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Night and day…

Met three dear friends for an early dinner that went on until after the sun set. Great food and conversation with some great women!

The dress is @adamlippes and I borrowed it from @renttherunway. The bag is @jcrew and a splurge but I regretted not buying it the last time they offered this bag and this color is SO me. I mean, look how great it is with these many years old suede heeled sandals? Meant to be!

This color combination makes me so happy, and this dress was comfy even after a decadent meal. We all deserve to experience comfort and joy with our wardrobes! 💛🩷

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If @thechicks are in town you can bet @debbiefaye78 and I will be there! So when we heard they were coming to @merriweatherpp we were so excited. And their concert did not disappoint. As always, a phenomenal show! If The Chicks come to your neck of the woods I highly recommend you go!

Okay I know you want to know about what we’re wearing! 

My sister’s caftan is from @anthropologie (bought this summer so maybe you can find on resale sites).

I’m wearing a @bananarepublic dress also from this summer with the @universalstandard denim chore jacket and a hat I got from a @madewell collab a year or so ago. I glammed it up with some gold chains and gold drop earrings, but kept it comfy for a night of standing and dancing with @birkenstock sandals.

This was my first big outing since my eye surgery, and with a pocketful of eye drops I felt good (and grateful we splurged for good seats!).

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For years I’ve trusted @somaintimates for the right bras and the right fit but it had been a while since I visited a Soma boutique to try on all the styles they currently have for a large bust. I must say I was impressed! Knowledgeable staff, extensive collection in larger sizes, and some of the most comfortable and innovative bras in up to H cups! Each body is different but what I loved:

- The Stunning Push-Up: targeted for the DD+ customer gives amazing lift and great shape under fitted knits.

- The Unbelievable Lift Scoop Balconette: sexy, supportive, and so lightweight!

- The Embraceable Wireless: I’ve recommended this wireless bra for large busts for years and was in need for a new one! 

- The Stunning Support Smooth Balconette: this is the perfect t-shirt bra for large busts with padded straps and disappears under knits

- The Stunning Starlet Multi-Way Strapless: recently improved for more support and more comfort, this wireless bra stays put and gives fab shape

I also picked up some of Soma’s iconic Vanishing Edge panties which keep you line-free. The whole Vanishing collection is genius. I loved being able to donate my gently used bras at my local Soma boutique to give to those in need. We all deserve a lift and Soma strives to achieve that. It’s why I’ve been a fan and customer for years and am honored to partner with them. Soma is the perfect fitting bra solution. Visit the link in my bio to shop and to find your local Soma boutique! #SomaPartner #SomaBraFit #SomaStartsWithMe
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If I close my eyes you can’t tell one is still bloodshot 😜

Still recovering from my eye surgery but feeling more myself. Getting dolled up helps me feel me. Bright colors and bold jewelry have been signature Alison since I was a kid! 

Sweater: @favorite.daughter 
Earrings: Amazon
Necklace: @_jennybird (old)
Ring: @realmfinejewelry 
Bra: @lovebravissimo 
Lipstick: @glossier 
Pins as “cufflinks”: vintage

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It was so funny and so quick I couldn’t not share! I bought this @hulkenbag a year ago and use it all the time. Carting shoot supplies, groceries, packing for road trips, and carting donations. This weekend @thenewdealcafe in @cityofgreenbelt hosted a community clothing swap so I made sure my family and I went through our summer wardrobes to gather that which we no longer needed or fit.

This wasn’t the first clothing swap and folks in town know my style (and my job) so there were some waiting for my arrival. Look how fast I cleared out this big bag! Speaking of the bag one other swap attendee said she got herself a Hulken after seeing mine in action!

It’s so great to know our old clothes are getting a good life and this bag makes carting them to the cafe so easy! I got my Hulken on Amazon, it comes in other colors and sizes too: https://amzn.to/48iTY4Y yep the bag is as great as all those ads you see on social media, I’m a big fan!
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I had to see… I asked my husband how often he thinks about the Roman Empire, and then asked our 14-year-old 😂
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Oscar was a rescue and came with some… quirks. Over the years we have come to understand him and he has come to trust us. He’s a diva, a snuggler, he could play catch for hours, and he’s my husband’s shadow. 

We’ve never had a small breed dog before and it’s a whole different experience. But we adore Oscar and couldn’t imagine our life without him! Thank you for coming into our life Oskie McGoskie! 🐾❤️
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I can see clearly now…

Actually I can’t, but things after my retina surgery are much improved! My next appointment is in a month and I’m cleared to get back into the world (with some restrictions to protect my eye).

