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Fashion Advice, Underpinnings and Sleepwear · June 9, 2023

Evelyn & Bobbie Bra Review for a large Over 40 Bustline

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Evelyn and Bobbie bra review by Wardrobe Oxygen

After this past year at home, I have been reluctant to return to all my old bras. I've been seeking more comfortable, flexible bras while still finding ones that provide support and shape. I've shared my favorite wireless bra for large busts, I've shared a review of Ruby Ribbon which is known for their wireless support but I really wanted something that would get me out of the house feeling comfortable as well as confident.

So many of you have recommended Evelyn & Bobbie, a woman-owned company that offers wire-free bust support and undies in a broad range of sizes (undies fit up to size 26, bras and tanks have a unique sizing system that can accommodate C-I cups and 30-48 bands). I decided to purchase a few pieces to do an unpaid, honest Evelyn & Bobbie bra review for Wardrobe Oxygen.

What is Evelyn & Bobbie?

Evelyn & Bobbie is a Portland, Oregon intimates brand founded by Bree McKeen. Before starting Evelyn & Bobbie, she was a Managing Partner at a boutique investment firm in Silicon Valley focused on emerging technologies in digital health. But prior to that, I found via this interview that McKeen grew up in a cabin in the woods with homesteader parents. I love knowing the history of inventors, and how they come to create their business!

As someone with a large bust, McKeen was frustrated by how uncomfortable bras were. She was working in Silicon Valley, a land of innovation, yet she was wearing a garment that had hardly been improved in a century. She decided to take matters into her own hands and create a better bra. She started by making prototypes in her dad's garage using whatever materials she could get her hands on.

Evelyn & Bobbie had a Kickstarter, and it seems another Kickstarter, then investors, and has grown from a single product with limited sizes to a brand of innovative intimates in a broad size range that is sold at major retailers and indie boutiques across the United States and Canada. However, it is still a small privately-owned startup that is still establishing itself.

In fact, when researching Evelyn & Bobbie I learned they started with just a strapless bra in a small size range. At one point they had no skintone colors; instead offering colors that blended with skin under white and light clothes. It seemed with every interview I learned something new about the brand and often it was something no longer being manufactured.

My research showed me Evelyn & Bobbie is a company that loves data. It scanned hundreds of women bodies before producing the first bra, and it takes feedback from customers (even sending out surveys from time to time) to constantly change and improve the brand. Those now-discontinued items show how Evelyn & Bobbie is about innovation.

Screenshot from the Evelyn & Bobbie website

Evelyn & Bobbie offers wire-free support bras and tanks as well as four styles of underwear and some accessories. Evelyn & Bobbie bras and tanks are available in sizes S-3X which, based on their size chart, fits bands 28-48 and cups C-I (size availability dependent on product style). Evelyn & Bobbie underwear comes in two sizes: one for sizes 0-14, and one for sizes 16-24. Evelyn & Bobbie products are available in a variety of colors, neutrals, and a True Complexion palette of five colors to match or blend with a variety of skintones.

Searching online, the only thing I found sharing where Evelyn & Bobbie products are made is this 2018 blog post from the brand sharing how McKeen personally visits the factories used, which were in China. I also checked Glassdoor for reviews working for Evelyn & Bobbie in the corporate office. There were only three reviews, one was negative but no real details, one sounded spiteful, and one was positive.

Evelyn & Bobbie Is for Large Busts; What About a Large Over-40 Bust?

I am a 46-year-old woman who usually buys her bras in sizes 36 F or 38 DDD. I wear size 14 in apparel, and I am 5'3″ tall. Being petite and having a tummy, I often find cropped tanks and bralettes roll up on me, and usually find items without adjustable straps to be too long for my torso/bust.

While we're talking about disappointments, bralettes regularly disappoint me. Brands will claim their products will work up to a D, an F, or even larger. And technically, they fit. But they cause my two breasts to fall together and look like one mound of flesh, they hardly lift them up off my torso, and if I move took quickly one will pop out of the neckline. A trip through my bra reviews on Wardrobe Oxygen and you'll see I've shared the good, the bad, and the comical.

