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No pics today.

My husband took pictures this morning… but I don’t like how they look. Shirt ended up a bit untucked, belt looks better IRL than in a still, and I am a sweaty mess. I guess this is the real Allie, but I don’t feel like sharing it. Every time I have an “off” day (which happens to all mere mortals), it gets plastered on a dozen different forums where people criticize my gut, my cankles, my fivehead saying, “THIS woman is giving fashion advice?” I have been blogging for six years, I am used to criticism, I know it’s a part of being a fashion blogger. However, sometimes it gets a bit overwhelming for anyone, even someone who knows it’s par for the course.

I am the first to say if you choose to put yourself on the internet, you have chosen to have yourself scrutinized. You made this decision to have a public lifestyle, and if you can’t handle the mean comments, the snark, and the criticism, the heat… then get out of the kitchen. But even moi, who has a pretty tough skin, can sometimes want to scream at the computer, “ENOUGH ALREADY!”

I have cellulite and wrinkles and flat hair in this humidity. I have a gut, which existed pre-pregnancy and is even more pronounced now that I have had a child and have no time or desire for a zillion crunches a day. Today my hem is held up with a safety pin because I didn’t have time to tackle it with Stitch Witcheryir?t=whaevewomneei 20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B0001DSIHI, which holds up most of my hems these days. A good percentage of my wardrobe is being held hostage at the dry cleaner’s because I have spent my clothing allowance for the month and can’t afford to pick them up until August. I have big calves, and big ankles and my knees are lumpy and scarred from far too many disastrous bike rides as a child and drunken escapades as a college student. I enjoyed tanning beds far too much as a young adult and have the wrinkles and age spots to prove it. I have bad posture, soft arms, I chew my cuticles, and I am in need of a root touch-up.

I have never claimed to be perfect, and I have never claimed to be an expert. I write this blog in hopes it can help some women feel better about themselves. To help the fashion clueless gain some insight into how style evolves. To offer suggestions on how to update a current wardrobe to make it more useful, more personal, more effective. To show fellow women that you do not need to be rich or thin or young to be stylish.

I blog for those who want this help, want a virtual friend who will offer suggestions and ideas they may have not thought of before. For gorgeous fashion, there is The Glamourai or Atlantic-Pacific or Sea of Shoes. For beautiful women, there is Keiko Lynn or Fashion Toast or Karla’s Closet. For professional fashion advice, there are amazing books by folks such as Bridgette Raesir?t=whaevewomneei 20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B001JJBO60, Tim Gunnir?t=whaevewomneei 20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=0810992841, or Nina Garciair?t=whaevewomneei 20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B002U0KPJO.

For suggestions from an average woman who has been a size 4 and a size 16 and everything in between; who has worked in creative and conservative offices and knows how it can be to have a body and life change from having a child, deal with wide calves and large bust; has been a personal shopper and wardrobe consultant for women of all ages, shapes, sizes, and lifestyles… then read my blog. Feel free to like what I write, or hate it immensely. Tell me when I am wrong, offer suggestions on how to improve my style or my blog content, I encourage and appreciate such feedback. But please, tell it to my face.  In the words of an '80s psychotherapist, “Help me help you.” 

A blog only shows a small portion of a person. The blog owner chooses that which she wishes to share with the world. I usually am pretty good with sharing myself warts and all, but today I just don’t want to open myself up for more criticism. I made the choice to not share. I have bad days… and I have feelings.  I am after all, human.

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85 Comments

  1. July 31, 2011 / 10:59 pm

    There are forums where people rag on fashion bloggers?!?! I hope I never find those; I would probably end up giving them all what-for and then regretting I read anything on the site in the first place.

    Blogging is such a personal experience, and there are no two who do it the same. (Well, there are, but those are usually boring blogs.) I like blogs like yours where it is women wearing what they actually wear during their days, giving us glimpses into your life beyond just what shoes you wear. Hang tough, and do what YOU want.

  2. July 28, 2011 / 2:41 am

    I just want to hug you! Not because you need sympathy, but because you are brave, and you exude confidence on good days but you keep it real when you’re having a bad day. You are an amazing role model for your daughter, and a joy to follow in the blogosphere. Thank you.

