Eat Your Veggies – Finding Personal Style

This Monday, my article at was about fashion for new moms. So many women I know have the hardest time figuring out how to dress this new and ever-changing body so I offered some quick tips that helped me that first year or so. I received a comment saying women should be reminded to have fun when getting dressed. I agreed and said she made a good point, and later realized I didn’t agree.

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When it comes to finding your personal style, I really believe it’s like eating a meal:


You can’t have your dessert until you finish your vegetables.

Vegetables are your standard uniform pieces in your wardrobe – workhorses that will give you miles of wear and versatility. Classic pieces in my list – a simple dress, well-fitting trousers, a couple solid-colored tops, classic shoes. Your suit of armor so you can be dressed for a speaking engagement, play date, wedding, job interview, romantic weekend to the Napa Valley.

Pieces that do the work for you so you can live your life and be you.

Once you have acquired these workhorses, THEN you can have your dessert of fun, creative, and personal pieces. These basics will get you out of whatever rut you were in before – mismatched pieces, purchasing disposable fashion, not knowing your body and how to shop for it, etc. Having the wardrobe of staples – even if they are “boring” will give you the space to really get to know yourself and find your personal style. Instead of fretting over what is the trendy look for jeans or how you can get yourself to wear whatever some magazine has deemed the “It” shoe of the season, you can calmly peruse online and in-person boutiques, catalogs, magazines looking for those items that really grab you and your soul. Ignore what the celebs are wearing – what stirs YOU?

Slowly purchase these pieces – a scarf in the hot color of the season that also makes your complexion glow, a fabulous pair of leopard-print kitten heels after a work bonus, an amazing red leather blazer on your trip to Italy. Go slow, go with your heart. Enjoy your dessert – consume it with tiny bites, savoring every morsel. You have finished your veggies, it’s now time for crème brûlée!


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  3. February 19, 2011 / 4:14 pm

    completely, absolutely agree with you, Allie! i blogged about this a while back – Jesse Garza and Joe Lupo, in their book Life In Color: The Visual Therapy Guide to The Perfect Palette, refer to this concept as ‘cake and frosting’. ‘true fashionistas’ (as i remember you referring to them) can work with a much bigger ratio of ‘frosting/dessert’ to ‘veggies/cake’, but the rest of us (or simply those who prefer a more pared-down aesthetic) need to have a lot more ‘cake’ than ‘dessert’.

    you present this concept very well all thru your blog – and very nice to see someone admit ‘hey, i said that but i was wrong’! have a great weekend everybody! steph

  4. February 17, 2011 / 10:50 pm

    I so agree with you! We need to have our bases covered before the fun stuff! That is why I need to make myself buy boring work pants and shoes before that striped blazer I have been wanting…

  5. February 17, 2011 / 7:58 pm

    Love this perspective you have on clothes. It makes so much sense! Plus, I think you end up loving those “fun” pieces more if you wait. :0]

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