My friend Sarah at Curvily regularly raves about Evelyn & Bobbie and I trust her judgment. While Sarah has a large bust, she is also almost a decade younger than I, a different height and shape, and has lived a different life. And when it comes to bras (and swimsuits), age and lifestyle are as important of factors as size and shape. I had to try the brand out for myself and if it would also be great for a short over-40 breastfed for over two years weight fluctuation my whole life used to weightlift but stopped since the pandemic bust.

Evelyn & Bobbie Bra Review

Evelyn & Bobbie review by Wardrobe Oxygen
The three items I ordered from Evelyn & Bobbie.

Looking at the size charts for the brand, I still wasn't sure which size would be best for me. I vary between a 36 F/G and a 38 DDD which put me in XL or 2XL. I decided to order both so I could give the fairest review of fit. This was also a way to see more of the colors in real life. For this Evelyn & Bobbie review I ordered:

  • The Evelyn & Bobbie Defy Bra: I ordered Black Onyx in XL and Sand in 2XL
  • The Evelyn & Bobbie Beyond Bra: I ordered Clay in XL and Mica in 2XL
  • The Evelyn and Bobbie Smoothing Bra Cami: I ordered Lagoon in XL

I didn't place an order for underwear… because I had no idea what to purchase. I am a size 14, which is the top of the size range for one of the two underwear sizes. I've tried one size fits all/most and my belly and booty are too bodacious for such foolery. But I worried the next size would be too large. I look forward to hearing from those of you who have tried Evelyn & Bobbie underwear and are cusp-sized to let me know if the two-size system truly works!

As with my last wireless bra review, photos are with my hair still wet, no makeup. Do know that because I deserve to control my narrative, some editing has been done to hide things such as “highlights.” However, the design of the bras, the way they support my body, as well as the shape of my body inside Evelyn & Bobbie products has not been altered in any way.

Evelyn and Bobbie Beyond Bra Review

Evelyn & Bobbie Beyond Bra review
Showing the inside of the Evelyn & Bobbie Beyond Bra, which has removable foam cups you can slip in and out from those little slits at the top of each cup. You can also see how multiple layers of fabric are bonded together in different places to offer structure, firmness, and support.

The Beyond Bra from Evelyn & Bobbie is more like a bra than the Defy in that it had a four-hook closure in back and adjustable straps. I really felt I'd like this bra the most since I am petite and usually need that ability to adjust straps. Since I wasn't sure my size, I ordered the XL in Clay, which is a brown tone, as well as 2XL in Mica, which is a dark tan (both are part of their True Complexion palette).

Evelyn & Bobbie Beyond bra review by Wardrobe Oxygen. She is wearing a brown wireless bra and looking at the camera

I started with the smaller size. I immediately realized the larger would be far too big and never tried it on. This one fit great to the point that once it warmed up I could hardly feel it except for the back where the hooks are. And as it warmed up it seemed to melt into my skin and look even more seamless.

Evelyn and Bobbie Beyond bra on Wardrobe Oxygen

The Evelyn & Bobbie Beyond Bra gave lift and separation, as you can see. And unlike a lot of wireless bras (for example see my Ruby Ribbon wireless bra review), this one did not roll up when I sat down.

Backview of the Evelyn & Bobbie Beyond Bra

Here is the backview of the Beyond Bra from Evelyn & Bobbie. I didn't end up messing with the straps because this bra isn't lifting from the straps, but from the front cup design and a bit of the band. That being said, I returned this bra.

The Beyond Bra left a bit of a dent at the top of my breasts which showed in knit tops. The cups were also visible through knit tops, and I didn't love the shape it gave my bust enough to justify the purchase when I already have two of these wireless bras in my intimates drawer. I also found that when removing the cups, the support was equal to the bras I had with the same amount of “headlights” visible, and I felt the cups looked too obvious under clothes.

But if you are looking for a super comfortable wireless bra for large busts, especially if you feel you may need to adjust straps and band to get the right size for your frame, this is a good option.