  3. Tippy11
    July 27, 2011 / 7:23 pm

    Hi Allie! I agree with all the kind comments here 🙂  I’m from Ireland, and have been reading your blog for almost a year.  I have never commented before now, which I think is a mistake – you deserve to hear from the people who appreciate your advice, and love your confidence.  I enjoy seeing your smiling face in a different outfit every day, so a big ‘THANK YOU! from me.x

  4. Sonia
    July 27, 2011 / 7:12 pm

    I “discovered” your blog while Googling Ann Taylor and was curious as to how you could be so brave to photo yourself in outfits and provide advice on too.  I’ve been hooked ever since!   We all have flaws but I like how you make them “disappear” with the right makeup, clothing, shoes, etc.  Thank you for being you–I look forward to seeing your outfit and reading about your day, Emerson and anything else you have to offer!  Stay strong!

  5. July 27, 2011 / 5:41 pm

    ” it gets plastered on a dozen different forums where people criticize my gut, my cankles, my fivehead saying, “THIS woman is giving fashion advice?”” — seriously? These people need to get a life! 

  6. July 27, 2011 / 3:14 pm

    I adore slingbacks, but from walking on my toes as a child I don’t have the curve at the back of the ankle that most do, which holds up the sling.  My choice in footwear is really because I have especially wide feet, very short toes, a thick foot (from ground to top), and no curve at the heel/ankle.  Sometimes I consider writing a disclaimer explaining that I wear certain shoes folks may not find the most flattering because they are the only ones I can find that will fit these odd feet! 🙂

    It is hard to smile for the camera every day, I feel like a blooming idiot doing it, but then I remember WHY I post my picture and it makes it easier. 🙂  Thank you so much for your comment and for your honest feedback – I truly appreciate it!

  7. Hh
    July 27, 2011 / 3:11 pm

    I’ve been following your blog for quite a few years now, and I enjoy reading it simply because your love for fashion is contagious. I like the way you match colours and accessories, and I only wish I had the fashion sense to accessorise the way you do! I’ve also watched Emerson grow from a baby to a little girl! 

  8. EngineerChic
    July 27, 2011 / 3:10 pm

    It’s funny b/c when I see your pictures I always think, “God, I wish I could look happy in photographs like she does!”  I *hate* the camera and hate having my picture taken & it shows in photos.  Which just creates a vicious circle that encourages me to hate the camera.

    Perhaps the haters are people who envy your confidence and ability to smile for the camera every day.

    The only fashion advice I’d give you is to look at slingbacks instead of T-strap sandals.  I think your curvy calves are done a disservice by the ankle-encircling strap of a T-strap sandal, but a slingback would prevent that problem.  Of course, slingbacks are harder to find right now & are not as well suited to chasing after toddlers.

  9. Ms. M
    July 27, 2011 / 2:03 pm

    I see tons of other people have already commented, but I’d like to add my voice. I read your blog because it is realistic, and that means knowing about your off days. It’s okay if you don’t show them- we don’t always like the way we look. However, it proves that you do know what you’re talking about.

    I would say forget the haters, but I’ve been in high school and I know how useful that suggestion is. Instead, I’ll just say that as a young woman figuring out how to dress herself in a tricky field (teaching- we need to look professional, but not too fashionable), I adore this blog and find it endlessly helpful. We don’t have the same shapes or the same budgets, but your advice is so so helpful.

  10. Christine
    July 27, 2011 / 11:53 am

    Oh, Allie, I read your blog all the time, I’ve submitted questions, to which you have always answered — I am a lot older than you, and you are an inspiration to me.  You have integrity, intelligence, a great sense of humor, a family anyone would want (Mom and sister as well as husband and daughter) and you juggle more balls than anyone I know.

    You are real, like most of us.  We can’t all keep up with every new beauty innovation, yet you do the most important things.  But you remind us that true beauty really does come from within, and that happiness is beauty.  And you remind us that beauty rituals never take precedence over family, health and even the environment.

    You are a proud feminist and that makes me, a feminist who was a young preteen when Roe vs, Wade was passed, that those women’s efforts are paying off.

    My family has a lot of money, compared to most, and yet because of you I have learned that cost does not equal quality and I see in your outfits how fabulous you look on a budget.  What I don’t spend now goes to charity.