With a sclera buckle, it changes your eye shape and now I am nearsighted again (I had lasik a few years ago). Once the eye is stabilized I can get glasses or contacts but until then I’m 20/20 in one eye and right now 20/60 in the other. But the eye is healing beautifully and I feel positive!

And I could see clearly enough to fall for this poppy-colored cotton jumpsuit from @pistoladenim. It comes in a few colors but this one is my favorite. I went with XL (im@a 14, sometimes 16) and likely could have sized down but I enjoy the relaxed fit and the drawstring waistband to create shape. And hello zipper closure making it super easy to get on and off!

My husband took this photo right after my eye appointment, I think it reflects my positive attitude and feeling of hope! 🧡

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Lifestyle · June 12, 2012

What’s So Wrong with Loving Yourself?

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My last post wasn’t a cry for attention or support. Negative comments don’t faze me – these people don’t know me in real life, and they are reacting because of something in their life that causes them to be angry. But what I found the most interesting in one of the negative comments I shared, some of the comments on that post, and emails I received since then is that many women seem to find it to be a bad thing to love themselves.

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Seriously ladies, you SHOULD love yourself. There is a difference between loving and respecting yourself and being a narcissist. There’s a difference between self-confidence and being self-absorbed. Just because you believe in yourself, find yourself smart and attractive doesn’t mean you’re self-centered or a bitch. It means you’re healthy.

Let’s stop comparing ourselves to one another – didn’t you ever hear that people are like snowflakes and no two are alike? Let’s stop attacking those who are too thin, too old, too fat, have had plastic surgery, need plastic surgery, go grey, dye their hair, wear something you find to be too weird or too over the top or too boring. And let’s stop hating ourselves while we’re at it.

I may love clothes and pretty things, but there’s a hippie core to my heart and that core doesn’t understand why people spend so much energy bringing negativity into the universe. You don’t know how long of a life you have, why spend time talking crap about others… or talking crap about yourself? Humans are pretty fascinating creatures, she who you may snark on in real life you may find to be your long-lost kindred spirit. That person you attack may be going through some pretty heavy personal things that are affecting her appearance and her attitude.

This Saturday when I met Lisa at the Westfield Style Lounge, she said something pretty powerful. I always preach the need to be pulled together even when going to the grocery store because you never know when you will bump into an ex, the person who interviewed you the day prior for a new job, have a date with destiny. Lisa said dressing nicely inspires others – those who see you looking fierce at the grocery store will be motivated to follow your example.

Be proud of yourself, and be proud that you love yourself. You’re a pretty spectacular person. And let others know that you’re not ashamed to love yourself, you very well may inspire another to do the same!

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  1. The Curvy Girl says

    June 20, 2012 at 2:34 pm

    AMEN! Thank you for this posting!

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  2. The Curvy Girl says

    June 20, 2012 at 10:34 am

    AMEN! Thank you for this posting!

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  3. Anne says

    June 19, 2012 at 3:36 am

    Allie, I have been reading your blog for about a year, I think. (Followed a link from Sally McGraw) I am so sorry you were exposed to such hurtful comments.  It makes me so frustrated when women are mean or inconsiderate to other women; especially when it’s mommies slamming other mommies.  I think you are absolutely adorable and I really admire your sense of style.  I actually printed up a recent post of your to help me pack for a recent vacation. Your post above is totally on the money.  We all need to learned to love ourselves (how can you really love anyone else if you don’t?) I firmly believe that the cruel comments you received are the transference of someone else’s self hate. keep doing what you’re doing.

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  4. Anne says

    June 18, 2012 at 11:36 pm

    Allie, I have been reading your blog for about a year, I think. (Followed a link from Sally McGraw) I am so sorry you were exposed to such hurtful comments.  It makes me so frustrated when women are mean or inconsiderate to other women; especially when it’s mommies slamming other mommies.  I think you are absolutely adorable and I really admire your sense of style.  I actually printed up a recent post of your to help me pack for a recent vacation. Your post above is totally on the money.  We all need to learned to love ourselves (how can you really love anyone else if you don’t?) I firmly believe that the cruel comments you received are the transference of someone else’s self hate. keep doing what you’re doing.

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  5. Jo says

    June 18, 2012 at 8:57 am

    I love your blog – and I was sad to read the comments you got. I love to see women looking great going about their day-to-day lives – and not just women in their 20s, who are very slim and pretty, but ALL women.

    I think it was someone very young who wrote that horrible comment – let us hope they will be blessed with a long and healthy life, and will come learn that they can enjoy having fun with clothes even when they are 40, 50 and beyond! Style is forever.