Evelyn and Bobbie Defy Bra Review

Showing the  inside of the Evelyn & Bobbie Defy Bra. Like the Beyond Bra, it has removable cups and little slits at the top of each cup to slip them in and out. I found it relatively easy to place them back in the right spot.
The inside of the Evelyn & Bobbie Defy Bra. Like the Beyond Bra, it has removable cups and little slits at the top of each cup to slip them in and out. I found it relatively easy to place them back in the right spot.

The Evelyn & Bobbie Defy Bra is the bra that the brand is best known for. It looks like a cropped tank or cami, but has the built-in support. It sells out fast; if your size or color isn't in stock hang in there (and sign up for their emails) to be notified when it is back in stock. I ordered this also in XL and 2XL and as soon as I put on the XL I knew the 2XL would be too big.

the Evelyn & Bobbie Defy Bra on Alison at Wardrobe Oxygen

For years I have wished I could fit into the Soma Enbliss bralette. I have friends who wear these alone with high-waisted pants, wear the tank as a normal tank, even wear them to the gym. If you too have wished you could wear something so easy, comfy, and versatile… the Defy Bra from Evelyn & Bobbie is the closest I have found.

the removable cups in an Evelyn & Bobbie Bra
This is what the removable foam cups inside the Evelyn & Bobbie bra look like.

While the cups were visible on the Beyond Bra, they weren't on the Defy Bra. I even removed the cups and put them back in to see if it was something I could do on my own after laundering. Yep, this was way easier than any sports bra or swimsuit I owned with a similar setup. Without the cups the bra offered about the same support as other wireless bralettes I had tried but with the cups… yesssss.

showing the lift I got from the Evelyn & Bobbie Defy Bra

The difference between the two in regard to lift and shape is very subtle, but the Evelyn & Bobbie Defy bra gave me more the shape I desired. Instead of pushing the breasts forward, there is lift, and cradling, and the bust looks both more natural and the lift lasted longer through sitting and stretching and moving around.

The back of the Evelyn & Bobbie Defy Bra

I didn't get any clear photos of the backview of the XL Defy bra; here is the 2XL on me so you can see what it looks like. There is bonding of fabric to create an X in back for support, and bonding along the straps, the band, etc. but as you see, most of it is invisible from the outside. You could truly wear this as a piece of streetwear without looking like you're out on the town in your bra.

Alison in the Evelyn & Bobbie Defy Bra, review on Wardrobe Oxygen

I kept this bra. I like the coverage; it's enough I can wear it with a cardigan and lounge pants at home but it's also smooth enough I can wear under a tank and it's not visible. I wore it recently under this tank from Chico's and loved how seamless it was. I wore the combination to an outdoor movie, where I would be walking to and from the movie, would be carrying a picnic tote, would be sitting on the ground, and it would be hot and humid.

the Evelyn & Bobbie Defy Bra in 2XL and XL on Wardrobe Oxygen
For reference, on the left is the Defy Bra in 2XL; on the right in XL. Both felt the same but the one on the left (the larger) the cups are more visible, there is wrinkling of fabric in certain places, and the lift isn't quite as pronounced.

I never felt the bra, and it never peeked out from the tank. My bust wasn't as high as with a traditional molded cup wired bra, but it was as good as a lot of $60-$80 department store bras and far more comfortable. When I got home the band did move up a bit, but didn't roll under my boobs like most garments would. But in general, it was great and I've worn the bra several times since.

I washed the Evelyn & Bobbie Defy Bra on the gentle cycle in a lingerie bag and line dried. I removed the cups for laundering; I didn't wash the cups but they look to be the same fabrication as other cups for bras and swimwear.

Evelyn and Bobbie Smoothing Bra Cami Review

The inside of the Evelyn & Bobbie Smoothing Bra Cami. Notice the differently bonded fabric for the bra area and the seamless hem at the bottom.
The inside of the Evelyn & Bobbie Smoothing Bra Cami. Notice the differently bonded fabric for the bra area and the seamless hem at the bottom.

