The Best Comfort Bra for Large Busts

I work from home; I technically could spend the whole day in my pajamas but that’s neither good for morale nor the chance to interact with the outside world. While I believe a properly fitting bra won’t be painful, even well-fitting bras feel great being taken off at the end of the day. I could work without wearing a bra, but at my age and size I’m hanging down my ribcage; my daughter's friends and the UPS person don’t need to be seeing that. So I’ve been looking for a comfort bra. Nothing with wires and restriction, but still lifts and separates enough that I don’t just look like a single mound of flesh.

So many of the bralettes and comfort bras on the market claim to work with my size, which is a 36 F or G, depending on the brand. As a blogger, I often receive offers to review these bras. A person from the brand will email me, promise that their XL or XXL or Jaymyee or Tilda style will work great. I’ll search tagged photos for them on Instagram, see a woman that looks about my size though 15-25 years younger look positively adorable in it. Yes, I would love to try your bralette, thank you so much. If it does work out, I will share on social and/or my blog and will notify you once I do.

And it comes. It’s so pretty, I put it on, and it is no longer pretty. My breasts are maybe a half-inch higher than they were unadorned. It’s kind of sexy, but it’s not at all practical. Just putting away the groceries will cause one breast to escape from the plunging neckline. It's so frustrating. I’ve been writing this blog for 14 years, I've written about bras more than a dozen times and each time I have women agreeing with me, relating to my experience, or telling even more upsetting stories about not being able to find comfortable bras in their size. No matter your size, shape, or activity level, your bust at 44 will not be the same as your bust at 24 or even 34. A 28-year-old darling smiling out a window while holding a cup of coffee doesn’t do squat in letting me know if it will work for my middle-aged boobs.

woman in a wireless bra and black knit pants with a gray cardigan

With the bra, I am wearing a Zella cardigan (old; this one is similar) and a pair of knit joggers from cabi (size Large). See the cardigan previously styled in this blog post.

I type this, age 44, size 36 G, while wearing a comfortable and supportive comfort bra. My boobs are lifted – not as much as with an underwire but enough that they are separate from my stomach. And they’re also separated from one another; two separate mounds separate from my belly. The style is simple, but not utilitarian.  More elegant than a sports bra, more cool than the white hulk of a thing your grandma wore.  Like, so cool that instead of going braless and embarrassing my daughter, I embarrass my daughter by going shirtless with a pair of joggers and a long belted or waterfall cardigan.

What is the Best Comfort Bra for Large Busts?

This is the Embraceable Full Coverage Wireless Unlined Bra from Soma. I didn’t expect to like it. I tried some of their other comfort bras that my real-life and influencer friends told me they swear by. They couldn’t keep up with my curves. But Soma suggested this one and I decided to give it a try. I am so glad I did.

In Soma bras, I am a 36 G and that's the size I got in this bra. I sometimes feel the band under the breasts but not tight like a bra, more like feeling the waistband of a pair of leggings. This band does fold if you sit all day and have a belly (but everything ending under the bust does when you have a belly), but doesn't ruin the style or cause irritation. No compression like with a sports bra. I purposely wore this bra two times prior to this shoot, and then the day of the shoot for two hours before these photos to show how it stretches and wears with time.

woman in a black wireless bra and black knit pants standing in front of a colorful bookcase

This bra has defined cups with a hint of stretch here and a bit of rigidity there where you want it plus some extra layering in just the right place so if you’re cold the whole room isn’t aware.  This bra comes in size 32-44, cups C-G.  So far, I find this to be the best comfort bra for large busts!

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I did receive this bra as a gift from Soma, but I wrote this because it impressed me enough to warrant a PSA to my fellow large-busted ladies. I was not paid for this post, though there are affiliate links in it. If you click on a link and make a purchase, I may receive a commission. For additional information about this subject, please read this post on how blogs make money.

40 Comments

  1. Kimberly Sheppard
    October 25, 2019 / 1:27 pm

    After reading this post I ordered 2 of these bras. I want to sincerely thank you for the time, and care you put into your posts, your descriptions, your willingness to share the good/bad. I received my bras today, and they are SO much more comfortable than any I have ever had…THANK YOU for addressing real needs for support and desire for comfort especially for those of us with larger chests. I am honestly so grateful to have found your blog…your honesty, and attention to detail have allowed me to shop with confidence, and provided options I didn’t know were available for my 12-14 size.