    Jo (aged 48!)

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  6. Jo says

    June 17, 2012 at 6:52 am

    I love your blog – and I was sad to read the comments you got. I love to see women looking great going about their day-to-day lives – and not just women in their 20s, who are very slim and pretty, but ALL women.

    I think it was someone very young who wrote that horrible comment – let us hope they will be blessed with a long and healthy life, and will come learn that they can enjoy having fun with clothes even when they are 40, 50 and beyond! Style is forever.

    Jo (aged 48!)

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  7. alice says

    June 15, 2012 at 2:49 am

    Ok, I just have to say that this actually happened to me last week!!  I was 3000 miles away from home and there was literally a 0.1% chance I would run into my ex, but run into him I did and you can’t imagine how grateful I was to be wearing a very flattering yet casual dress and light makeup.  It may seem pointless and petty to you, but trust me, I was giving myself mental high fives the rest of the day.

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  8. Vickic says

    June 15, 2012 at 1:37 am

    I love your blog because your are not a size 2!! I don’t understand people like those who left the comments.  If I don’t like a blog, I don’t read it!!  There are many blogs that are nice but just do not appeal to me because they seem too perfect – it’s my choice to read or not. 

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  9. Vickic says

    June 14, 2012 at 9:37 pm

    I love your blog because your are not a size 2!! I don’t understand people like those who left the comments.  If I don’t like a blog, I don’t read it!!  There are many blogs that are nice but just do not appeal to me because they seem too perfect – it’s my choice to read or not. 

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  10. Sbteri says

    June 13, 2012 at 7:17 pm

    Sounds like a very young person that made that comment, and is apparently too influenced by the “ideal image”.  That is sad.  I love your blog (even though I may not always comment) because you are a constant source of inspiration.  After turning 50 I felt invisible to to the world and felt that it didn’t really matter what I looked like because no one really ‘see’s’ you anyway.  But when I see your blog you inspire me to feel differently.  Confidence is something that shines through no matter who you are.  And that is the best “make-over” you can give yourself!  Thank you Allie, for being a constant inspiration to so many of us readers.  

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  11. Sbteri says

    June 13, 2012 at 3:17 pm

    Sounds like a very young person that made that comment, and is apparently too influenced by the “ideal image”.  That is sad.  I love your blog (even though I may not always comment) because you are a constant source of inspiration.  After turning 50 I felt invisible to to the world and felt that it didn’t really matter what I looked like because no one really ‘see’s’ you anyway.  But when I see your blog you inspire me to feel differently.  Confidence is something that shines through no matter who you are.  And that is the best “make-over” you can give yourself!  Thank you Allie, for being a constant inspiration to so many of us readers.  

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  12. Allie at Wardrobe Oxygen says

    June 13, 2012 at 5:52 pm

    By you not wearing your PJs you are dressing up more than most! 🙂

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  13. Sarah says

    June 13, 2012 at 5:50 pm

    Allie, I love your blog and I love your style! You often inspire me to be more creative with my clothing. I get SO SICK of reading style blogs about 22-year old, size-2 woman!! Pretty much anything looks good on a 22-year-old, size-2 woman…but as a 31-year-old, size 16-18 woman, I need inspiration on how to dress for my body.

    I do want to make one comment about the grocery store argument…I have heard that argument for years , I think I first heard it from Stacey and Clinton. I have also heard that you should dress up because you might meet the love of your life at the grocery store, or a future employer. Those arguments really stick in my craw!!! I’m not wearing PJs to the grocery store, but I’m not wearing heels either. And I’m just not going to dress up for errands like the grocery store or getting gas or the drug store. When I see people I know in real life out running errands, I don’t even think to judge them on their clothes! They are running errands! If I saw my future husband at the grocery store in my running errands outfit, he better damn well like what I look like when my hair is in a pony, no make-up, and in jeans, a hoodie and flats, because that’s what I look like most of the time! If he doesn’t, he’s not my future husband. If I ran into someone dressed casually at the store and then that person came in for an interview with me the next day, all I would care about is what they had on for the interview. As far as my exes go, I don’t give a crap what they think about how I look! Half the time I hit up the grocery store on my way home from a work-out…I am not taking the time to go home, bathe, do my hair, and change my clothes on my day off, even if I am a hot sweaty mess. 