I think those of us with large busts have dreamed of being able to just throw on a tank that has built-in support. Shelf bras are a joke, and most support bras for large busts require you to be a yogi to get in them (hello underwires and an elastic strap for the shelf bra and an internal band with hooks that somehow you are to get all four hooks while you're battling the actual tank top pressing your hands to your back and likely it's hot out and you're sweaty…). So yeah, the Evelyn & Bobbie Smoothing Bra Cami looked hella appealing.

Evelyn & Bobbie Defy Tank review

The Evelyn & Bobbie cami is seamless, fitted but not compressive, and has a style that yes, could be worn as streetwear. It is just as comfortable and supportive as the Defy Bra, but with a long torso that will tuck into clothes and I think the fabric and the hem would help it stay in place and not roll up.

back view of the Evelyn & Bobbie Smoothing Bra Cami

It has a v-back that is smooth and seamless. I could see this being worn with a full skirt or paperbag wide-leg pants, or be a fantastic camisole under another piece.

Alison Gary from the over 40 style blog Wardrobe Oxygen in the Evelyn & Bobbie Smoothing Bra Cami

I found the cami to be a bit looser in the bust than the bra of the same size, and as you see, my smaller breast didn't fill the cup and I had some wrinkling. I also don't have a place in my life for such a tank. If the torso was a bit looser, I'd maybe wear this with a skirt and sandals this summer, but I am not comfortable wearing such a fitted piece, especially in a fabric like this which catches the light.

If I were thinner, I'd likely reorder the cami in black. If I had a wardrobe where I regularly desire a seamless camisole under certain garments, I'd reorder this in the color best for my style. I appreciate having such a tank exist, but it wasn't right for my life so I returned it.

My Thoughts on Evelyn & Bobbie

I am highly impressed! For those who read my Ruby Ribbon bra review, I prefer this fabric. The Ruby Ribbon bras have silicone to keep the bands down, the fabric is more compressive and reminds me of that heavy, stretchy yet sturdy fabric used in a lot of shapewear. This feels more like a microfiber tank, very similar to bralettes I have tried from True&Co, ThirdLove, etc. but a bit more of a crepe finish.

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What I loved is how easy these were to get on and off. We with large busts have had to become contortionists to get into bras and tanks, while this is as easy as slipping on a fitted camisole. Even when sweaty and covered with bug spray at the end of a humid evening, I was able to pull this off easily and even tested… yes I could get it back on my sticky self.

I appreciated how it was truly seamless in all ways. The band didn't roll up, the straps didn't dig into my shoulders, the back didn't cause my body to look lumpy. Even under a fitted tank it looked smooth while offering support.

And unlike some other bralette brands that claim to support large busts but really only fit the bust without offering it any proper support, shape, or even reliable coverage, Evelyn & Bobbie truly does. I felt supported, I had a natural shape, I never felt like I was going to fall out, and even as my body warmed and moved I didn't lose that support or shape.

I appreciate Evelyn & Bobbie's desire for constant innovation, the brand's color range for skintones, and the size range. Evelyn & Bobbie isn't trying to offer something for everyone, but the right thing for a niche audience, the C+ bra cup community that often also is a larger clothing size. I think it is very smart of them, I hope they stick with this community, and continue to look for innovative ways to serve it.

Shipping and Return Policies for Evelyn & Bobbie

I placed my order after business hours on May 14th, knowing both Defy bras were out of stock until the 18th of the month. My entire order arrived May 21st. The order came in a durable navy shipping bag branded for Evelyn & Bobbie. Each item was in its own cello bag and had paper when necessary to preserve shape.

Evelyn & Bobbie uses Shopify for orders, which likely you are familiar with after a year of shopping mostly online. Shipping is free on orders of $75+ from Evelyn & Bobbie, and $7.95 for any orders under $75. The brand offers rates for faster shipping and international orders.

Returns are permitted within 30 days of receipt of order. I found placing a return extremely easy through the brand's website which uses Return Rabbit. The setup is very similar to Happy Returns/Narvar if you've used those before for online returns. I received notice my return was received and got my refund in less than a week from mailing the bras back. Do note, international and US territory orders are final sale and cannot be returned.