    I bet most of the women who read this blog wish they were your sister, or best friend.  Don’t let the haters get you down.  My therapist reads your blog and she frequently recommends it to women like me who lack self esteem or cannot imagine a full life, for various reasons.

    You touch people’s hearts, and look amazing doing it.

    By the way, I think you’re more of an hourglass now!  I never notice your calves (I have similar ones), your belly or any of your perceived flaws.  You  radiate happiness in your smile, and that makes you beautiful!

  11. Deanna Piercy
    July 27, 2011 / 2:16 am

    Allie, I read your blog (and have for years) *because* of the flaws you mention, some of which I share.  I don’t know if you are on Google+ yet but I just shared your blog publicly there.  Kudos to you for being real and sharing with us.

  12. July 26, 2011 / 11:09 pm

    I wish I had read this post this morning, when I got a really nasty comment from a girl who can’t seem to stop telling me how ugly my hair is… I totally agree with you that we invite this kind of criticism by putting our lives online, but I also agree that sometimes it can all get a bit much, and you just want to say, “Enough!” Anyway, I think your blog, and you, are fantastic, and the amount of time and effort you put into helping people here is truly amazing, so I hope the naysayers aren’t getting you down too much.

  13. Donna
    July 26, 2011 / 10:36 pm

    Sweetie, the very reason I read your blog is because of what you just said. You encourage me so much, because you show that us “apples” can look amazing without a whole lot of effort or money. Honestly, on some days, you take my breath away. Plus, you have been so real with your weight loss challenges. Who doesn’t have them? You instill confidence in me, and I would love to have you as a friend in real life. 

    Truck on, girlfriend. 🙂

  14. cosmeddicted
    July 26, 2011 / 10:29 pm

    Fantastic, fantastic post.  I’ve been a regular reader of your blog for a long time, and you’ve given me the courage to start trying to lose weight.  I haven’t lost any, even though I try hard, but you keep me motivated. Thank you for the motivation!

  15. Jennifer
    July 26, 2011 / 8:42 pm

    I’ve been away for the past week and am catching up.  Wow!  I never knew you put up with so much to help all of us and share with us.  I’m sorry there are people like that out there and they should feel shame.  It takes a strong woman to make other women feel strong.  It takes a small woman to make other women feel weak.  You are a strong woman and make all of us followers better, stronger and more confident. 
    On another note, wow, you look fabulous!  I love the outfits this past week!!   You are the incredible shrinking woman!  And your daughter is so beautiful!  Just like her momma. 

  16. Andie325
    July 26, 2011 / 7:51 pm

    the reason I read your blog is because you’re a normal person with a normal body and you have a wardrobe of a typical working person on a budget.

    I have stopped reading most blogs of people who get tons of free designer items, etc because it’s not realistic. If I wanted to look at a bunch of size 4 model types, I’d just spend money on an issue of vogue. 

    I love your blog just as it is and I am glad I discovered you! You inspired me to start my own blog. I bet you look fantastic, but I know exactly how you feel as I have had a bunch of days like that lately myself.

    HUGS!

  17. July 26, 2011 / 6:41 pm

    Jesus, Mary and Oprah. There are forums just for people to criticize other bloggers? Although I don’t know why I’m shocked. This is the internet, after all. I suppose I should count myself lucky that my little 2-year-old blog hasn’t attracted enough attention to get negative comments yet.

    Haters gotta hate. Keep on being true to yourself and the heck with them.

  18. Karinaninap
    July 26, 2011 / 6:01 pm

    Don’t be so hard on yourself.  We all have some or all of those things and some days just start out wrong and never get better.  It’s life and those who think they are perfect obviously don’ t have mirrors!

  19. guest
    July 26, 2011 / 5:58 pm

    Just wanted to say that you’re beautiful! I follow your blog because your blog is about realistic fashion/style… I do like looking at the gorgeous fashion blogs, but I need to be realistic and I love your blog for what it is.

  20. July 26, 2011 / 5:30 pm

    I found your blog about a year ago through a link on someone else’s blog, and I have been a reader ever since. You are easy to relate to and stylish at the same time. 