    Despite all of that, I still freaking love myself. I guess I just want to say that you shouldn’t assume the lady in workout clothes at the grocery store hates herself or has low self-esteem just because she’s wearing workout clothes, or didn’t feel like wearing make-up on her day off. Similarly, I won’t assume that the lady dressed to the nines with stiletto heels on buying lettuce is a narcissist who is self-absorbed. I know we all make judgments about others based on how they dress, but that doesn’t mean it’s right, or that our judgment matters to that person.

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  14. Sarah says

    June 13, 2012 at 1:50 pm

    Allie, I love your blog and I love your style! You often inspire me to be more creative with my clothing. I get SO SICK of reading style blogs about 22-year old, size-2 woman!! Pretty much anything looks good on a 22-year-old, size-2 woman…but as a 31-year-old, size 16-18 woman, I need inspiration on how to dress for my body.

    I do want to make one comment about the grocery store argument…I have heard that argument for years , I think I first heard it from Stacey and Clinton. I have also heard that you should dress up because you might meet the love of your life at the grocery store, or a future employer. Those arguments really stick in my craw!!! I’m not wearing PJs to the grocery store, but I’m not wearing heels either. And I’m just not going to dress up for errands like the grocery store or getting gas or the drug store. When I see people I know in real life out running errands, I don’t even think to judge them on their clothes! They are running errands! If I saw my future husband at the grocery store in my running errands outfit, he better damn well like what I look like when my hair is in a pony, no make-up, and in jeans, a hoodie and flats, because that’s what I look like most of the time! If he doesn’t, he’s not my future husband. If I ran into someone dressed casually at the store and then that person came in for an interview with me the next day, all I would care about is what they had on for the interview. As far as my exes go, I don’t give a crap what they think about how I look! Half the time I hit up the grocery store on my way home from a work-out…I am not taking the time to go home, bathe, do my hair, and change my clothes on my day off, even if I am a hot sweaty mess. 

    Despite all of that, I still freaking love myself. I guess I just want to say that you shouldn’t assume the lady in workout clothes at the grocery store hates herself or has low self-esteem just because she’s wearing workout clothes, or didn’t feel like wearing make-up on her day off. Similarly, I won’t assume that the lady dressed to the nines with stiletto heels on buying lettuce is a narcissist who is self-absorbed. I know we all make judgments about others based on how they dress, but that doesn’t mean it’s right, or that our judgment matters to that person.

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    • Allie at Wardrobe Oxygen says

      June 13, 2012 at 1:52 pm

      By you not wearing your PJs you are dressing up more than most! 🙂

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    • alice says

      June 14, 2012 at 10:49 pm

      Ok, I just have to say that this actually happened to me last week!!  I was 3000 miles away from home and there was literally a 0.1% chance I would run into my ex, but run into him I did and you can’t imagine how grateful I was to be wearing a very flattering yet casual dress and light makeup.  It may seem pointless and petty to you, but trust me, I was giving myself mental high fives the rest of the day.

      Reply
  15. JenniJP says

    June 13, 2012 at 4:52 pm

    way to go Alison! You already know this is my mantra and I think I say it WAY too much in my blog. Negativity is annoying but hey haters are everywhere ;(

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  16. J. Jehanne says

    June 13, 2012 at 12:52 pm

    way to go Alison! You already know this is my mantra and I think I say it WAY too much in my blog. Negativity is annoying but hey haters are everywhere ;(

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  17. merbnsn says

    June 13, 2012 at 4:48 pm

    Allie, I missed yesterday and never saw those awful and untrue comments.  I love seing your outfits and enjoy everything you post.  You are an inspiration.  Please don’t let what are, clearly, someone else’s  self esteem issues bring you down.  Just keep doing what you are doing. 

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  18. merbnsn says

    June 13, 2012 at 12:48 pm

    Allie, I missed yesterday and never saw those awful and untrue comments.  I love seing your outfits and enjoy everything you post.  You are an inspiration.  Please don’t let what are, clearly, someone else’s  self esteem issues bring you down.  Just keep doing what you are doing. 

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  19. M says

    June 13, 2012 at 3:46 pm

    Way to go, Chickie! Yes, I agree; positivity in rebuttal of negative energy in an attack, for whatever reason. I found your blog actually looking for fashion ideas online for the woman with a few extra pounds, because I know I am worth looking my best at whatever weight I am. The next step for you should be design. My sister-in-law have often lamented that todays BBWs are either, 1) old lady-ish, for someone setting of for the tropics, ie, moomoos or–2) made for a size 4, cap sleeves, tight arms, hugging tummy elaboration.

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  20. StarlitNights says

    June 13, 2012 at 3:32 pm

    Lovely post, Allie.  Thank you for putting so much positive energy and strength out there into the world.  You’re right: loving ourselves is crucial.  At the end of the day, the only person we’re guaranteed to know our whole lives is ourselves, so we’d better extend to ourselves some measure of care and kindness.