Where Can I Buy Evelyn & Bobbie?

The Evelyn & Bobbie website has the greatest selection, reviews, colors, etc. on their website. However, if you are more comfortable shopping at an online retailer familiar to you, Evelyn & Bobbie is also available at Macy's, QVC, and Breakout Bras.

If you are looking to try Evelyn & Bobbie in a store before purchasing, you are in luck. This link goes to the Evelyn & Bobbie site's store locator tool; their line is sold at independent boutiques across the US and Canada. At the time of writing this, the tool was acting a bit wonky but it did show a lingerie boutique not terribly far from where I live that carries the brand.

Evelyn & Bobbie bra review by Wardrobe Oxygen

Disclosure

Evelyn & Bobbie does not have a public affiliate program I can apply to. This means I am not making any money from this post, unless you choose to shop Evelyn & Bobbie from Macy's or QVC which I linked to above. Please know I am not associated with Evelyn & Bobbie; if you wish to contact the brand please visit their website directly.

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Comments

  1. Andrea says

    August 27, 2023 at 9:37 pm

    Hi! Thanks for your detailed write up. I keep seeing evelyn and bobbie ads and am considering purchasing one. I’ve been burned before with some of the other new wireless brands that have popped up in the last few years – they fit beautifully for the few weeks of wear and then stretch out and no longer lift up my breasts. May I ask how your Defy bra held up? Is it still doing it’s job since you wrote this post? Thank you!

    Reply
    • Alison Gary says

      August 28, 2023 at 9:19 am

      I’m still rocking it! It has stretched a bit and faded a bit but still work well. So well, I bought two more!

      Reply
      • Andrea says

        August 28, 2023 at 9:48 pm

        That’s great to hear! Thanks for answering!

        Reply
  2. Mary Jane says

    July 24, 2023 at 12:03 pm

    Hello! I just found your website after googling “EVELYN & BOBBIE DEFY BRA REVIEWS”. Thank you for such an honest and thorough review. It is also a terrific introduction to your website. I am in my early 70’s. I am 5ft 4 in, active and in good shape as I walk every day and do ballet twice a week. However, my boobs apparently took on a life of their own and grew after menopause! And I even had 2 children that I had nursed with minimal difference for years. Oh well. With age, I accept a lot of things. Bras are another story, though, and I have had a terrible time finding anything remotely comfortable, particularly on the shoulders. So basically, I wear sports bras. I am a 38DDD. I am going to order the DEFY bra. According to their size chart, I should be ordering a LARGE. I do worry about uniboob and spillage. But I also worry about stretching. I also worry about XL because I am close to 37 than 38 and not nearly 40. Any advice would be gratefully appreciated!

    Reply
    • Alison Gary says

      July 24, 2023 at 12:05 pm

      I would go with large, I think XL will be too big for you.

      Reply
      • Mary Jane says

        July 24, 2023 at 12:31 pm

        Thank you!!

        Reply
  3. Kathy Smith says

    November 27, 2022 at 7:43 pm

    Thank you for your review. I just ordered/received one each of the Defy bra, Beyond Bra and the Smoothing Cami. I am in the process of returning the Beyond Bra, which didn’t fit right and because the strap slipped off my (sloping) shoulder. I’ve had a right side mastectomy years ago and I haven’t worn an underwire bra since. I wear a lightweight prosthesis, so many of my bras are made for people who’ve undergone surgery. Like many other women, I tear off my uncomfortable bra at the end of the day. Back to E&B bras:
    I ordered all three in size M (I’m a 36D), and have now worn the Defy and the Cami a total of 3 days each, rotating between them each day. I’m very happy with the fit. However:
    THERE ARE NO DIRECTIONS on the website on HOW TO PUT ON THE BRA AND THE CAMI.
    I get claustrophobic when I have a bra stuck over my head and around my neck! I finally decided to put the Cami on from the ground up. It’s a little tight going over my hips but I can manage. I am still trying to find a good way to put on the Defy. I pull it on over my head and each of my arms, straps and all, then pull each strap up one at a time. There is no “pocket” for my prosthesis on either the Defy or the Cami, but it fits snugly against my skin and I am happy with both of these bras. Thank you, Evelyn and Bobbie for a comfortable fit.