    • October 26, 2019 / 12:19 pm

      Oh this makes me so happy! I am thrilled to be a position to review these products and have a platform to share my honest feedback. It’s hard at our size to find trusted resources that really get it!

  2. Cathryn
    October 24, 2019 / 3:35 pm

    Thank you for recommending this bra! I just got mine today and it fits amazing. I think it might be better than many of my “regular” bras. It smooths my back and has a lovely shaping for the cups. I would definitely wear this out of the house (with Nippies nipple covers) for errands . I think it would be great for long plane flights where I avoid wearing underwire bras.
    I purchased 2 with the second half price. I would pay full price for this bra. I work from home so I expect to get a lot of wear out of it.
    Another win Alison!

    • October 26, 2019 / 12:20 pm

      Awesome, I am so glad it works for you Cathryn!!

  3. Trystan
    October 19, 2019 / 2:15 pm

    I don’t know if I want to spend that much on a bra to wear at home — but I *do* work from home a lot & I vacillate between the discomfort of going braless or wearing a bra! So I really appreciate your review because you nail all the reasons I’m looking for this kind of bra. I’ve bookmarked your link for a future purchase 🙂

  4. Jules
    October 18, 2019 / 5:19 pm

    Thank you so much for highlighting this bra!!… I received mine yesterday and it is by far the most comfortable bra I’ve put on in years…I was not holding my breath either as my history of ordering bras online has not been the best, but this one fit perfectly and as I said is so comfy…For reference, I’m 59 and a 40 DDD. ( My breast exploded in size during menopause )…But at least I won’t have to dread putting one on and am going back for another color…Thanks again!!

  5. Carla
    October 18, 2019 / 1:29 pm

    They only go up to 44 for us big gals and no wide shoulder straps? Boo! I’m 48F.

    • October 26, 2019 / 12:20 pm

      That is the negative of Soma. I have told them many times they should increase their band range!

  6. katelin
    October 15, 2019 / 12:54 am

    OMG Tilda or Jayme cracked me up. Great post. Sadly I just ordered a playtex 18 hour wireless bra for comfort. It does look pretty much like something my grandma wore! Oh well, when Soma has a sale I will get this bra.

    • October 18, 2019 / 10:18 am

      The bras are rarely seen so if it works, rock it! And I love seeing how brands try to create new names for their products!

  7. Briana
    October 14, 2019 / 9:50 pm

    I am still be using my Bravado nursing bras as my “stay at home day” go to’s. Our son is now 3 and I’m ready for an upgrade. Bought two of these today thanks to the BOGO offer. I love my cooling underwire that you also recommended. Thanks for the review!

  8. Louise Medina Thornburg
    October 14, 2019 / 5:45 pm

    Great post! I wish I’d met you long ago. Should you ever visit Western Colorado look me up.

  9. Nicole K
    October 14, 2019 / 4:25 pm

    OMG! The 28 year old looking out the window with a cup of coffee had me spit my tea out! LOL. That is exactly my feeling on Instagram when I see these “size inclusive” brands shown on pretty young women. Their girls may be large, but not feeling gravity like someone 40+ or in my case 60+. There’s a brand that continues to claim they are “disrupting the bra industry” (what is that? like Big Bra has been conspiring against us and they are exploding it all?). So I ordered and guess what? It was a bra. And no, it didn’t magically hold my girls in the right place despite their industry disruption. 😉

    Thanks for making my day!

    • October 14, 2019 / 4:29 pm

      I’ve tried that bra distruptor… twice. Nope. Their underwire fits but it does nothing for my shape and isn’t nearly as comfortable as my similar bras from Soma, Fantasie, and Marks & Spencer. And their bralette… oh it was indecent! LOLOLOL for days. Bodies change. I was a 34 D the summer after college but the bras I wore then would NEVER work now. It’s nothing to feel bad about, it’s human nature and we deserve products that respect these fabulous grown-ass bodies!

      • Nicole K
        October 14, 2019 / 7:12 pm

        RIGHT

        ON!

