If her thighs don’t chafe, that post isn’t for her, just as your more boho outfit posts aren’t really for me since it isn’t my aesthetic. Weird thing to get upset about, and even weirder to feel the need to send an email that you are taking your ball and going home. Rock on, Allison, and I’m glad you’ve found ways to get paid so that you can keep bringing me the content I love (and even the stuff I don’t)!

    • TrishBadish
      June 11, 2015 / 8:56 am

      > I don’t read the posts I don’t want to. Simple as that.

      Well said! The mind boggles at people who take offense when a site they’re visiting – visiting voluntarily – has content they don’t care to read, as if by visiting they’re obligated to read every word.

    • June 11, 2015 / 10:16 am

      Exactly what I was going to say. I’m a fairly new reader here, but I follow a TON of other blogs and I certainly don’t expect those bloggers to post 100% content I’m interested in or agree with. Does the reader give up reading every newspaper or magazine because of the advertisements and advertorials published in them? I’m betting not. To assume that a style advice blog of this level of quality can continue to exist and maintain its standards without some form of compensation (other than “gee I really like your posts; you’re awesome”) is incredibly naïve. No one forces her to read anything. And no one pays for the wonderful content provided on this blog.

  76. Gervy
    June 11, 2015 / 7:34 am

    Happy to read sponsored posts Allie, if it keeps you writing this blog!

  77. Patricia
    June 11, 2015 / 7:27 am

    Bravo! We get to read your work for free. And it is work; these blogs don’t just write themselves. You deserve compensation for your labors. And you often provide specific advice on reader issues. Thank you for being here everyday.

  78. Katie
    June 11, 2015 / 7:22 am

    I completely disagree with the unsubscriber – you are remarkably upfront and selective about your sponsors and I appreciate the partnerships that allow you to continue your work on the blog. Please keep up the great work!

  79. Lisa
    June 11, 2015 / 7:16 am

    What a classy response to a very bitter and sad person.
    I love your blog, you deserve to be paid for the work you do and I learn a lot every time I read it. Rock on!

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