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  4. Michele says

    October 15, 2022 at 8:52 pm

    This is the kind of reviews I like. Very truthful and pertinent information for me. Being over 50, having breast fed my kids and life in general, this was very relatable to me. Thank you!!!

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  5. gary says

    May 15, 2022 at 10:24 am

    This lady has some nice tits

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  6. Suzanne says

    September 11, 2021 at 1:01 pm

    This was a beautifully honest and helpful review. Now following you on Insta. Thanks for the body positive shopping experience!

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  7. Meagan says

    July 2, 2021 at 8:04 pm

    The code doesn’t seem to be working for me?

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    • Mx. says

      July 3, 2021 at 9:24 am

      The code is not working for me, either, so-I did not order.

      Reply
      • Lisa says

        July 3, 2021 at 7:54 pm

        Same

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    • Alison says

      July 3, 2021 at 8:35 pm

      I have reached out to the brand via email and DM on Instagram and will update once I hear from them. So sorry about this!

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  8. Karin says

    July 1, 2021 at 10:12 pm

    Thanks for this incredibly thorough review. As the same size as you but 10+ years older, I have never even considered a wireless bra, but after reading this (while sitting on the couch with my underwire digging into my ribs) I actually ordered one. (Just realized I forgot to use the discount code darn it!) Fingers crossed.

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  9. upstatebq says

    July 1, 2021 at 10:15 am

    Hi. Thanks for yet another stellar review….your approach always really helps me think about what might work for me. What is your opinion of front-close bras? Not the ones with zippers, but the ones with the nice, low, clasp-thing? Once I discovered them, I never went back to the bra h*ck of trying to put on any other kind. Soma discontinued its great one, but I love Glamorise …. pretty colors, easy to wear. I am officially an OLD, so that might influence my view!

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    • Alison Gary says

      July 1, 2021 at 10:23 am

      Thank you! I have a Glamorise front-close racerback and I like it, but it’s the only front-close I’ve found that I do like on my shape. I find often the support changes and causes my breasts to be angled differently. I also like molded cups, which are rarely front-close. But yeah, it’s a genius idea and I wish more retailers would do it. It’s also more adaptive!

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  10. Barbara says

    June 30, 2021 at 5:23 pm

    Longtime fan of Evelyn and Bobbie. Bought the original bra but couldn’t figure out the sizing. Customer service was a dream (they called me to chat about how to get the size right!) Super-busty, narrow ribbbed me (36-G) never thought a wireless anything would work yet The Defy tank is my go-to for flights (now that we’re doing that again!) with a loose sweater or popover on top. I also bought two sizes and kept the too large one to sleep in with E&B boy shorts. The Defy bra does tend to give a bit, or maybe I need a smaller size.

    For what it’s worth: I’m a 14 (or 12 or 16 depending on the day and the brand) on the bottom and I can tell you my midrise hipster in 0-14 feels like … nothing. They are so comfy that I redid my underwear drawer with these and they stand up to multiple trips through the washer and dryer. I have a pair of high-rise retro bikinis in 16-24 and they’re much too big.

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    • Alison Gary says

      July 1, 2021 at 10:24 am

      Thank you so much for sharing your feedback on this brand!

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      • Jamie says

        July 20, 2021 at 6:55 pm

        I had a v1 version of the hipster underwear – when I bought the v1 bra actually. I was size 16 then, and I think the underwear was labeled 0-16. It was comfy but the underwear totally failed after a few months of occasional wear. 🙁

        Now I am more 18, so I got the bike short and I think it is the retro bikini. Don’t love them, they need more compression, they are a bit loose in the waist, or they don’t stay in place one me. I think these work better if you you are smaller. I can’t wear these with a dress without being annoyed that is slipping gown, I also feel this way about Sofia Vergaras underwear brand.