  21. Jane Mclaughlin
    July 26, 2011 / 4:19 pm

    I look at your blog every morning just to check to see what you’re up to and look at the styles you wear.  I enjoy each one and wouldn’t dream of critizing you.  Thank you for sharing your “no picture” day and here’s hoping for lots of better ones to come.

  22. Libby Ingram
    July 26, 2011 / 3:46 pm

    I’ve been following your blog for years and enjoy your writing, appreciate your product reviews and really like your style.  Thanks for being human.

  23. Bev
    July 26, 2011 / 3:36 pm

    I am a newby from Wales and.have only found your blog this week.  I absolutely love it and think you are doing a great job! You look amazing and quite rightly should decide when to share and when not to…we all need to ‘protect’ ourselves every now and then.  Keep up the good work!

  24. Janejetson2000
    July 26, 2011 / 3:26 pm

    I enjoy your blog and agree with all of the above.  I have read that women with blogs face far more harassment than male bloggers.  No doubt that is happening to you because you are strong and confident and put yourself out.  I am so glad you don’t feed the trolls but maybe one day you will let your readers terarthem apart. 

  25. jesinalbuquerque
    July 26, 2011 / 3:21 pm

    P.S. Awesome and beautiful, inside and out.

  26. Jesinalbuquerque
    July 26, 2011 / 3:19 pm

    I don’t think I’ve ever commented, but I enjoy your blog daily — a real woman writing about fashion. I rejoice in my wrinkles, brown spots, gut and all the many imperfections that are part of being me, and part of being you. I think you’re awesome.

  27. July 26, 2011 / 1:43 pm

    You all are so amazing, and YOU are why I blog!  I didn’t write this hoping for responses like this, I really wasn’t hoping for anything… just needed to vent.  But each of your comments have made me tear up, feel good, and feel accomplished – that this blog IS worth it.  THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!

  28. Kasmira
    July 26, 2011 / 1:34 pm

    Your blog is one of my favorites because you represent a working woman’s style on an average budget.  Your look is relatable and that’s why keep reading, day after day.  We can imagine ourselves in your shoes.  The haters, obviously, cannot and that’s their loss.

  29. July 26, 2011 / 10:55 am

    And I stand by what I said yesterday: inspiration.

  30. July 26, 2011 / 10:53 am

    Well I think you rock!  And quite right – it’s your blog, post what you want to post and don’t post what you don’t want to post.  Like you say, there are plenty of bloggers out there doing their own thing and that’s the beauty of blogging and the internet in general, there’s something for everyone.
    xx

  31. Emily
    July 26, 2011 / 9:01 am

    I read your blog every day and I love it. I think you’re a gorgeous, vibrant, real woman, and you blog for likeminded people. You’re an inspiration and you have a wonderful personal style. Thank you so much for sharing some of your life and style with us.

  32. KG
    July 26, 2011 / 5:28 am

    I never comment, but feel I need to tell you that  I read your blog every day because I find you so inspiring and often refer back to it for advice. Keep smiling, you’re wonderful.

  33. Jo H.
    July 26, 2011 / 4:40 am

    Small-minded people are not worth your valuable time or energy.

    I enjoy your advice and positive outlook. Keep up the great work.

  34. July 26, 2011 / 2:25 am

    I love your blog and have been following you for quite a while – at least since your pregnancy days because I wished I’d had all that pregnancy wardrobe advice back in 2004 and 2006.  Stay strong and keep blogging!!!  Big hugs from Colorado.

  35. Tara
    July 26, 2011 / 2:10 am

    Your post today made me so sad!! I can only assume it’s because some nasty little anonymous coward had a go at you for putting yourself out there? Just wanted to send you cyber-hugs from a dedicated subscriber on the other side of the world (Australia) and let you know I just love your writing style, fashion tips for real women (not stick-insect glamouristas!) and little insights into your life. Please keep on sharing!

  36. Amber
    July 26, 2011 / 2:08 am

    I love that you’re human and you give really practical advice.  I’m a 22 year old law student trying to build a decent wardrobe for internships and for everyday since we have frequent lunch and learns with professionals and I should look put together every day if possible.  Your blog has been really helpful since I have very little money to spend on clothes and you give practical advice on building a quality, versatile wardrobe that I can use even if i can’t afford to spend much. 