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  21. StarlitNights says

    June 13, 2012 at 11:32 am

    Lovely post, Allie.  Thank you for putting so much positive energy and strength out there into the world.  You’re right: loving ourselves is crucial.  At the end of the day, the only person we’re guaranteed to know our whole lives is ourselves, so we’d better extend to ourselves some measure of care and kindness.

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  22. AKM says

    June 13, 2012 at 3:24 pm

    Amen, sistah! Like Barb said, it IS sad when people don’t love themselves. I strongly believe that those are the hurt people who hurt people. How can we change that? This social-worker-in-training will continue to try to figure it out…    🙂

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  23. AKM says

    June 13, 2012 at 11:24 am

    Amen, sistah! Like Barb said, it IS sad when people don’t love themselves. I strongly believe that those are the hurt people who hurt people. How can we change that? This social-worker-in-training will continue to try to figure it out…    🙂

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  24. kathy says

    June 13, 2012 at 1:32 pm

    Well said. You can’t love anyone else till you love yourself first. My weight watchers leader said once, “We’re all just trying to do the best we can.” So when I find myself feeling snarky, I remember her words and it immediately changes my attitude.

    Thanks, as always, for your inspiring words!

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  25. kathy says

    June 13, 2012 at 9:32 am

    Well said. You can’t love anyone else till you love yourself first. My weight watchers leader said once, “We’re all just trying to do the best we can.” So when I find myself feeling snarky, I remember her words and it immediately changes my attitude.

    Thanks, as always, for your inspiring words!

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  26. Lisa says

    June 13, 2012 at 12:11 pm

    Allie- 
    I read your blog when I am sad or depressed, as it always makes me feel hopeful and happy. And your post today about loving yourself- I needed it like you wouldn’t believe. Thank you so much.

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  27. Lisa says

    June 13, 2012 at 8:11 am

    Allie- 
    I read your blog when I am sad or depressed, as it always makes me feel hopeful and happy. And your post today about loving yourself- I needed it like you wouldn’t believe. Thank you so much.

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  28. kuri says

    June 13, 2012 at 12:00 pm

    Great post!  I think a lot of factors (family, media, society) encourage us to hate ourselves.  It’s tough learning to love myself, but I try 🙂

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  29. kuri says

    June 13, 2012 at 8:00 am

    Great post!  I think a lot of factors (family, media, society) encourage us to hate ourselves.  It’s tough learning to love myself, but I try 🙂

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  30. Sonia says

    June 13, 2012 at 11:21 am

    As I personally lived through the 70s, the hippie era, may I say, “Right on!”

    I’d like to add that besides providing me with great fashion ideas, your blog is not just about clothes– it has made me laugh, made me cry and made me nod my head in full agreement. Thank you.

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  31. Sonia says

    June 13, 2012 at 7:21 am

    As I personally lived through the 70s, the hippie era, may I say, “Right on!”

    I’d like to add that besides providing me with great fashion ideas, your blog is not just about clothes– it has made me laugh, made me cry and made me nod my head in full agreement. Thank you.

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  32. Claire says

    June 13, 2012 at 9:59 am

    Well said Allie, 

    I despair of what society does to women and worse, what we do to ourselves. 

    I blame internet and the media for falsely portraying (and portraying false) women and what’s refreshing about your blog is how real you keep it. Keep up the good work! I look forward to me WO email very day! 

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  33. Claire says

    June 13, 2012 at 5:59 am

    Well said Allie, 

    I despair of what society does to women and worse, what we do to ourselves. 

    I blame internet and the media for falsely portraying (and portraying false) women and what’s refreshing about your blog is how real you keep it. Keep up the good work! I look forward to me WO email very day! 

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  34. Maria says

    June 13, 2012 at 1:24 am

    Great attitude, toward yourself and toward our fellow human companions.  There are some lonely, sad, angry  and sick people out there, reaching out in the only way they know how to. They must not define who we are. But how we deal with them definitely defines not only who we are, but also how we choose to live.  In the same way that dressing up may be inspiring to others, your mature and healthy response to pettiness and meanness may inspire others to be kinder to themselves first, and then to others.  Thank you for modelling great character, as well as a fun and pulled together style. 🙂 

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  35. Maria says

    June 12, 2012 at 9:24 pm

    Great attitude, toward yourself and toward our fellow human companions.  There are some lonely, sad, angry  and sick people out there, reaching out in the only way they know how to. They must not define who we are. But how we deal with them definitely defines not only who we are, but also how we choose to live.  In the same way that dressing up may be inspiring to others, your mature and healthy response to pettiness and meanness may inspire others to be kinder to themselves first, and then to others.  Thank you for modelling great character, as well as a fun and pulled together style. 🙂 

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  36. Sarah Hulbert Style says

    June 13, 2012 at 1:19 am

    What you said in your article is so in line with my blog philosophy. Today’s post only reinforces my ideals of loving myself, not because I am a size 2 or fit someone else’s ideal, but rather because I am ME. Thank you for preaching TRUE self-love. It’s only then we can really love others as well.