        But. I do have the Defy bra and it is great! I am a bi bustier than you – 34H/36GG UK. XL also fits me. Now that I have had mine a year and wear them all they time, I feel like they have stretched out a bit and are a bit less supportive.

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        • Alison Gary says

          July 20, 2021 at 7:05 pm

          Thanks for this feedback!

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  11. Nicole Kowalski says

    June 30, 2021 at 3:41 pm

    Thanks for your usual forensic level detail on these reviews. I’m almost tempted to try, but I’ve got 15 years, two kids and years of running on you. Is it comfy enough to sleep in?

    I’m a minimizer bra devotee for the most part.

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    • Alison Gary says

      June 30, 2021 at 3:42 pm

      It’s as comfy as sleeping in a synthetic tank. I find the fit super comfy; when I wore it out I lay down on a blanket to watch a movie and that was far more comfy than a normal bra.

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  12. Missy G says

    June 30, 2021 at 11:00 am

    Such a great review! My local independent bra boutique introduced me to this brand in 2020 when I got pregnant and my already-large breasts got even bigger. I was also adjusting to full-time work at home during the pandemic, and refused to wear underwire at home. I needed comfort, and the Defy tank was perfect for me. I had a Large in a lovely lavender color, and I was able to wear it throughout my pregnancy even as my belly grew. Unfortunately, my boobs grew too much for the Large to contain them, and I purchased an XL in the Defy bra which fit the boobs but was too big for my ribcage especially when it would stretch out a bit. I kept it anyway and wore it with the pads for additional support.

    Now, for the underwear. My Soma shorties need to be replaced, so I purchased the Longline Girlshort, hoping to be able to wear them under dresses to eliminate the VPL. I hated them so much. Pre-pregnancy, I was a size 6-8, so I ordered the size that claimed to fit 0-14. I don’t remember how the fit around the waist was, but the fit at the thigh was so tight, it was visibly noticeable. Even with a dress, you could see the pressure around my thighs where the shorts hit. There are a lot of high reviews for the Longline Girlshorts, so I don’t know why it didn’t work for me, but I definitely do not recommend getting those undies.

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  13. E says

    June 30, 2021 at 9:31 am

    I wear the E&B Defy bra and I remove the padding — it never lies flat and I don’t find the pads do much of anything. I do think E&B made a slight design mistake in cutting the inner layer at the top (to make the pads removable) — that takes away from the inner structure just a tad.

    I was lucky enough to recently try all three items you did, at a local bra-fitting boutique. I discovered I wear an M in the Defy (I was previously wearing L, based on the size chart), an L in the Beyond (with the hooks and adjustable straps), and an L in the tank (which I did not purchase). The bra fitter really tightened and adjusted the Beyond’s straps, more than I ever would have, and it made a big difference in fit.

    I still like the Defy bra the best! I wear M when I’m leaving the house, and L when I’m lounging around.

    Also, although I had read you could, I never tried stepping into the Defy (rather than pulling it over the head). One day I had just put on deodorant and decided to give it a try. Worked perfectly!

    The Defy does stretch out with time. I’d say they last about a year, with careful treatment (no dryer).

    Thanks so much for profiling one of my favorite woman-owned companies!

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    • Alison Gary says

      June 30, 2021 at 9:47 am

      And thank you so much for your tips on this brand!

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  14. Krista says

    June 30, 2021 at 8:51 am

    Maybe there really are unicorns! I’ve never found a wireless
    Bra that worked for me. The Soma is close but after wearing a while my breasts sort of fall to the center and lose the separation. Did you find this to be a problem with this bra?

    As always, thanks for the real, honest review.

    Reply
    • Alison Gary says

      June 30, 2021 at 9:49 am

      The Soma ones don’t give me the best shape. Better than anything else I had tried, and still comfy when at home, but I only wear them out of the house with something loose like my Universal Standard linen shirtdress. It doesn’t go in enough between the breasts to fully separate; it’s the one issue I have with it and figured there was no better alternative that was easy and comfy. I have no time for wireless bras that are just as complicated as one with wires, LOL! This one kept more separation. I had two separate breasts in my outfit. I’ll try to get photos of me wearing this with clothes, at least to share on IG Stories.