  10. Jax
    October 14, 2019 / 3:01 pm

    I’ve been dealing with the same issue. I only work at home occasionally, but when I get home from work and on weekends, I still want to transition to a wire-free or wireless bra. I’m 38D, so I, no doubt, have more options. I tried to use wireless yoga bras, as bralettes have always been a joke with my bra (only wear it — esp a lacy one — if you plan to have it taken off soon, if you get my drift), but they work like a bad, light bra on runners with huge busts.
    I did finally find this one Wacoal no-wire bra and it seems to work fine. One interesting thing, there is a wire-like (if it isn’t a wire) thing winding its way around the band, but it stops short of the breast area, haha. I still find it comfortable, but maybe some don’t: http://bit.ly/2oKC2PA
    On Nordstrom, it doesn’t seem to go any higher than 36DD, but I don’t know if other retailers have bigger cup sizes available. I do see a selection of 36G no-wire Wacoal bras on Macy’s site, but I haven’t validated each one.
    http://bit.ly/2nJwuEA

    Alison, I’ll have to check out your Soma bra recommendation!

  11. Leu2500
    October 14, 2019 / 2:55 pm

    All your other soma bra reviews have been spot on, so I’ll be trying bra style #4.

    • October 14, 2019 / 3:19 pm

      I hope you like this one as well!

  12. Lisa
    October 14, 2019 / 12:14 pm

    Thank you so much for this post! Soma is my go-to place, and I’m also a 36G with a home-office but now 52. I recently tried Soma’s Enbliss bralette (XXL) and it is fabulous, too. I preferred it for comfort; and though it has less structure, it has just enough to do the job.

    • October 14, 2019 / 3:20 pm

      The Enbliss is one that my friends rave about and I keep trying it and it just doesn’t work for me. But it seems to be awesome for so many people I know, I’m glad you like it! Have you tried the tank? I find it genius!

      • Lisa
        October 14, 2019 / 5:12 pm

        Ooooo, I haven’t tried the tank yet – thanks for the tip! Next time I’m at Soma (the closest is 40 minutes away from me, sadly, and I’m terrible with internet returns).

  13. Wendy
    October 14, 2019 / 11:59 am

    I think you wrote this post just for me. Thank you, Alison! I too work from home and have been looking for a comfort bra. I hate answering the door with peaking my head out and hiding my body because I am bra-less. This madness has to stop. Can’t wait to try this Soma bra!

  14. Sandi
    October 14, 2019 / 10:00 am

    I have this bra! I tried it after the big $15 online sale and love it. I had better luck with this bra than bralettes (I’m a 36DDD). I can wear it around the house, or I can wear it to run errands.

    • October 14, 2019 / 3:21 pm

      Yay! I am glad to hear you love it too!

  15. October 14, 2019 / 9:32 am

    I have to check this bra out. Ahh the quintessential cabi joggers. I live in them on the weekends. Thanks for sharing. Will se if they shop to Canada. Thanks Allison.

      • Jax
        October 14, 2019 / 8:14 pm

        Hi Alison, I know you’ve written a few times about Cabi. I was wondering, how you, also petite like me, deal with the longer inseams. I don’t see any petite or “short” sizing available at Cabi. I like the look of those joggers, but usually try to buy cropped or ankle leggings/lounge pants, if I don’t see anything in petite.

        • October 18, 2019 / 10:20 am

          I get most of my cabi pants hemmed from the tailor. The joggers haven’t been a problem for me since they have the banded bottom and look okay with a bit of fabric/bagginess at the ankle. Also they seem to run short, taller people complain they’re too short for them which may be why I love them!

  16. Barbara
    October 14, 2019 / 9:04 am

    I love soma comfort bras, and cabi joggers are the bomb! I’m about to order a second pair.

    • October 14, 2019 / 3:22 pm

      They’re so great… spoiler alert they’ll be in an upcoming outfit post!

  17. October 14, 2019 / 8:13 am

    Thanks…60 year plus ‘girls’ needed this post. I’ve worn a Soma minimizer bra for decades and will give this one a try! Gotta keep the LBD looking it’s best!
    https://littleblackdomicile.com

  18. Giuditta Reppi
    October 14, 2019 / 8:12 am

    You certainly are a prima influencer, as you’ve just persuaded me I MUST have this, and yes, and I’ll be ordering. I recommend your blog over and over again because if there’s anyone I can trust for any advice whether it’s fashion, beauty or lifestyle, it’s definitely Wardrobe Oxygen!

    • October 14, 2019 / 3:24 pm

      That means so much, thank you! I hope you love it as much as I do!

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