  37. carrie
    July 26, 2011 / 1:28 am

    it all seems to have been said already, but I will jump on board and add that I find your blog incredibly validating, inspiring and “real.” I only discovered your site a couple of weeks ago, and the post “what are you waiting for” resonated with me so much- I have been putting off buying nice clothes for literally 5 years, due to constantly trying to convince myself that it would be a “reward” for losing 20 pounds. Your blog is just what I need at this point to get me past that idea. 

  38. July 26, 2011 / 12:59 am

    I only discovered your blog a few months ago but I really enjoy and appreciate reading your perspective.  I particularly enjoyed your account of Bonnaroo and I love reading your packing suggestions.
    Thanks for blogging!

  39. Kay
    July 26, 2011 / 12:33 am

    Allie!!! your blog was the main reason / biggest help for me to start working on my personal style. you rock, girl!! you really do! for every one of those naysayers, you probably have at least 10 silent yessssssayers!!

  40. patty
    July 26, 2011 / 12:16 am

    But, Allie, but I wish “those people” knew is that part of the reason your blog is fantastic and one of only 3 style blogs I will follow is because you aren’t perfect and you are honest about it all.  That is your super strength–our are honest about yourself and you help your readers be honest, creative and find out own style.

  41. Allhomesewn
    July 26, 2011 / 12:05 am

    Good for you! and I think you look fabulous!

  42. July 25, 2011 / 11:50 pm

    I LOVE this post Allie!  (we totally need to grab coffee sometime soon!)  I posted a pic the other day to show my belly and almost didn’t because holy hell my arms were showing and they are my least favorite part.  But you know what?  I’m real.  I’m loving this pregnant body of mine.  And apparently from the feedback so is everyone else I know. 

    People will talk shit somewhere else because they’re cowardly shits.  I’d rather get a comment criticizing me that I can address than worry about the weirdos who have too much damn time on their hands and not enough satisfaction from their own lives.  It’s kind of like anon posters…you want to talk smack and not have a way for me to address you?  I just feel sad for your small life.

    You rock!  I adore your blog, even if I don’t comment all the time.  We don’t even share the same style all that often, but I love what your blog is about.  Keep it real, that’s the way we love ya!

  43. Pilar
    July 25, 2011 / 11:27 pm

    You are awesome and you have made me brave on days when I felt as if I needed to apologize to the world for not being fabulous. Really. You have a ministry or therapy practice or hug factory going on with this blog. Thank you.

  44. Laurel01
    July 25, 2011 / 11:07 pm

    Good for you Allie! I agree with everyone who said keep doin’ what your doin’ ( I don’t even know where to start to tell you how you’ve brought my look up!) but today’s post shows you are REAL!!!!

  45. July 25, 2011 / 11:01 pm

    I feel compelled to comment because you have made my feel something strongly with your post, but I can’t think of what to say.  So,…..I’ll just say that I want to throw my support your way because I love your blog and appreciate what you try to do and what you do here.  Thanks for being so vulnerable for us.  🙂

  46. Lola Skw
    July 25, 2011 / 10:03 pm

    Hi Allie – I love, love , love your blog! And I will never ever understand those who feel entitled to criticize others..
    What I really love about your blog is that you are so real and down-to-earth, and when you give advice, I can absolutely relate to it ( I am a size 16-18). Please go on blogging just the way you like to and don’t mind those criticizing idiots. I lurve your outfits! And we need you. Hugs, Lola

  47. Shannon
    July 25, 2011 / 9:51 pm

    I only found your blog a few weeks ago and it has changed my life.  I mean that sincerely.  I’ve put on some weight (about 20 pounds) in the last year & a half and felt horrible about myself.  When I started looking for some ways to spruce myself up after being home with my girls I came across only fashion blogs by cute twenty year olds with no kids or those moms that are “I just forget to eat” skinny.  Needless to say, that did nothing for my self esteem except sink it further.  After finding your blog, I’m giving myself more grace.  I’m wearing skirts, wearing my makeup even on home days (everyday!), incorporating more color and even, to my husband’s delight bought a really cute, sleeveless dress to wear to a baptism yesterday.  I thought about you a lot as I was trying to talk myself into covering my big arms and didn’t do it.  I felt beautiful & saw that reflected in how my two young daughters looked at me (not to mention the hubby!)  Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your advice, encouragement, tips and suggestions. 