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  15. Danielle says

    June 30, 2021 at 8:39 am

    I’m also a big fan of E&B Defy bra and personally I ditch the cups. I didn’t find they made much difference in support. However I did have trouble with the Defy tank and Beyond bra rolling – I am short waisted with midsection rolls and they just didn’t want to stay in place. For some reason the Defy bra doesn’t roll at all.

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    • Alison Gary says

      June 30, 2021 at 9:49 am

      Thank you so much for sharing your experience with this brand, it really helps!

      Reply
  16. Karen says

    June 30, 2021 at 7:00 am

    Thank you for this detailed and well documented review. I’ve been tempted by this brand, but I’m not a fan of the removable cups…in the beginning i never have issues with them, but some how after multiple washes they never lie right. And now I’m wondering if the cups are not meant to be washed, for bathing suits and bra’s with them, I’ve always washed them when I’ve washed their “home’ garment. Hmmm…

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    • Alison Gary says

      June 30, 2021 at 9:50 am

      I rarely wash my cups unless I got super sweaty and they got soaked. Then I always wash them separately in a lingerie bag.

      Reply
    • Jamie says

      July 20, 2021 at 6:57 pm

      I have had mine for a year and wash the cups. I use the machine and a lingerie bag and air dry – and I see no change in shape with the cups at all. They are exactly the same. I just need to readjust them when putting it on!

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My sister’s caftan is from @anthropologie (bought this summer so maybe you can find on resale sites).

I’m wearing a @bananarepublic dress also from this summer with the @universalstandard denim chore jacket and a hat I got from a @madewell collab a year or so ago. I glammed it up with some gold chains and gold drop earrings, but kept it comfy for a night of standing and dancing with @birkenstock sandals.

This was my first big outing since my eye surgery, and with a pocketful of eye drops I felt good (and grateful we splurged for good seats!).

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Oscar was a rescue and came with some… quirks. Over the years we have come to understand him and he has come to trust us. He’s a diva, a snuggler, he could play catch for hours, and he’s my husband’s shadow. 

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Actually I can’t, but things after my retina surgery are much improved! My next appointment is in a month and I’m cleared to get back into the world (with some restrictions to protect my eye).

With a sclera buckle, it changes your eye shape and now I am nearsighted again (I had lasik a few years ago). Once the eye is stabilized I can get glasses or contacts but until then I’m 20/20 in one eye and right now 20/60 in the other. But the eye is healing beautifully and I feel positive!

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I share not because I’m Mrs. Frizzle meets Iris Apfel as I recuperate at home, but because this whole thing has been a lesson on trusting my gut. And I want to remind you to do the same.

As we get older our bodies can feel like strangers. Things are constantly changing and it’s easy to just assume your annual physical will catch anything wrong. But if you slow down and listen to your body you’ll know when things are just a sign of aging and life and what seems unusual. That nagging issue may be something more serious.

And if you’re seeing flashing lights, floaters, spiderwebs or other odd eye things get checked out ASAP. It may be nothing but take it from me, it may actually be something. ❤️

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While in Savannah, I made sure to get lunch reservations for me and E at @theoldepinkhouse she loves the color pink, historic homes, and ghost stories so it was a perfect choice! 

Built in 1789 on Reynolds Square, there are stories of guests seeing ghosts, cutlery and wine bottles moving along with an elegant and truly delicious dining. 

While we didn’t see any apparitions, we did have a lovely lunch with impeccable service and after toured all floors of the home. I highly recommend a visit if you’re visiting Savannah!

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The three of us (and our dog Oscar!) had a warm and humid but wonderful time exploring Savannah, Georgia earlier this month. Our daughter visited this gorgeous city last summer with her @girlscouts troop but wanted to return to experience more. We let her choose our adventures and play your guide and it was awesome. We cannot wait to visit again, though next time it won’t be August 🥵

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