    You’ve got a major fan here, Allie. I will continue to be a faithful and admiring reader of your style. Your little girl will read this all one day and thank you for paving the way for women to love themselves. ~Sarah

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  37. Sarah Hulbert Style says

    June 12, 2012 at 9:19 pm

    What you said in your article is so in line with my blog philosophy. Today’s post only reinforces my ideals of loving myself, not because I am a size 2 or fit someone else’s ideal, but rather because I am ME. Thank you for preaching TRUE self-love. It’s only then we can really love others as well.

    You’ve got a major fan here, Allie. I will continue to be a faithful and admiring reader of your style. Your little girl will read this all one day and thank you for paving the way for women to love themselves. ~Sarah

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  38. Allie Fan says

    June 13, 2012 at 12:02 am

    Thank you, Allie, for this post specifically, and more generally for your blog. I don’t totally aspire to your style (though we do have some overlaps), but I do completely aspire to your attitude and your confidence. You’re awesome!

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  39. Allie Fan says

    June 12, 2012 at 8:02 pm

    Thank you, Allie, for this post specifically, and more generally for your blog. I don’t totally aspire to your style (though we do have some overlaps), but I do completely aspire to your attitude and your confidence. You’re awesome!

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  40. Jesbillings says

    June 12, 2012 at 10:44 pm

    I enjoy your blog and always enjoy seeing what you’re wearing (although my style and yours are miles apart) I can’t imagine what motivates people who make such awful comments on blogs. I’ve read blogs that made me want to throw up — the solution, click click they’re gone. I don’t have to or want to engage with the writers. I love your attitude. You go.

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  41. Jesbillings says

    June 12, 2012 at 6:44 pm

    I enjoy your blog and always enjoy seeing what you’re wearing (although my style and yours are miles apart) I can’t imagine what motivates people who make such awful comments on blogs. I’ve read blogs that made me want to throw up — the solution, click click they’re gone. I don’t have to or want to engage with the writers. I love your attitude. You go.

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  42. Frenchie says

    June 12, 2012 at 10:01 pm

    Dressing well is a reflection of how we feel about ourselves.  I take a few minutes each evening to pick out my outfit for the next day–even the accessories.  As a teacher, I dress well to distinguish myself from my adolescent students.  If I had a nickel for every time a colleague commented on how “dressed up” I was that day… but I know that the principal notices because I’ve heard her talk about dressing for the job.  Dressing well makes me feel more confident. 

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  43. Frenchie says

    June 12, 2012 at 6:01 pm

    Dressing well is a reflection of how we feel about ourselves.  I take a few minutes each evening to pick out my outfit for the next day–even the accessories.  As a teacher, I dress well to distinguish myself from my adolescent students.  If I had a nickel for every time a colleague commented on how “dressed up” I was that day… but I know that the principal notices because I’ve heard her talk about dressing for the job.  Dressing well makes me feel more confident. 

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  44. Stacy says

    June 12, 2012 at 9:39 pm

    This was a wonderful blog post, and I totally agree!  I don’t understand the people who spew hatred for others and leave mean comments, either.  I also think we all need to love ourselves a bit more and stop with the self-hatred.  I always feel better about myself when I make some effort, too.  Somedays that is harder than others, but I can at least try.

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  45. Stacy says

    June 12, 2012 at 5:39 pm

    This was a wonderful blog post, and I totally agree!  I don’t understand the people who spew hatred for others and leave mean comments, either.  I also think we all need to love ourselves a bit more and stop with the self-hatred.  I always feel better about myself when I make some effort, too.  Somedays that is harder than others, but I can at least try.

