Last month Lizz Schumer from the New York Times gave me a call and we chatted about capsule wardrobes and business casual dress in the workplace (see below). At the end of our chat, she asked me what courtesy title I would like as the Times still uses prefixes (Mrs, Ms, Miss, Mr). A man isn't asked this question. Whether he is 16 or 96, married or single or widowed, he is Mr. I know the default is Ms. as it's considered the neutral equivalent of Mr. But I took my husband's name, and the only way I am in a place where the Times could be calling me at home is because of what he and I have built together so I said Mrs. Woah, I never thought that would be such an issue! So many people reached out to me about that decision. My feeling is that as a feminist I have the right to choose how to be portrayed by society, which means it's just as feminist to call myself a Mrs as a Ms. I'd prefer to not use any of these titles at all and be known as people not by our gender, age, and marital status. But if they must be used, I say use the one that feels right to you, there is no wrong answer. Changing topic, this was a very exciting moment in my life and a goal I have had as a blogger. I've been mentioned in a few publications but the Times has been my holy grail. Thank you Lizz for the opportunity!
We're in the season of sales, so I'll try to keep this section brief and to the point.
- Ann Taylor: 50% off current pieces and an additional 50% off sale. For both use promo code FALLCOLORS. This is the link to the new arrivals part of the promo; here's the link to their sale.
- Boden: Boden doesn't have sales but this weekend it's 15% off today and 10% off tomorrow with promo code P2F3; shop here
- Dermstore: Dermstore has 20% off Dermalogica, which I know many of you adore. Prices as marked.
- J. Crew: 40% off hats, sweaters, and other winter must-haves with promo code BRRR, click here to see what's part of the sale
- J.Jill: $50 off your order of $150 or more (plus free shipping on orders over $150) with promo code COOLDAYS; shop here
- Lands' End: 40% off full-price coats and jackets, 25% off the rest of the full-price offerings (and right now Lands' End is killing it with good style!) promo code GOLDEN, PIN 7456
- Soma: Get 15% off your entire purchase with promo code 96158 or 30% off your order of $150 or more with promo code 51039. Shop here.
- Talbots: their Friends & Family sale of 30% off is going through the weekend, promo code FRIENDS30. Shop here.
- Torrid: Torrid is great for bras, and they have a great sale this weekend. One bra 25% off, two for 30% off, three or more for 40% off. On top of this, bralettes are 2/$40 and panties are 5/$35. Shop the collection here.
One of the biggest questions I get and the most popular search term people use to find Wardrobe Oxygen is how to navigate a Business Casual dress code at the workplace. The New York Times asked me and a few other fab women to share our thoughts on the subject.
Another powerful piece, this time from Jenna Birch at Man Repeller.
Held hostage by healthcare: this piece resonated with me. Healthcare is the reason why I didn't quit my job sooner. When I looked for healthcare through the exchange, everything was ridiculously expensive (we're talking 2K/month just for catastrophic care) so we're on COBRA. But that runs out in May so I need to find a replacement. I'm glad that the ACA even exists, though it's not at all perfect. I know there are many in this country held hostage to toxic jobs or positions below their qualifications purely so they can have healthcare and so many who don't even have that luxury.
Karl introduced me to Parliament. We were in his boat of a station wagon that he painted tie-dye red, yellow, and blue. We were driving down Old 450 toward Annapolis; we were heading to the mall to order his tux for homecoming. The tape in the radio was Parliament, the windows were open, Karl was slamming the outside of the car through the open window to the beat and ever since there's been a place in my heart for George Clinton. So I gotta say, I thoroughly enjoyed this piece about Clinton by Brooke Bobb. The title makes you think it's all about sneakers but no, it's so much more delightful.
Who needs daytime soap operas when you can read about the drama between Mattel and MGA, the parents of Barbie and Bratz.
Have a love/hate relationship with your Instagram feed? You're not the only one; this piece by Sarah from Yes and Yes has some great ideas that may make you feel happier about it.
This Week's Reader Question
“Love your blog and appreciate that you include styles that come in a variety of sizes. I am 5’1”; I’ve been looking for slim comfortable pants that are not skin tight leggings (knit or ponte knit or I’m open to other options) to wear around the house for fall/winter, but still look presentable to run out for errands. I live in the Midwest where it’s cold and snowy which you can relate to. For a few years Talbots had knit pants they called yoga pants which were slim but not leggings and looked great with short Chelsea boots or sneakers. They’ve changed the style of them and they’re not quite as flattering. I’m retired and love my jeans but many times when you’re doing things around the house you want something a little more comfortable and not as restricting as jeans, if that makes sense.”
I think this is something many women would love to have. So often it's either leggings or wide-leg knit pants. However, a nice straight leg pant is something that is easiest to wear, and easiest to transition to street wear (and even workwear depending on your office culture). Below is a gallery of pants I found that I felt may do the job; while all the options are petite, click on the images as most come in other lengths and sizes.
For Your Entertainment
Karl and I were watching an old episode of Jools Holland and Mirel Wagner was on it. Her voice was so hauntingly beautiful I had to share it with you. Not a fan of the video, if you'd prefer you can listen to her on Spotify.