Weekend Reads

I'm not writing about the coronavirus because people shouldn't be getting health advice from blogs. All I can say on it is that you don't need more plastic bottles of water to ward it off or survive it, and please please PLEASE wash your hands. Even if you're home all day, wash your hands. Your feet walk in your house, even if you take off your shoes you walk through that foyer. You touch your doorknob when you enter, and again when you leave. You bring in packages delivered in the mail, and you likely haven't washed your coat in the past 48 hours. Wash your damn hands. Leave your device, wash your hands, and come back.  I'll wait.

Love, Alison

Weekend Reads

What to do if your anxiety about coronavirus feels overwhelming. (Self)

I'm so honored to be part of the cabi campaign for Spring 2020.  They did a feature on me this week, you can read about it and see the short video at this link! (cabi blog)

Not a size 2?  Luxury fashion finally wants you. (New York Times)

Like Schitt's Creek?  Love David Rose and his fashion? This link is for you. (Lynn Fisher)

I'm often asked why I don't feature more sustainable fashion. Well, there is little selection in larger sizes, and to be honest, little of what I see in sustainable fashion is clothing I want to wear now let alone years from now.  I think the best thing for the environment is just to buy less so we produce less.  I went through a period following influencers who featured sustainable fashion to find out about new brands that may fit my personal style aesthetic but I was floored by how many of them just bought so much.  Sure, it was fair trade, ethically made, organic cotton, woman-owned businesses that gave back to charity and had great business practices, but it was still more clothing than I or any human being should own.  And I own a lot of clothing, it is not only my business but my passion.  But I am trying to buy less and offer suggestions on how you can achieve big style with a smaller closet. Anyway, thanks for reading my ramble, it made me more interested in this piece about sustainable fashion influencers. (Teen Vogue)

The unsung black musician that changed country music. (Narratively)

“My son is 20,” he said. “When he was born, I was working fast food for almost $6 an hour. Now he’s working fast food for a little over $7.” I get riled up about a lot of things regarding this country, but the two that upset me the most is our healthcare and our minimum wage.  

Who would think one of the best pairs of jeans I've bought in years is from… Athleta.  High waist but not weird high, faded but not a weird fade, petite and tall sizes up to 16, not tight, not loose, stretches but stays in shape.  These are more like “mom jeans” but they're the perfect jean to wear with Birkenstocks and a striped or graphic t-shirt, or a tank top tucked in with a scarf as a belt and a pair of sneakers. I got a 14 petite; I could have gone down to 12 but think the 14 is more relaxed/comfy.

A 71-year old woman with terminal lung cancer is documenting her battle on TikTok and has amassed a supportive community of over a million followers. (Insider)

I've been meaning to write about this for a while but felt it was TMI and I wasn't sure how to word it but eff it.  I bought this bidet attachment for my toilet back in January and it's amaaaaaazing. Whether you want to reduce the amount of toilet paper, feel cleaner, or deal with hemorrhoids from wiping, this is a great choice. You don't need to be a plumber to attach it; it connects to the fresh water supply heading into your tank so the water squirting on you hasn't touched any part of the toilet before touching your skin. I picked this one based on reviews, there may be better ones but I liked how it delivered fast, wasn't pricey, was easy to attach, and had so many positive reviews.  Happy to answer any questions and I'll likely share a more detailed review in the future.

Are you a fan of Last Call Neiman Marcus? If so, I have bad news for you. (Retail Dive)

Several of you have recommended I read, Why We Can't Sleep: Women's New Midlife Crisis by Ada Calhoun.  And I got it.  And I started reading it. But if you're prone to anxiety and are having a hard time with all that is going on right now, I don't think this is the best book to read to help with it.  It may get better but right now Kindle says I'm 32% through and it's just making me feel worse.  Not alone, but worse. Not a good read before bedtime. If you've read it, will it make me feel better in the long run?

I have been trying natural deodorants for a couple of years and keep trying looking for a great choice. I recently tried a new one from woman-owned Canadian brand Apothekari so I updated my natural deodorant review post with my thoughts! 

I try really hard to not stress shop.  It's something I did for most of my adult life.  But I have wanted a weighted blanket for over a year.  My husband has one and swears by it.  I use it sometimes for naps and I sleep so deeply with it but I don't like how it looks or feels.  And then I saw this one and I stress shopped and bought it at 11pm one night this week. A friend has it and says it's the best purchase she mader for herself in a year. It's not cheap, there are cheaper ones out there, but I figure a good night's sleep will do me and my family better than most purchases I've been tempted to make recently. I haven't gotten it lately, I'll be sure to let you know if it's worth it or a very painful reminder that stress shopping is bad.

Sale Alert

Soma has their Friends & Family sale going on through the 16th; get 25% off your entire purchase with promo code 70217.  I love Soma; just yesterday we were discussing their Cool Nights pajamas and they are a favorite.  They keep you warm but also cool if that makes sense.  As someone who goes to bed freezing and wakes up sweating and hot, they keep me regulated and are great year-round.  And if you're now working from home, this bra is my favorite for everyday; read my review at this post. For those with smaller busts, my friends rave about Soma's Enbliss collection for travel, working from home, lounging, and more. 