    Please don’t let people who hide in cyberspace waiting for the opportunities to make others feel bad discourage you.  We all know that they are lacking something in their lives that make them lash out at others. 

  48. July 25, 2011 / 9:42 pm

    This is how I feel a LOT of the time. You articulated everything perfectly.

    You are beautiful, despite features that you may not like so much about yourself. You’re YOU, and that’s what makes you fabulous. Keep it up.

  49. ie
    July 25, 2011 / 9:22 pm

    Allie, I love your blog! I love and follow your advice. I am not looking for glamor or a beautiful woman, I am neither of those. I too have a toddler (and the mommy pouch that goes with it), I too have flaws (and cellulite and what not),  I have a very limited clothes budget. And I feel myself at home at your blog. I’ve been reading for over 5 years. I love it. I find you inspiring, I follow your advice. I have some of your posts printed out and in my style/inspiration folder. Don’t let a handful of mean people get you. You are perfect the way you are!!!

  50. July 25, 2011 / 9:00 pm

    Ew people are so mean! Keep doin what you do, you rock. Don’t feel like you have to show pics you are not comfortable with either. I enjoy your blog for the fashion commentary and because I like your personality and style.

  51. Kitterlee
    July 25, 2011 / 8:45 pm

    I totally don’t get why anyone would criticize you?  Whatever – their loss!
    Because you offer us so much!  You’re gorgeous, you’re real, you’re full of info, enthusiasm and encouragement… and you share it all with the world.  I am just one of many that has really benefited from what you do.  Thank you!

  52. em28
    July 25, 2011 / 8:27 pm

    Have been reading your blog for four years and have never commented before..am reiterating what others have already said but feel compelled to say it anyway… It takes far more strength of character to hold yourself up to scrutiny than it does to anonymously  tear someone down on an internet forum. When you read these comments please rembember those of us who are inspired by you throughout the working week to handle whatever may be thrown at us with style, poise and most importantly a sense that while how we present ourselves is important it is only a small part of who we are

  53. Lynn
    July 25, 2011 / 8:22 pm

    I agree with everyone here.  I’m tired of evil pouncers who have nothing better to do than run people down.  Love your blog!

  54. Anna
    July 25, 2011 / 8:17 pm

    Allie, I very seldom comment here but I have followed your blog faithfully since 2005. Your blog was the first style blog I started reading after some dramatic changes in my life which led me to examine every part of it. One detail was my realization that I had passed 40 without learning to dress myself. Your blog has been of tremendous help and wonderful inspiration. I couldn’t care less about the size of your calves or your ankles, but I am so happy with all the great advice about shoes and boots you have given me. Your hair could be blond or dark, straight or curly, thick or thin, it doesn’t matter to me but all your posts about hairstyling have been valuable.
    Your tummy is yours, it is none of my business. But all the great ways you dress are a learning process for me.
    You write very well, it is personal and inspirational. Your advice and style examples are so very useful. I am honored to be your blog reader and grateful for every new post. 

  55. Susan
    July 25, 2011 / 7:49 pm

    I’m a 22-year-old recent college grad who will start working in a conservative accounting firm this fall. I love your blog! You do business casual for real people (without all those crazy colors and mixing random patterns that some people think is okay in a conservative environment – it’s not!). I really appreciate your blog and have found it so inspiring to get back to working out as you chronicle your own journey with WW. So thanks for blogging!

  56. Anonymous
    July 25, 2011 / 7:49 pm

    Yours is the only fashion blog I follow, because I feel that you are like me- not model thin, but a regular person. Who can still pursue fashon and look good! You inspire me because you have the same body/fashion concerns but you show that a woman can still look great anyway! I appreciate what you do. You go!

  57. pragmacat
    July 25, 2011 / 7:47 pm

    Interesting timing on this post, seeing as I just recently discovered this blog and think you’ve been gorgeous in the last several posts – humidity/sweat/etc. or no. 🙂 Keep it up and absolutely ignore the internet trolls.

  58. lighterandbrighter
    July 25, 2011 / 7:45 pm

    This may just be my favorite post of yours. You’re human and you put yourself out here every single day to show us a glimpse into your world. Anyone who criticizes, judges or says unkind things to you for a pic, is just rude and if you ask me has a bit too much time on their hands. Keep doing what you do – you’re one of my daily go-to blogs have been for yrs and will continue to be!