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  46. sarahrr123 says

    June 12, 2012 at 9:22 pm

    I agree that dressing well inspires others.  I went out for Mothers Day with my mom and sister last month, and both my sister and I showed up in dresses, heels, and make up done.  My mom arrives in jeans and a tee shirt.  Later that day, she said she felt so bad for not using the opportunity to dress up to have lunch with her girls; it wasn’t intended to make her feel bad at all, but she texted me the next weekend to say she bought a new dress, and wanted to have lunch again!  People, we need to build each other up, love each other, high five each other!  It may be your mom that you inspire, or your neighbor, or even one of your kids friends.  Plus, I never get dressed up and think later; well, that was dumb; I should wore sweats. 

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  47. Sarah7500 says

    June 12, 2012 at 5:22 pm

    I agree that dressing well inspires others.  I went out for Mothers Day with my mom and sister last month, and both my sister and I showed up in dresses, heels, and make up done.  My mom arrives in jeans and a tee shirt.  Later that day, she said she felt so bad for not using the opportunity to dress up to have lunch with her girls; it wasn’t intended to make her feel bad at all, but she texted me the next weekend to say she bought a new dress, and wanted to have lunch again!  People, we need to build each other up, love each other, high five each other!  It may be your mom that you inspire, or your neighbor, or even one of your kids friends.  Plus, I never get dressed up and think later; well, that was dumb; I should wore sweats. 

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  48. Une femme says

    June 12, 2012 at 8:49 pm

    Yes! Self-love and self-respect are healthy and bring more positive energy into the world. 

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  49. Une femme says

    June 12, 2012 at 4:49 pm

    Yes! Self-love and self-respect are healthy and bring more positive energy into the world. 

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  50. amhartman520 says

    June 12, 2012 at 8:39 pm

    Allie,
    I have been reading your blog since 2006. I love it! I love clothes and shoes, but more importantly, I love people who have a good heart. It’s weird to tell someone you don’t know that you think they are a good person, but I guess in reading your blog, I feel like I know you. When I saw that others had made negative comments, it made me sad. I teach middle and high school English and not to get all “Tina Fey” circa Mean Girls but there’s a lot of girl on girl crime going on in the world. I wish women would realize we need to support one another instead of bringing one another down. You seem strong and able to be unphased by negativity. I only hope that whoever those people were don’t attack others who aren’t so strong. Keep doin’ what you do girl! I love it!! 🙂

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  51. amhartman520 says

    June 12, 2012 at 4:39 pm

    Allie,
    I have been reading your blog since 2006. I love it! I love clothes and shoes, but more importantly, I love people who have a good heart. It’s weird to tell someone you don’t know that you think they are a good person, but I guess in reading your blog, I feel like I know you. When I saw that others had made negative comments, it made me sad. I teach middle and high school English and not to get all “Tina Fey” circa Mean Girls but there’s a lot of girl on girl crime going on in the world. I wish women would realize we need to support one another instead of bringing one another down. You seem strong and able to be unphased by negativity. I only hope that whoever those people were don’t attack others who aren’t so strong. Keep doin’ what you do girl! I love it!! 🙂

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  52. Barb says

    June 12, 2012 at 8:23 pm

    I feel sorry for those who feel unable, or unworthy of loving themselves. If you can’t love yourself, how can you ever expect anybody else to love you?  Love your blog, Allie.  

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  53. Barb says

    June 12, 2012 at 4:23 pm

    I feel sorry for those who feel unable, or unworthy of loving themselves. If you can’t love yourself, how can you ever expect anybody else to love you?  Love your blog, Allie.  

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Night and day…

Met three dear friends for an early dinner that went on until after the sun set. Great food and conversation with some great women!

The dress is @adamlippes and I borrowed it from @renttherunway. The bag is @jcrew and a splurge but I regretted not buying it the last time they offered this bag and this color is SO me. I mean, look how great it is with these many years old suede heeled sandals? Meant to be!

This color combination makes me so happy, and this dress was comfy even after a decadent meal. We all deserve to experience comfort and joy with our wardrobes! 💛🩷

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If @thechicks are in town you can bet @debbiefaye78 and I will be there! So when we heard they were coming to @merriweatherpp we were so excited. And their concert did not disappoint. As always, a phenomenal show! If The Chicks come to your neck of the woods I highly recommend you go!

Okay I know you want to know about what we’re wearing! 

My sister’s caftan is from @anthropologie (bought this summer so maybe you can find on resale sites).

I’m wearing a @bananarepublic dress also from this summer with the @universalstandard denim chore jacket and a hat I got from a @madewell collab a year or so ago. I glammed it up with some gold chains and gold drop earrings, but kept it comfy for a night of standing and dancing with @birkenstock sandals.

This was my first big outing since my eye surgery, and with a pocketful of eye drops I felt good (and grateful we splurged for good seats!).