Through this weekend, eShakti has up to 40% off on their site with promo code SPLOFFER. With this you also get a free shipping and customization coupon! I'm delayed in sharing my latest eShakti purchase; you can see it on Instagram (it's this dress, I just went with size 16 and my height and chose sleeveless). I think this is a perfect dress for spring and summer weddings, a no-frou-frou option for a mother of the bride or groom, or even for bridesmaids.  It also comes in a mauvey/eggplant color.  This is similar with a fuller sleeve in black and in orange. You can see my past eShakti posts at this link. (links updated, sorry they were wonky earlier!)

For Your Entertainment

Sometimes I come across an artist that I know my 17-year-old self would have ADORED and the most recent one that has made me remember those angsty, confusing, and often overwhelming teenage years and how music helped me so much is Elliot Lee. Not to be confused with the footballer, Elliot Lee is a Brooklyn-based self-taught artist.  About her music, Lee states, “Each song is a representation of what was taking up the most space in my brain while I was writing the lyrics, and the writing process itself helps me to work through the issues instead of just quietly ruminating like I otherwise do.” Her latest release, “Pink” makes you realize that even with the advance of technology and changes in society, young adults feel the same way we did when we were their age.

13 Comments

  1. Sadie
    March 14, 2020 / 8:31 pm

    Re: sustainable fashion…I’m cusp sized (16 – 18) and 5’3″ and I have better luck with sustainable British brands. Thought Clothing is a regular source for me. Boden is getting sustainable/responsible. So is the British brand Seasalt Cornwall, which is a little twee for me personally, but does good extended sizing. They all have reasonable international shipping, which – is that sustainable? It’s so hard to say. I find that Thought’s ‘sustainable’ clothes need careful laundering – all that Tencel – but it’s so great to get away from polyester for work clothes!

  2. Michelle
    March 14, 2020 / 4:16 pm

    Loved the article on DeFord Bailey and this weekend’s video.

  3. Linda B
    March 14, 2020 / 12:19 pm

    Thanks for bringing up sustainability, again, Alison. I have appreciated that for a while now, you really have been emphasizing how to make creative use of pieces you already own, rewearing them in different ways; that sets a wonderful and very realistic example of a key practice that is truly sustainable and smart. The Teen Vogue piece was interesting to read.

    Personally, for various reasons (including my retirement half a year ago) I have really cut back on spending on new clothes unless I really need something (and most of that falls in the category of athletic wear, not fashion!) I have talked myself out of many sweet looking pieces, and have enjoyed the creativity of trying to make new ensembles out of combinations of old clothes. I cleared out my closet of things I won’t wear again, either because they don’t make me happy anymore, or I just don’t need “work wear”.

    One thing I am trying more and more to avoid is clothing made of polyester. I do have a few polyester pieces, such an H & M dress with a floral pattern that I adore–and have worn repeatedly for a few years now, and will continue to wear! But anything new made of 100% polyester is a no no in my mind. Interestingly, I was just invited to a Cabi party–first time ever. I have loved seeing your Cabi pieces, and I love that you are one of their key influencers this season! I’ll probably buy something–but I know I am going to have a bit of trouble wrapping my head around compromising my principles. Life is full of compromises. . . being rigid never works. . .right?

  4. Anne
    March 14, 2020 / 11:25 am

    Thank you! That was actually fun and relaxing to read.

  5. Fawn
    March 14, 2020 / 9:44 am

    Your opening statement is why I love your blog so much. In a time when every brand that I have given my email to is telling me how they are dealing with the virus, I appreciate this break and literal back to basics (recommenced jeans and great content!).

  6. Sherry Mack
    March 14, 2020 / 9:42 am

    Always appreciate your thoughts! Wondered about a post on upbeat but comfy stay at home during the virus wardrobe?

  7. Krista
    March 14, 2020 / 9:01 am

    The eShakti links are not working. Let us know how the weighted blanket works out. My husband swears I should get one for myself.

  8. Ruth
    March 14, 2020 / 8:26 am

    I bought some Sculptek jeans from Athleta last September. Initially they were awesome – wore them them 5 days in a row on a vacation and they didn’t sag or bag at the knee at all. Sadly they seem to be a little saggy for the last month or so. I have lost a few pounds but not that much to make a difference. I definitely want another pair, but am trying to figure out if I should buy a size down this time – my current pair is my actual size. If the next pair loses it’s “oomph” in just 6 months like this pair, I probably won’t buy them again, even though the fit is so comfortable, because they’re too expensive to not get a full year’s wear.

    • Ruth
      March 14, 2020 / 8:30 am

      Oops and I meant to tell you that the eShakti links keep coming up as Not Active?

    • March 14, 2020 / 10:02 am

      Oh that’s unfortunate! I’d size down, I think they are pretty generously sized. And the links are fixed!

  9. karen
    March 14, 2020 / 8:05 am

    and when you wash your dam* hands, use the soap and rub for 20 seconds. people, its not that hard….grrr…i’m a allowed to say something to co workers who seem to think a little water and quick rub , and then a squirt of hand sanitizer is ok

    anyway, thanks so much for the link on DeFord Bailey, i’m sorry to say i had never heard of him. but will educating myself now.

    • Judith
      March 14, 2020 / 8:18 am

      Excellent opening statement. Couldn’t agree more.

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