  59. July 25, 2011 / 7:37 pm

    Just to add to the other voices here, I personally love that you have off days. It makes it easier to relate to you. I have off days all the time, more off than on in fact. You are very brave to put yourself out there. I hope tomorrow finds you feeling better because I need your fashion inspiration!  

  60. Elencilla
    July 25, 2011 / 7:21 pm

    Just have to say you’re such a cool blogger, I’ve been reading your posts for three years so far and what I love is your honesty and that fresh way you have for writing, so, thank you very much.
    Animo! Saludos from Mexico city.

    Elena.

  61. July 25, 2011 / 7:17 pm

    Beautiful, awesome post! Love it!

  62. ipkiss
    July 25, 2011 / 7:15 pm

    Allie, I’ve been following you for some 5 years at least (am not big on commenting, more of a lurker 😉 and I love love love your style, your writing, your open heart, how down to earth and outstandingly reasonable you are!! And I am extremely grateful that you share all this with us almost daily as it gives me faith and hope that there are normal (in the best sense) people, women among us. As I said, I rarely if ever comment, as I have had some bad internet experience in the past (and usually just think it’s not worth the risk), but kudos to you for your courage! Where I am from, we have a saying that would roughly translate: there’s always a cloud of dust behind a good horse.  I’d say you’re a shiny star on internet sky and there’ll always be nasty, envious people who feed off belittling others. It’s easy to say to just ignore those hyenas, but you have quite a following to prove it to you that you have great thing going on here! Hugs!!!

  63. Robin
    July 25, 2011 / 7:09 pm

    I love that you style for us regular girls with all of our glorious flaws.  Keep it up and stay away haters!!

  64. July 25, 2011 / 7:02 pm

    Oh Allie, THIS is why I love your blog! You are so real and honest and human. I think you look awesome, and you have been my number one style inspiration for years now because your look is so approachable. You wear what you like and what you look good in and encourage other women to do the same…I love your focus on finding the right look for the individual. I will never understand why people gather on the internet just to tear others down. Thanks for all you do!

  65. bookgirl810s
    July 25, 2011 / 6:57 pm

    I think you look fabulous, but your thoughtful commentary on fashion, work, and life is what makes your blog one of my favorites. You’re contributing something positive and helpful to the lives of many people. That’s a lot more than can be said about those who spend their time anonymously criticizing strangers on the internet.

  66. July 25, 2011 / 6:54 pm

    J’aime beaucoup ton blog et tes looks sont très inspirant.  Continue de nous donner de bonnes idées!

  67. July 25, 2011 / 6:50 pm

    Oh Allie, you look terrific in your outfits every day! If you are having an off day then it’s okay. Everyone does. Thanks for sharing and being open about things! People are going to be critical but you’ve proven to be above and beyond that! Godspeed!

  68. jhkm22
    July 25, 2011 / 6:40 pm

    Actually, that’s why I visit your blog because you are a real woman. You are a mother, a wife, and pretty darn fashionable.  Don’t let the haters get you down.

    Heather
    http://www.hkstylejourney.blogspot.com/

  69. Lisa
    July 25, 2011 / 6:34 pm

    Allie dear, take good care of yourself.  You are who you are.  There will be haters no matter but there are more of us who appreciate what you have to offer!  {{HUGS}}

  70. Donna
    July 25, 2011 / 6:19 pm

    Allie, I have daughters your age who are wives and moms and have very busy lives.  I read your blog every day to get advice on fashion and shopping, mainly shopping because I’m not good at it.   You have been there helping me for years now, and look at how much older I am than you!   We can all still learn from those willing to help.   You are as cute as can be. you have the love of your husband and adorable daughter, and you glow with happiness.  Thank you for helping me and don’t let jealous people bring you down.

  71. July 25, 2011 / 6:14 pm

    Oh hallelujah, Allie – I love your blog, and the way you share yourself with the world. You are so real and helpful. Some Latin teacher told me a hundred years ago:  “ILLEGITIMI NON CARBORUNDUM”, translation is: don’t let the bastards get you down.  xoxoxo – Patti

  72. Gigi
    July 25, 2011 / 6:14 pm

    Allie, darling, you mentioned  having big ankles…but may I tell you that I have noticed that your ankles are smaller than before, thanks to your weight removal. You’ve been looking incredibly well and you improve all the time. So you’re having an off day–we all do. And we appreciate you just the way you are–because most of us are only human, too. 