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If I close my eyes you can’t tell one is still bloodshot 😜

Still recovering from my eye surgery but feeling more myself. Getting dolled up helps me feel me. Bright colors and bold jewelry have been signature Alison since I was a kid! 

Sweater: @favorite.daughter 
Earrings: Amazon
Necklace: @_jennybird (old)
Ring: @realmfinejewelry 
Bra: @lovebravissimo 
Lipstick: @glossier 
Pins as “cufflinks”: vintage

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Happy gotcha day, Oscar! Four years ago he came into our life and we are so happy to have in our family!

Oscar was a rescue and came with some… quirks. Over the years we have come to understand him and he has come to trust us. He’s a diva, a snuggler, he could play catch for hours, and he’s my husband’s shadow. 

We’ve never had a small breed dog before and it’s a whole different experience. But we adore Oscar and couldn’t imagine our life without him! Thank you for coming into our life Oskie McGoskie! 🐾❤️

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I can see clearly now…

Actually I can’t, but things after my retina surgery are much improved! My next appointment is in a month and I’m cleared to get back into the world (with some restrictions to protect my eye).

With a sclera buckle, it changes your eye shape and now I am nearsighted again (I had lasik a few years ago). Once the eye is stabilized I can get glasses or contacts but until then I’m 20/20 in one eye and right now 20/60 in the other. But the eye is healing beautifully and I feel positive!

And I could see clearly enough to fall for this poppy-colored cotton jumpsuit from @pistoladenim. It comes in a few colors but this one is my favorite. I went with XL (im@a 14, sometimes 16) and likely could have sized down but I enjoy the relaxed fit and the drawstring waistband to create shape. And hello zipper closure making it super easy to get on and off!

My husband took this photo right after my eye appointment, I think it reflects my positive attitude and feeling of hope! 🧡

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I’ll be a bit quiet on here and other channels because I had eye (retinal) surgery this past weekend. I was having what I thought were ocular migraines but come to find out I was experiencing lattice degeneration, which is thinning/holes in the retina. I had surgery Saturday for my right eye and later on they’ll work on the left eye, which isn’t as bad and can be remedied by laser, in office.

I share not because I’m Mrs. Frizzle meets Iris Apfel as I recuperate at home, but because this whole thing has been a lesson on trusting my gut. And I want to remind you to do the same.

As we get older our bodies can feel like strangers. Things are constantly changing and it’s easy to just assume your annual physical will catch anything wrong. But if you slow down and listen to your body you’ll know when things are just a sign of aging and life and what seems unusual. That nagging issue may be something more serious.

And if you’re seeing flashing lights, floaters, spiderwebs or other odd eye things get checked out ASAP. It may be nothing but take it from me, it may actually be something. ❤️

Okay, going back to my big sunglasses caftan recuperation life!

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Ladies who lunch…

While in Savannah, I made sure to get lunch reservations for me and E at @theoldepinkhouse she loves the color pink, historic homes, and ghost stories so it was a perfect choice! 

Built in 1789 on Reynolds Square, there are stories of guests seeing ghosts, cutlery and wine bottles moving along with an elegant and truly delicious dining. 

While we didn’t see any apparitions, we did have a lovely lunch with impeccable service and after toured all floors of the home. I highly recommend a visit if you’re visiting Savannah!

My dress is from @cosstores (no longer available); hat is @furtalk and bag is @talbotsofficial (no longer available).

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Scenes from a week in Savannah… 

The three of us (and our dog Oscar!) had a warm and humid but wonderful time exploring Savannah, Georgia earlier this month. Our daughter visited this gorgeous city last summer with her @girlscouts troop but wanted to return to experience more. We let her choose our adventures and play your guide and it was awesome. We cannot wait to visit again, though next time it won’t be August 🥵

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Stripes are always right…

Y’all know I love stripes and when @universalstandard came out with their Breton-stripe dresses and tops I HAD to try them! As expected, the quality is stellar, the fit boosts my confidence, and I appreciate the range of colors (5 different stripes to choose from) and sizes (00-50). For reference, I’m wearing XS but preferred S for the top and I usually wear a 14 or XL in other brands.

The tote is @able and it’s a soft yet durable leather that just looks better with time. This color (cognac) is one that transitions nicely from summer to fall. 

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The family that wears @printfresh together stays together 🥰

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I’ve been raving about my Printfresh pajamas for years, my family also wanted to try them. Thank you Printfresh for gifting these for our annual three generation girls’ getaway to Rehoboth Beach, DE. We had a great time and being all matchy matchy in our pajamas was a fun addition! 🐅🍃🥰

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