  73. July 25, 2011 / 6:13 pm

    There is nothing easier than finding a flaw and pounce on it. It takes real guts to put yourself out there every day with the very mature outlook on the fact that nobody is perfect. Nobody!

  74. Katie
    July 25, 2011 / 6:11 pm

    I’m very thankful for your blog, your willingness to share, and your fashion sense.  You’ve been instrumental in developing my own style sense as an adult and seeing you on all sorts of days has been such a huge help.  So, thank you for being willing to put up with the snarkiness out there in order to help women like me, who need help with real, every day, classic fashion.

    Btw, I’ve been reading your blog for…  gosh, FIVE YEARS? and haven’t once thought you looked anything other than a real, beautiful woman.

  75. July 25, 2011 / 6:02 pm

    Another reader here who thinks you are fab.  And approachably human too, so don’t let ’em grind you down.  Loved all the posts on Bonnaroo – I think you may have persuaded me back to a festival almost two decades after I last had a weekend under canvas/under the stars…  

  76. kathy
    July 25, 2011 / 5:59 pm

    Ditto to everything that has been said here. You’ve been an incredible inspiration to me; I can’t even begin to tell you how much. You are amazing and I am grateful everyday that you blog.

  77. Ramyab11281
    July 25, 2011 / 5:57 pm

    Allie, I read your blog everyday and I must say that you are truly an inspiration! It takes a lot to have a day job, manage one’s house and family and manage to look as put together in a jiffy, not to mention make the time to post it and let us gain from it. Thank you! 🙂

  78. July 25, 2011 / 5:52 pm

    I adore you, Human Allie. Don’t let those jackholes get you down. Where exactly are THEIR outfit shots and THEIR carefully crafted blog posts offering helpful style advice?

  79. July 25, 2011 / 5:48 pm

    Awww.  Allie… I’m sorry people are giving you shit.  I for one, think that you do an amazing job dressing your body on a realistic budget, for us “real people”.  You have helped me make great choices with clothes many times over the past year and half.  As a fellow mom that doesn’t have a perfect body, but instead a real one… I salute you.

  80. Leeanne Huber
    July 25, 2011 / 5:46 pm

    Allie — I just got back from vacation and was catching up on your posts yesterday. All that went through my head at the time was how incredible you look! 

    You have a point-of-view and opinions.  That will always piss some people off.  Beats the alternative.

    The internet is full of trolls. I’m glad you know that they are irrelevant! 

  81. fashionbyalicia
    July 25, 2011 / 5:43 pm

    I just want to say thank you for sharing this.  I am new to the blogging world and am inspired by you, because you are an every day woman.  I appreciate you posting photos and hate that someone has written terrible comments.  I always feel like if you don’t have something nice to say then don’t say it.  But that is my opinion.  Apparently not everyone feels the way I do.  Thanks again for sharing yourself with your readers. 

  82. July 25, 2011 / 5:41 pm

    It’s a shame the mean girls don’t quite after high school. 

    It sounds like you are having a rough day – in this heat, it’s hard to feel human, much less presentable (I am in Philly where we’re having a bit of a heat wave.)  I have nothing more to say except that, nearly five years out from having my son, I am still trying to get it together and enjoy your blog because you are struggling with the same things – getting back in touch with yourself, and making yourself a priority, after having a child.

  83. Suze
    July 25, 2011 / 5:39 pm

    Oh good gravy. I can’t type. “lose site of that.”

  84. July 25, 2011 / 5:37 pm

    Can I give a million LIKES to this post?! Yes, we take photos of ourselves, and yes we’re putting ourselves out there, but we’re are all still human. We’re going to have off days, shlubby days, PJ days, etc. And if we don’t want to post it, who cares! I think sometimes people loose site of that, which is sad. I know that sometimes I barely have enough time to blog, let alone read what some of my fellow bloggers are writing about, which makes me sad. I want to support their craft, as much as I hope they support mine.

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